Is anybody in a GOOD marriage/tickle relationship?

[mabus]

I'm going off this thread here:

http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?t=200090

..and so many others..... I hear so much bad stuff about bad, horrible relationship....hell, I was IN one!

So here's the big question - Is anyone here actually in a HAPPY marriage/relationship?

Does anyone have a happy, wonderful, sexy tickling relationship, and it's just so easy?

(All relationships are work, and involves sacrifice on both parties part, but in a good relationship, the sacrifices usually pale in comparison to the rewards of the relationship:

"Yeah, I'll take out the garbage for my wife, and then I'll have someone cuddling next to me in the movie theater or the couch." Small sacrifice good better reward.

"Yeah, I'll do the dishes when she's sick and take care of the house work, and her, even though I have a job, and I won't grumble or complain at all." Then she gets better and walks in the bedroom in a sexy nighty, pantyhose, and a feather and asks you to tickle her all night in thanks - bigger sacrifice, much bigger reward!)

Or am I wrong, and there simply AREN'T any happy relationships on Earth, and life is simply a constant battle and heartache where one party just hopes to get the rare, lackluster, occasional sex while humanity eagerly awaits the day of legalized prostitution and we can finally be sexually satisfied and life will forever change?! (pant pant pant!)

 

[moonlitedrive5]

Absolutly not, it almost seems like that would be winning the tickle lottery, with the same odds as the real one.

 

[LordJroy]

Yes there are....

I've been married over 8 years and with in a relationship with my wife for over 13 and either I tie her up and tickle or she ties me up and tickles at least once a week.

I've never really understood the view that having a happy relationship is somehow impossible while satisfying your fetish at the same time. There are essentially 3 types of women when it comes to tickling:

1. Woman who have a tickling fetish and love it.
2. Woman who don't have a tickling fetish, but think it's cute that you do and are very open and willing to play.
3. Woman who hate being tickled and will never enjoy it.

In my opinion and experience number 1 comprises maybe 5% or less of the general population, number 2 is about 45% and number 3 is probably about 50%.

In other words every 1 out of 2 woman you meet would let you tie her up and tickle her for fun. Now don't misunderstand me, I'm not saying that you can just walk up to any woman and say "hey can I tickle torture you" any more than you can walk up to one and say "hey let's go fuck behind that dumpster over there". However, if you treat her with respect, build up trust and introduce her to tickling in a very sensuous and erotic way that makes her feel like engaging and indulging your fetish makes her oh so much sexier to you than I guarantee most woman will be open and even enjoy it.

Oh and by the way, my wife is from a foreign country and grew up in a culture and religion which has a very very conservative view of sex. The idea of bondage and tickling wasn't even something my wife was aware existed before we met and today it's become a regular and very enjoyable part of our sex life.

So, that's my long drawn out way of saying not only is it possible, it's very probably to have a healthy and happy relationship that involves tickling and fetish play.

 

[TropicThunder]

I'm quite happy in my relationship. It's not 'just so easy' but I'm really grateful for what I have with him.

 

[GQguy]

I've been married over 8 years and with in a relationship with my wife for over 13 and either I tie her up and tickle or she ties me up and tickles at least once a week.

I've never really understood the view that having a happy relationship is somehow impossible while satisfying your fetish at the same time. There are essentially 3 types of women when it comes to tickling:

1. Woman who have a tickling fetish and love it.
2. Woman who don't have a tickling fetish, but think it's cute that you do and are very open and willing to play.
3. Woman who hate being tickled and will never enjoy it.

In my opinion and experience number 1 comprises maybe 5% or less of the general population, number 2 is about 45% and number 3 is probably about 50%.

In other words every 1 out of 2 woman you meet would let you tie her up and tickle her for fun. Now don't misunderstand me, I'm not saying that you can just walk up to any woman and say "hey can I tickle torture you" any more than you can walk up to one and say "hey let's go fuck behind that dumpster over there". However, if you treat her with respect, build up trust and introduce her to tickling in a very sensuous and erotic way that makes her feel like engaging and indulging your fetish makes her oh so much sexier to you than I guarantee most woman will be open and even enjoy it.

Oh and by the way, my wife is from a foreign country and grew up in a culture and religion which has a very very conservative view of sex. The idea of bondage and tickling wasn't even something my wife was aware existed before we met and today it's become a regular and very enjoyable part of our sex life.

So, that's my long drawn out way of saying not only is it possible, it's very probably to have a healthy and happy relationship that involves tickling and fetish play.

Interesting take.

My numbers vary quite a bit. I've never dated a woman that liked to be tickled. *Correction...there was that one girl from Vegas that said she liked to be tickled after we had sex. We both live in separate parts of the country and I got into a relationship before I could test it out*.

I've learned that most women like being touched by a guy they're into. (duh right). Even if it means tickling. My dating style tends to be pretty aloof at times as my mind is always busy....giving a girl the impression that i'm not into her or attracted even though I am. When I give her a tickle it shows her that I am attracted an into her....even if she hates it. I've found that a woman will tolerate the tickling and further if she's really into you. While there are some out there that will run not tolerate any form of tickling even from a Brad Pitt i think those are very much in the minority. So in general.....most every woman is willing to be tickled by a guy she's into. From my experience anyway.

As for relationships......Mine is good. I'm still getting used to the concept of having a live in girlfriend. I do miss my single life alot! But our sex life is great and I tickle her nearly everyday.

GQ

 

[Feathery]

It is probably easier to find a like-minded partner with the internet, going to websites like this one or Fetlife. Back in the day, one would have to go to a bar, club, personal ads or social gatherings and hope for the best.

 

[fireguardian]

There are actually a number of married couples on this forum that are both into the fetish and very happy with each other. It may be a bit hard to find some one that has this in common with you or is at least excepting of it but it can be done.

 

[gilmourwaters]

Absolutely me! Married 8 yrs and been actively tying and tickling each other through it all...and 3 yrs before that! lol

 

[rhiannon]

Or am I wrong, and there simply AREN'T any happy relationships on Earth, and life is simply a constant battle and heartache where one party just hopes to get the rare, lackluster, occasional sex while humanity eagerly awaits the day of legalized prostitution and we can finally be sexually satisfied and life will forever change?! (pant pant pant!)

No relationship is perfect. The trick is not to expect a perfect relationship! A relationship is about compromise, communication and understanding. You will never get EVERYTHING you want, but that's life, and the sooner people understand that, the better they will feel.

Oh, by the way....prostitution IS legal in Germany, and people are still not sexually satisfied! 🙂

 

[Archtease]

The answer is YES, my wife and I have a fantastic relationship. Im the one with the tickle/foot fetish and she satifies my desires on a regular basis. But I also satisfy her desires, any relationship is a mutual thing. Love has alot to do with it. When you love someone you want to please them. I must say that she has sort of gotten the tickle bug and teases and eggs me on when she is in the mood. She also likes how turned on I get which also turns her on. It is a true win win. I know I'm lucky!

 

[monstertickles]

Though we are not in a relationship, I play with a girl who is absolutely turned on from the tickling, both giving and receiving. It's incredible, and is turned on by foot worship too. Sounds perfect, right? It's amazing, but circumstances don't allow us to be together in a relationship. I feel like a lucky one compared to others on this forum because some never have a tickling relationship, while I have been in many.

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

There are plenty of happy relationships. Drew & I will be celebrating our 10th anniversary this August. In spite of all that life has been throwing at us, we're very happy together. Why? We recognize and accpet one another's limitations. And, because we keep our focus on one another instead of on "things".

Right now, we're in the process of getting rid of half of what we own. His job will be ending in a few months. With the cost of living and job market so ratty here in CT, it would be very difficult to make ends meet and stay here. So, we're scaling way back, selling our house and moving back to my home town in upstate NY. The cost of living is lower and the job market at least a little better. We don't exactly like that fact. But, it's one another that is important, not the stuff we have.

The same is true of many things we expect out of relationships. A relationship should be a partnership. Our SO is a partner, not a warehouse to get things and actions out of...or a savior to solve all of our problems and bring us false joy.

 

[qwill]

I am so glad there are so many who have fulfilling relationships. Unfortunately I am in one that is not.

 

[ArtemisGrace]

I am in a wonderfully happy relationship, but it's not perfect, because no relationship is!

My husband knows I like tickling him, and while he's not a huge fan of it, he can enjoy it when the mood strikes him. So, I keep myself under control until he's in that state, and then I take out my pent-up aggression!

Could the tickling part of my life be better? Sure! Does that change the 99% of the time that I couldn't ask for a better husband and partner? Not on your life! There's so much more to life than this!

 

[dreamer117]

I've been there too man. Long wondered if there was ANY realistic hope of a good relationship with a cute girl who actually likes being tickled. For many years I despaired, and spent a lot of time worrying how much to hope for vs what to accept.

But I'm happy to report it's worth hoping! Two years ago I finally left a long-unhappy marriage. Last year I found my first real ticklee gf. Type 2 of LordJroy's list. Tickling wasn't her thing but she liked how much it turned me on, and it was heaven! We got serious, but ultimately that relationship didn't work out, sadly. Now I just found a new one. Type 1! They *do* exist!!! (Her reactions are as hot as any clip I've ever seen.) But she didn't even know about the fetish until she met me. No prior guy had tickled her in a way that made it sexual.

Bottom line: some ARE out there, but they are rare, and I for one have *never* found one by looking for a girl who's into tickling. I just look for girl as a vanilla date, and when possible (usually 2nd date) I seize an opportunity to tickle and hope it works out. Still very low percentages (and only 1 ever who actually gets turned on by it), but not zero! 🙂

 

[Strider]

Not to brag or anything, but my relationship is fantastic; I'm the happiest I've been in years. I tickle her, but that's just one component of things (I'm actually working with her on exploring her tolerance relatively slowly).

I also got involved with her in the most utterly random way possible, when I was not looking for a relationship at all, and it's been almost 2 and a half years, so it can happen.

 

[Libertine]

Met a real beauty 6 1/2 years ago, converted her shortly thereafter, married her just under two years later, and we're still very happy.

 

[Deleted member 66627]

Does tickling dealie count?

 

[mabus]

There's a SLIGHT misunderstanding, but thanks for the responses....there ARE all correct!

I was wondering if anybody simply was in a happy marriage, just the marriage itself, AND/ALSO if there was a great tickling relationship there, since obviously we're all tickle lovers and that would be there somewhere for the "happy" to exist.

But I was going off the thread about the women trying to change the men, and some women chiming in about men changing them - all responses seemed to be for the NEGATIVE...because honestly, it almost always IS negative when you try to change someone. And I notice so many threads aiming at all the NEGATIVE aspect JUST OF MARRIAGE, not even getting to the tickling part! Turn on TV right now, tomorrow, next year, and try to find a show that shows people happily married...... It's all people in shitty relationships, fighting.

First of, I'm a logical guy, and I wonder at what point do you just say "Fuck it, why am I even in this shitty "relationship,"?" I mean,....is the sex REALLY that good? How good can it be if the person you're with is disrespecting you, hates you, etc.?

To demonstrate, if I'm at work, and I start on one end and slowly turn around, I see several miserable relationships, and few happy ones......

I was in a horrible marriage. I had a horrible relationship before that. One was a religious nut who I wouldn't even let me hold her hand or touch her, heavily insinuating I was a worthless sinner - we broke up because she asked another guy out on the phone...with me in the room....on Christmas...after I gave her her Christmas present.
(Yeah, the story of my life is full of shit like that. But I do remain optimistic, yet bitter. I helped a guy on a video project, for example, a while back, that was basically an ego project for himself. He went crazy after I finished part of it and almost called a lawyer on me for copyright violation. Even though I filmed and created the footage myself. For him. When no one else was helping him. At all. Yeah, the look on the people's faces when I told them was the same "HUHHH??!!!!!" reaction you may be having.)

My marriage was one of me doing almost all the house work, having a full time job, didn't drink, smoke, abuse her, did everything with her family, even though a lot of her own family didn't show up to those events. And this was literally something every week at least, she had a big family. She did nothing with my family.
I was friendly to all her friends, she'd rudely storm off or ignore my friends when we met them.
But she was profoundly spoiled, and mastered turning everything anybody said to her back at them so there's no room for improvement there. Ironically I'm now friends with most of her old friends, not by me plotting against her, she just ignores them all.....

I've just seen so many crappy relationships, I know it's possible to have a good one, I just wonder what day to day life is like with someone who actually loves you, I've never experience that....

(And for all those who say a relationship is hard, I hope to hell you read the part of my initial post...where I said...... that relationships take work. I having a Jon Stewart moment here.... )

 

[jpmtickle]

Mabus,

I'm truly sorry you've had such a string of tough situations in this area. My wife and I have been together for 22 years, coming up on our 17th wedding anniversary. Do we drive each other crazy, regularly? Absolutely! Because we're both going to be weak in some areas and stronger in others. Anyone's weaknesses are going to be magnified when you're that close to them. What keeps us strong is knowing that no matter what we will be there for each other, and now for our children as well.

Your post is correct--if the relationship is one-sided then it is doomed to failure. It is a give and take that requires a lot of work and a lot of purposeful decisions to put your wife first, even when she "doesn't deserve it" or you don't feel like it. [It's my belief that] God did/does that for us so how can we make any better decision than that?

To speak to this thread, my wife knows that I live for tickling; however, she can't stand being tickled. She also won't outright tickle me to death if I ask. It has to be her idea but when it is it is truly blissful. We have a good physical relationship--not perfect, but like the two of us we're not either!

I can't speak any better than anyone else here already has or add anything more profound. The secret for me is trying to be as selfless as possible. It's the hardest struggle of all for me, but well worth the reward.

Peace,
~JPM

 

[Sandisk444]

I like to think me and my girlfriend have an amzing relationship. We both have the same fetishes and just love exploring with it.

Though i believe that in order for the relationship to be healthy is for there to be a bigger foundation for the relationship rather than JUST the tickling. Don't jump on the first person who has the same fetish because that'll end badly. I loved my girlfriend for who she was before the tickling became a factor. Now it's on the side but we do normal by/gf things. They do exist my friend!

 

[Tickled Guy]

Mabus,

I'm truly sorry you've had such a string of tough situations in this area. My wife and I have been together for 22 years, coming up on our 17th wedding anniversary. Do we drive each other crazy, regularly? Absolutely! Because we're both going to be weak in some areas and stronger in others. Anyone's weaknesses are going to be magnified when you're that close to them. What keeps us strong is knowing that no matter what we will be there for each other, and now for our children as well.

Your post is correct--if the relationship is one-sided then it is doomed to failure. It is a give and take that requires a lot of work and a lot of purposeful decisions to put your wife first, even when she "doesn't deserve it" or you don't feel like it. [It's my belief that] God did/does that for us so how can we make any better decision than that?

To speak to this thread, my wife knows that I live for tickling; however, she can't stand being tickled. She also won't outright tickle me to death if I ask. It has to be her idea but when it is it is truly blissful. We have a good physical relationship--not perfect, but like the two of us we're not either!

I can't speak any better than anyone else here already has or add anything more profound. The secret for me is trying to be as selfless as possible. It's the hardest struggle of all for me, but well worth the reward.

Peace,
~JPM

Coming up on my 17th as well, not only are we happily married but we work together on the tickle set regularly too. Tickling has always been part of our teasing but we never knew it was a fetish til we started producing video. Now she tickles me every time I get tied down for a scene to "Test The Ropes".

 

[Deleted member 2452]

sometimes..

it's off and on for my wife and i. we've managed to stay together for quite a while, but tickling isn't the glue that has held us together. kids did that.

steve

 

[Ticklerbc]

TXGIGGLEE and I have a great marriage. She is a ticklish lee and I am a ler. We have been to several "gatherings". In the last one she agreed to be gang tickled by 6 people. It was awsome. She had to go to the safe word several times but everyone enjoyed it. You can see her photos in my profile and a TMF Album.
Ticklerbc in Texas

 

[tkltease]

i had a great marraige with lots of tickling with my exwife she was horribly ticklish and loved being tickled all the time and that lasted for 10yrs until we finally grew kinda apart but to all i will say find the right partner into tickling and it can be lots of fun whether your young or old.