I have never experienced play with a switch.
I think it is very manly to be able to withstand the tickles, and also dole them out. I don't have any experience in real life with this situation because I'm a lee, but I find the idea very sexy.
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Is being tickled "unmanly"?
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I have never experienced play with a switch.
I think it is very manly to be able to withstand the tickles, and also dole them out. I don't have any experience in real life with this situation because I'm a lee, but I find the idea very sexy.
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That's another thing that I got out of Crystal's and Anne's posts. I want to clarify my position on F/M. First and formost it only applies to me being the M. (yes I know you all knew that, but I'm just covering all bases) I don't watch other guys being tickled not because it would make me uneasy, but instead it would make me jealous, LOL.
However, the whole sub/dom thing doesn't apply to me. I like to be tickled because I like the way it feels. I don't do it to submit controll to a woman as a means of relinquishing my normal dominating manhood. That's not even in my mind.
This aspect also lends to why I only like to be tickled by a girl/girls and only with fingernails, especialy when you get a good spot. I'm one of those who needs total immobilization or I'll REALLY thrash around to "get away". Being completely immoble allowes me to "ride the sensation" where I would normaly escape from it. It's sort of like an electric curent traveling through me that feels really good but is way to intense to experience without the aid of restraint. I don't want to get away, but my escape reflex is stronger than my want to stay still.
does anyone else like to be tickled just for the sensation?
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WRONG. I am NOT a Submissive.
For the most part....isn't that what tickling is?
Sensations?
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not just no, but hell no!
as far as i'm concerned, anyone who thinks it is not "manly" for a guy to be tickled has some real social issues. they need to grow up, or get a clue.
not a damn thing wrong with a ady tickling a guy.
steve
as far as i'm concerned, anyone who thinks it is not "manly" for a guy to be tickled has some real social issues. they need to grow up, or get a clue.
not a damn thing wrong with a ady tickling a guy.
steve
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Why?
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Never said you were a submissive, matter of fact you don't strike me as submissive at all. On the contrary, I was refering to your views on a male being a submissive. I thought that's what got this particular ball rolling in the first place.
I was just trying to say that I don't do the 'lee' thing for submissive reasons. I just like the sensation.
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Unmanly? Whut??
This is a true story I wrote not too long ago. Keep in mind that the gentleman in question is one of the 'manliest' Alpha Males I ever knew...
I don't usually share my experiences here, but I was in the mood to write
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Years ago, I had a good friend who traveled through my town once very few months for business. He was a Dominant 99% of the time, but every now and again he loved to be tied tightly and tickled 'til he just couldn't take any more.
I gave him what he needed, and in return he gave me some of the best rides of my life.
His favorite way to spend the evening was tied face-down, hands bound overhead and knees and ankles tied together, gagged with my favorite bandanna so that I could hear him laughing and trying to beg, naked except for a cute pair of boxer briefs that hugged his very muscular and very, very ticklish bottom. Once he was secure the party started
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I would start by 'cleaning' his big, mostly smooth feet, first with a scrub brush dipped in soapy water and then with my teeth and tongue. Licking the spaces underneath his toes and chewing his runner-toughened heels drove him out of his mind. I don't think I've ever heard a human make the sounds that came from his helplessly gagged lips when my nails raked his biggest toes, slick from their scrubbing; those foolish enough to believe that a gag takes away from the laughter have never heard a deliciously loud scream through a thin bit of cotton, it's amazing and utterly scrumptious. Stripped to just my black satin panties and black thigh high stockings (he insisted I dress in black), I loved to lie on top of him and use my own silky toes to stroke his ridiculously ticklish underarms while I slid my fingers into his boxers to tickle the living daylights out of his lightly furred backside and his thighs, slipping my hand in between his tightly tied legs to goose his thighs until he was shrieking though his gag; he would shake so hard I had to grip his sides with my knees to stay saddled, something about having his underwear 'invaded' made the tickling much worse than simple nudity . But the best was how we ended the sessions:
I would straddle him facing his back, using my thighs to hold on 'tight' because the ride was intense.
Leaning forward until my diamond-hard nipples stroked his back, I would use just my pointer fingers to poke. And poke and poke and poke. His sensitive sides, his underarms, his devilishly ticklish back muscles...only two fingers brought him closer to the brink of madness than just about anything else I did. Except for the finale.
Once he was delirious with his own ticklishness and just about too hoarse to even try to beg, I would slowly, slowly reach deep inside his boxers just underneath his hardness. Fitting my right hand to his inner thigh, I would grip the ultra, horribly ticklish muscles there while using my thumb to...stimulate...his deepest self. My other hand would death-grip that part of his left side, just under his ribs, where deep muscle kneading drove him far enough into insanity to offer me anything I wanted if I would just stop. And of course I would torture him, telling him over and over that if only I could understand him...he was a quaking and vibrating mess of helpless ticklishness. And the more he quivered the hotter I became, his wide back sending wickedly intense sensations into my core as I straddled and rode him like a bucking horse. The more he shook the faster I stroked him from underneath.; we would build and build and build until we'd both explode, my sex sealed tightly to his waist and my thighs shaking with the tension.
We lay there exhausted, dripping with sweat, while I'd make slow circles on his sides just to hear the barely-there begging. There is nothing so adorable as a bound, post-orgasm insanely ticklish dominant male. Nothing
And later it would be my turn. But that's another post...
My friend married and moved very far, I miss him. I hope she's pleasing him the way I did, it was entirely too much fun to miss
This is a true story I wrote not too long ago. Keep in mind that the gentleman in question is one of the 'manliest' Alpha Males I ever knew...
I don't usually share my experiences here, but I was in the mood to write
.Years ago, I had a good friend who traveled through my town once very few months for business. He was a Dominant 99% of the time, but every now and again he loved to be tied tightly and tickled 'til he just couldn't take any more.
I gave him what he needed, and in return he gave me some of the best rides of my life.
His favorite way to spend the evening was tied face-down, hands bound overhead and knees and ankles tied together, gagged with my favorite bandanna so that I could hear him laughing and trying to beg, naked except for a cute pair of boxer briefs that hugged his very muscular and very, very ticklish bottom. Once he was secure the party started
. I would start by 'cleaning' his big, mostly smooth feet, first with a scrub brush dipped in soapy water and then with my teeth and tongue. Licking the spaces underneath his toes and chewing his runner-toughened heels drove him out of his mind. I don't think I've ever heard a human make the sounds that came from his helplessly gagged lips when my nails raked his biggest toes, slick from their scrubbing; those foolish enough to believe that a gag takes away from the laughter have never heard a deliciously loud scream through a thin bit of cotton, it's amazing and utterly scrumptious. Stripped to just my black satin panties and black thigh high stockings (he insisted I dress in black), I loved to lie on top of him and use my own silky toes to stroke his ridiculously ticklish underarms while I slid my fingers into his boxers to tickle the living daylights out of his lightly furred backside and his thighs, slipping my hand in between his tightly tied legs to goose his thighs until he was shrieking though his gag; he would shake so hard I had to grip his sides with my knees to stay saddled, something about having his underwear 'invaded' made the tickling much worse than simple nudity . But the best was how we ended the sessions:
I would straddle him facing his back, using my thighs to hold on 'tight' because the ride was intense.
Leaning forward until my diamond-hard nipples stroked his back, I would use just my pointer fingers to poke. And poke and poke and poke. His sensitive sides, his underarms, his devilishly ticklish back muscles...only two fingers brought him closer to the brink of madness than just about anything else I did. Except for the finale.
Once he was delirious with his own ticklishness and just about too hoarse to even try to beg, I would slowly, slowly reach deep inside his boxers just underneath his hardness. Fitting my right hand to his inner thigh, I would grip the ultra, horribly ticklish muscles there while using my thumb to...stimulate...his deepest self. My other hand would death-grip that part of his left side, just under his ribs, where deep muscle kneading drove him far enough into insanity to offer me anything I wanted if I would just stop. And of course I would torture him, telling him over and over that if only I could understand him...he was a quaking and vibrating mess of helpless ticklishness. And the more he quivered the hotter I became, his wide back sending wickedly intense sensations into my core as I straddled and rode him like a bucking horse. The more he shook the faster I stroked him from underneath.; we would build and build and build until we'd both explode, my sex sealed tightly to his waist and my thighs shaking with the tension.
We lay there exhausted, dripping with sweat, while I'd make slow circles on his sides just to hear the barely-there begging. There is nothing so adorable as a bound, post-orgasm insanely ticklish dominant male. Nothing
And later it would be my turn. But that's another post...
My friend married and moved very far, I miss him. I hope she's pleasing him the way I did, it was entirely too much fun to miss
I understand everyone has their own views and are entitled to them, but to me, saying someone is "unmanly" would be just as insulting as calling women a "slut" or "*****" for having premarital sex. If you don't agree with it, that's fine but to put a demeaning label to it, in my opinion, is wrong. By that theory, would it be "unwomanly" if a women is the one to initiate a kiss or even sex, for that matter? Does a woman suddenly become "unwomanly" if she goes out and works or engages in some sort of sport or wear's anything shy of a dress? Now, if you're engaging this type of behavior in every aspect of life with women, then yes, I would say that would be accurate but not for one activity.
I'm lost to the thought process on this, especially in today's world and even more so, from this community. Maybe it's because I don't necessarily view tickling as just sexual or controlling but more of just being silly and making each other laugh? I've never tied anyone up or been tied (yet) but have been tickled by a gang of gorgeous young women who were friends 20 yrs ago(sorry, that was HOT!)
Hell, if I asked for that day to happen over and over for the rest of my life, you can call me your Aunt Bessy, for all I care.
. I do want to give being tickled a try (bondage wise) for once. I'm not going to be selfish and deprive women of the fun. 😀
I'm lost to the thought process on this, especially in today's world and even more so, from this community. Maybe it's because I don't necessarily view tickling as just sexual or controlling but more of just being silly and making each other laugh? I've never tied anyone up or been tied (yet) but have been tickled by a gang of gorgeous young women who were friends 20 yrs ago(sorry, that was HOT!)
Hell, if I asked for that day to happen over and over for the rest of my life, you can call me your Aunt Bessy, for all I care.
. I do want to give being tickled a try (bondage wise) for once. I'm not going to be selfish and deprive women of the fun. 😀Tiger.Lily
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Acknowledging gender roles, there might be something to the idea of being tickled as something "unmanly". Not because the man being tickled isn't "manly" in himself, but that the idea of a man giving up his control and his dominance to someone else is "unmanly".
All bullshit stereotyping aside, there is absolutely nothing unmanly about being tickled. Tickling my boyfriend (him giving me that control, his reactions, his enjoyment of it) is the single most erotic thing possible to me. In fact, I feel that it's just the opposite of unmanly. I think it takes quite a bit of strength to allow someone that much control and power of your body.
Iz sexy. 😀
All bullshit stereotyping aside, there is absolutely nothing unmanly about being tickled. Tickling my boyfriend (him giving me that control, his reactions, his enjoyment of it) is the single most erotic thing possible to me. In fact, I feel that it's just the opposite of unmanly. I think it takes quite a bit of strength to allow someone that much control and power of your body.
Iz sexy. 😀
It doesn't fit the male stereotype, but the male stereotype is a fallacious and messed-up thing. I sort of wish that I ignorantly believed more in that stereotype as an infallible ideal, because I know I'd be that much more emotionally wash-cycled as a tickling victim.
I think AnnieHall's and euphoricstrokes' takes match mine best so far.
I think AnnieHall's and euphoricstrokes' takes match mine best so far.
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I don`t FEEL umanly....
As a male `lee/submissive,I am completely comfortable with my manliness,and refuse to feel any less of a man because of this.
In the vanilla world,I`m very much a man`s man. I`m a former Marine who still lives and works among Marines.I enjoy most things that society tells us are manly.I`m a martial artist and a coach.I ENJOY imposing my will on others!But when it comes to tickling,it`s nice to be able to drop my pack,so to speak,and just let someone else assume command for a change. I find it to be a wonderful release,and I certainly feel no less of a man for letting a lady have her way with me.
As a male `lee/submissive,I am completely comfortable with my manliness,and refuse to feel any less of a man because of this.
In the vanilla world,I`m very much a man`s man. I`m a former Marine who still lives and works among Marines.I enjoy most things that society tells us are manly.I`m a martial artist and a coach.I ENJOY imposing my will on others!But when it comes to tickling,it`s nice to be able to drop my pack,so to speak,and just let someone else assume command for a change. I find it to be a wonderful release,and I certainly feel no less of a man for letting a lady have her way with me.
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It's escapism in a way, is it not?
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There's really something to be said in favor of doing what you enjoy and not giving a rat's ass what anyone else thinks about it. Chuck Liddell paints his toenails bright pink. Rosey Grier loves needlepoint so much that he wrote a whole freakin' book about it. Are either of them anything less than manly?
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Definitely not unmanly. I won't date nonticklish guys.
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Yes!!!
Absolutely!!!
Additionally,it feels WONDERFUL (Despite being MADDENING at the same time!),and can provide an intimacy and closeness that `lee and `ler can BOTH enjoy,whether the actual tickling is playful,torturous,or erotic in nature.
Absolutely!!!
Additionally,it feels WONDERFUL (Despite being MADDENING at the same time!),and can provide an intimacy and closeness that `lee and `ler can BOTH enjoy,whether the actual tickling is playful,torturous,or erotic in nature.
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Absolutely!!!
Additionally,it feels WONDERFUL (Despite being MADDENING at the same time!),and can provide an intimacy and closeness that `lee and `ler can BOTH enjoy,whether the actual tickling is playful,torturous,or erotic in nature.
Hooray for being on the same page! 😀
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I don't think it goes against the traditional gender roles, as much as it goes against the traditional "grown up" roles, regardless of gender.
Tickling and being tickled goes against the traditional ideas of how adults should behave. It turns men and women into squealing boys and girls without a shred of control over themselves, lol. The very opposite of acting like a "grown up".
Unmanly? No.
Boyish? YES.
To me, there is a huge difference.
And for the record, I think it takes a real man to let his inner boy come out to play. =)
Tickling and being tickled goes against the traditional ideas of how adults should behave. It turns men and women into squealing boys and girls without a shred of control over themselves, lol. The very opposite of acting like a "grown up".
Unmanly? No.
Boyish? YES.
To me, there is a huge difference.
And for the record, I think it takes a real man to let his inner boy come out to play. =)
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I believe the general consensus here is 'eye of the beholder.'
I myself am a bisexual switch. I fit neatly into the categories of dominating tickle-spot-explorer AND giggling-school-girl sub (if you saw some of my rp's, for example, I'd imagine more of you than just maniactickler would vomit). I'd agree that this makes me only half MANLY because my behavior as sub kinda reflects feminine aspects of my character -- but that's the key, 'character'. If I were (and I know I'm stereotyping here) a super-buff, beer-guzzling offensive lineman rather than a lean, beer-guzzling musician, than I'd concur that I was MANLY, regardless of lee/ler status.
As far as I care, I'm cool if I'm perceived as only semi-masculine (manly) because I am still an independent, hard-working dude who looks out for his loved ones. 'Unmanly' only become derogatory to me when some guy fails to live up to these kind of measures.
I myself am a bisexual switch. I fit neatly into the categories of dominating tickle-spot-explorer AND giggling-school-girl sub (if you saw some of my rp's, for example, I'd imagine more of you than just maniactickler would vomit). I'd agree that this makes me only half MANLY because my behavior as sub kinda reflects feminine aspects of my character -- but that's the key, 'character'. If I were (and I know I'm stereotyping here) a super-buff, beer-guzzling offensive lineman rather than a lean, beer-guzzling musician, than I'd concur that I was MANLY, regardless of lee/ler status.
As far as I care, I'm cool if I'm perceived as only semi-masculine (manly) because I am still an independent, hard-working dude who looks out for his loved ones. 'Unmanly' only become derogatory to me when some guy fails to live up to these kind of measures.
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It's just a stereotype that society sets of how men and women are and aren't supposed to be; it's stupid. I personally think it's nobody's business but your's, and if they want to make an issue of it, screw 'em. What ever makes you happy, I always say.
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Absolutely!!!
Additionally,it feels WONDERFUL (Despite being MADDENING at the same time!),and can provide an intimacy and closeness that `lee and `ler can BOTH enjoy,whether the actual tickling is playful,torturous,or erotic in nature.
Cool.
This is parallel to an argument I made about m/m tickling. I think it can also follow for f/m tickling as well.
