Hosetickler23
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Is it a good idea to tickle a guy on a first date?
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MrPartickler
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I think you can do almost anything if the timing's right and you're comfortable enough in your own skin to do it. You seem a little apprehensive about trying which might show through. That could potentially spoil the moment by putting too much pressure on something that should be very casual, innocent, and/or playful.
As you probably know, on early dates there's usually a lot of pressure around establishing contact and touch. Often the ice is broken with things like occasional soft pats on the leg, back, or shoulder after jokes, hand around waist or at small of back, hugs at times other than for greeting/saying goodbye, etc. I.e., when are you comfortable enough around a date to let them actually touch you? It's different for everyone so I'd say play this as you normally do. From your question I'd guess that, for you, the more natural approach would be no tickling initially--until <i>after</i> the casual touching phase has been reached. Although it can be accelerated by the activities you choose (e.g., social dancing, playing sports, general roughhousing & teasing, etc.)
IMHO, just forget about the guy wanting/expecting sex. He's a guy. If there's any chemistry at all he'll probably want that anyway. lol Whether you give in or not is up to you...as usual.
As you probably know, on early dates there's usually a lot of pressure around establishing contact and touch. Often the ice is broken with things like occasional soft pats on the leg, back, or shoulder after jokes, hand around waist or at small of back, hugs at times other than for greeting/saying goodbye, etc. I.e., when are you comfortable enough around a date to let them actually touch you? It's different for everyone so I'd say play this as you normally do. From your question I'd guess that, for you, the more natural approach would be no tickling initially--until <i>after</i> the casual touching phase has been reached. Although it can be accelerated by the activities you choose (e.g., social dancing, playing sports, general roughhousing & teasing, etc.)
IMHO, just forget about the guy wanting/expecting sex. He's a guy. If there's any chemistry at all he'll probably want that anyway. lol Whether you give in or not is up to you...as usual.
I'm always a gentleman on the first date, unless the situation calls for something different. So I say feel it out, Jen, you never know with these things. I agree that it can say you want SEX! So just make sure he knows what light it is in! 
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I think that I need to see how the date is going and if it's going well and I feel comfortable with it perhaps I will give him a little tickle. What's the big deal? It doesn't mean I want to have sex, I think it's a little playful thing to do and it's a way to flirt. I think that if he doesn't like it, he should let me know or if he does like it then that's good. How do I know if I don't try? I mean I will be careful because I don't want him to think that I want sex with him that early in the relationship.
I mean if he's going to freak out and get all uptight about me giving him just a little tickle then there's clearly something wrong with him and not with me! I mean just because these guys aren't members of TMF doesn't mean they won't necessarily dislike tickling. That's just my opinion but I'll just have to see how the date is going and make my own judgement but I really appreciate all of your advice.
I mean if he's going to freak out and get all uptight about me giving him just a little tickle then there's clearly something wrong with him and not with me! I mean just because these guys aren't members of TMF doesn't mean they won't necessarily dislike tickling. That's just my opinion but I'll just have to see how the date is going and make my own judgement but I really appreciate all of your advice.
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Go for the gold ticklejen. Juts be careful. I can honestly tell you if a girl tickled me on the first date and it didn't end up in bedroom I'd probably fucking scream at her.
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Aachen1983 said:
Dude, stick to decaf! lol
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Actually maybe ticklejen is right in some ways. If the guy goes totally ballistic over a little tickle then maybe she is right things are not going to work out between them. Also if the guy just loves it, it helps to eliminate all the problems of trying to tell your boyfriend that you love tickling. I think she has the right ideal though see how it goes. Good luck ticklejen. 😀
It would be love at first tickle for me unless you were some sort of horrible beast...which I know you're not!
Otherwise I agree with some of the posts where you should be a little careful unless you feel pretty comfortable with the guy. It could be taken the wrong way and could make your date a bit more aggressive than you might want on the first night. Could also work out very well.
If it's obvious fairly early on that the guy's kind of a jerk, I'd say forget about it.
Otherwise I agree with some of the posts where you should be a little careful unless you feel pretty comfortable with the guy. It could be taken the wrong way and could make your date a bit more aggressive than you might want on the first night. Could also work out very well.
If it's obvious fairly early on that the guy's kind of a jerk, I'd say forget about it.
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The way I look at it, if you're planning it, you're more likely to do it at the wrong moment. It will only make sense if the conversation has already reached a kind of level of playfulness that makes it seem natural. Is that necessarily going to happen on the first date? No. Might it? Sure. Thing is, if it doesn't feel natural in the context of the moment you're in, it's probably best to hold back.
And some guys will take it as seductive foreplay. That's why, as you already said yourself, it's best to get the sense of things before you do anything.
And some guys will take it as seductive foreplay. That's why, as you already said yourself, it's best to get the sense of things before you do anything.
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Thanks kurch for your support and others who have pretty much supported what I've said. Tonight I did meet a guy in person for the first time and didn't tickle him, we got along well but it just didn't seem right to do it. Maybe next time I will, the thing is he's about ten years older than me.
I don't know what it is but it seems that a lot of guys that are attracted to me are much older than me. Not that there's anything wrong with older guys but I'd prefer to meet someone who was in there early thirties like me. I am meeting another guy this Sunday so I'll see how that goes. I like your idea nowayjose of discussing my fetishes with him first to see how that goes and go from there.
I don't know what it is but it seems that a lot of guys that are attracted to me are much older than me. Not that there's anything wrong with older guys but I'd prefer to meet someone who was in there early thirties like me. I am meeting another guy this Sunday so I'll see how that goes. I like your idea nowayjose of discussing my fetishes with him first to see how that goes and go from there.
One chick's POV
First of all, hats off for getting back into the dating scene. I remember someone posting awhile ago about her frustrations of the dating scene. Great you haven't given up.
Prior to meeting my current friend, I was married for 10 years and on my own (for the most part) for 6 years. That basically means I haven't been dating for 16 years. I had no clue about today's dating scene at all and I felt like a deer in the headlights.
We met for drinks and conversation and he must've picked up on my nervousness. We had a nice time even though I did the overly chatty routine I always do when I'm nervous. I also stiffen up so I started pulling at my neck. As he walked me to my car, he slipped his hand to rub the back of my neck. Nothing lude, I actually felt better-I have a medical condition and my muscles tighten up when I stress. I was surprised that I so easily allowed him to touch me that way on the first date. He did slide in a tickle (not sure if he intended to) and that surprised me as well. I admit, I did like it even though he wasn't someone I would normally consider as my "type."
He was very confident and in control without making me feel controlled. It was a very relaxing atmosphere and we quickly made a connection. He gave me a good night kiss (which was quite good) and we've been together since. I'm not sure where we're going, but there has been a lot of joy in the journey.
He didn't offend me when he touched me, tickled me, or kissed me goodnight. He was a gentleman in every sense of the word and everything just felt right.
I said all of that to say this.......
It's about the connection. If it feels right and an opportunity presents itself, give him a little squeeze during a hug or if you put your arm around him. If it doesn't feel right, then don't. A little tickle doesn't mean sex even though a lot of folks on this thread think it does. That's because they're wired that way-not every man is.
I hope you concentrate on just meeting a gentleman and having a good time. Just be yourself-if that isn't good enough, too bad for him!
First of all, hats off for getting back into the dating scene. I remember someone posting awhile ago about her frustrations of the dating scene. Great you haven't given up.
Prior to meeting my current friend, I was married for 10 years and on my own (for the most part) for 6 years. That basically means I haven't been dating for 16 years. I had no clue about today's dating scene at all and I felt like a deer in the headlights.
We met for drinks and conversation and he must've picked up on my nervousness. We had a nice time even though I did the overly chatty routine I always do when I'm nervous. I also stiffen up so I started pulling at my neck. As he walked me to my car, he slipped his hand to rub the back of my neck. Nothing lude, I actually felt better-I have a medical condition and my muscles tighten up when I stress. I was surprised that I so easily allowed him to touch me that way on the first date. He did slide in a tickle (not sure if he intended to) and that surprised me as well. I admit, I did like it even though he wasn't someone I would normally consider as my "type."
He was very confident and in control without making me feel controlled. It was a very relaxing atmosphere and we quickly made a connection. He gave me a good night kiss (which was quite good) and we've been together since. I'm not sure where we're going, but there has been a lot of joy in the journey.
He didn't offend me when he touched me, tickled me, or kissed me goodnight. He was a gentleman in every sense of the word and everything just felt right.
I said all of that to say this.......
It's about the connection. If it feels right and an opportunity presents itself, give him a little squeeze during a hug or if you put your arm around him. If it doesn't feel right, then don't. A little tickle doesn't mean sex even though a lot of folks on this thread think it does. That's because they're wired that way-not every man is.
I hope you concentrate on just meeting a gentleman and having a good time. Just be yourself-if that isn't good enough, too bad for him!
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best wishes, Jen for this.
Play it by ear and trustyour instincts at the time
Play it by ear and trustyour instincts at the timeTicklerguy4u
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I know if a girl ever tried to tickle me on a date..that's it. IT'S ON!!
Battle Royal!! She better hope she better hope she kept all her vunerable spots covered.
Battle Royal!! She better hope she better hope she kept all her vunerable spots covered.
I think you tickling your guy on your first date is an awesome move. I really prefer it when a woman makes the first move when it comes to touch...then I know that she at least likes me..so a tickle is definitely welcome. And no...a tickle would not equal sex in my mind or the minds of any other normal guy that has a "healthy' relationship with women in general(i.e actually date). If a girl tickled me i'd think that she was having a good time and that she wanted me to tickle her back. It could break up the monotony and make things more relaxed if the date was going like an interview at a fortune 500 company. Have fun on your dates....hope they go well.
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