is it just me or...?

[alixandrya]

is the forum kind of clique-ish?

i want to make new friends on here, but it seems as though
people just keep to who they've already talked to.

I've posted threads, sent friend requests, and written on
people's profile with little to no response.

I even downloaded an instant messenger app
and put my handle up. still nothing.

am I doing something wrong? 😕

 

[Myriads]

No, you are doing nothing wrong, and in the time that you have been here it seems many have taken note of you.

Are there Cliques? yes and no. A lot of people here have met in real life at gatherings, they share history and such, and they tend to be comfortable with each other.

Keep doing what you are doing, and you'll start to make the contacts that will do the same with you, and you'll become part of the group also. It takes time.

Myriads

 

[alixandrya]

No, you are doing nothing wrong, and in the time that you have been here it seems many have taken note of you.

Are there Cliques? yes and no. A lot of people here have met in real life at gatherings, they share history and such, and they tend to be comfortable with each other.

Keep doing what you are doing, and you'll start to make the contacts that will do the same with you, and you'll become part of the group also. It takes time.

Myriads

thanks. I thought there was something I hadn't done right or something.

 

[FLBowler]

it just takes time, I joined months ago, and only talk to a few people, however I have noticed some people are a little more open than others. It really has to do with past interactions

 

[Emishticklish]

You can always talk to me anytime. 🙂

 

[Inverse]

I've been here for, almost ten years~ and in that time it's... been difficult. It's hard to make connections. Unlike a lot of forums... the TMF is a very, personal space.

Tickle fetishists aren't~ satisfied, with things being only online. This is a fetish based on TOUCH~ and touch means... connecting, in a very personal and intimate way. It's a fetish based on sound. It's based on laughter and warmth~ and that means... well it means fostering connections and being really warm with people and finding people you really want to invite into your life. It means a lot of hard work, and a little luck~ in keeping those relationships alive. ^_^

In the times I've come and gone, deployed to theater and back and otherwise had to find myself, I've gained and lost a lot of friends. Sometimes, it's REALLY daunting to come back here and realize, despite all my time here~ everyone is a stranger, again, and again... and that unlike all other communities, I have to really put myself out there to make those friendships last. I, fear losing them again, and~ it takes a lot of courage and time to be ready for disappointments like that to set it.

Yet, with a lot of luck~ the relationships you build here can be, long lasting~ life lasting even! They can be worth every bit of effort and more. I've yet to find that, truly myself, but~ where you see cliques, I see people who meet, and want to be with each other and want to hear each other's voices and if they're really lucky, want to actually feel each other's touch for the purpose of making each other smile and... if that's not worth the time and effort I don't know what is. <3

 

[Marquis De Sade]

As Myriads said, it is and it isn't. Think of this place as just a giant party already in progress that you've just walked into. In real life there would be groups of people already standing around drunk and happy and discussing various topics. Keep posting and you'll start to make friends. I've already spoken to you quite a bit and you're all kinds of awesome so I'm sure it won't take long. 🙂

 

[3xPIN]

...I'll be your friend.

 

[alixandrya]

...I'll be your friend.

hi friend!

 

[3xPIN]

is the forum kind of clique-ish?

i want to make new friends on here, but it seems as though
people just keep to who they've already talked to.

I've posted threads, sent friend requests, and written on
people's profile with little to no response.

I even downloaded an instant messenger app
and put my handle up. still nothing.

am I doing something wrong? 😕

...I'll be your friend.

hi friend!

Oh hi new friend!



Some events were changed, but I like it this way!

 

[daddy]

No, you are doing nothing wrong, and in the time that you have been here it seems many have taken note of you.

Are there Cliques? yes and no. A lot of people here have met in real life at gatherings, they share history and such, and they tend to be comfortable with each other.

Keep doing what you are doing, and you'll start to make the contacts that will do the same with you, and you'll become part of the group also. It takes time.

Myriads

This is probably the only time I am going to disagree with you my friend. I have been here at the forum since nearly day one. I use to run one of the funnest and most popular tickling websites on the net called "Hoteltickle" back in 1998-2000. For a time I was a respected member and people appreciated what I did for the community. I had mini gatherings and shared alot with many of the people here. As time has passed, no matter how involved I try to be, I do not fit into the Clique that people speak of. You may ask if I have tried? The answer is yes...I have tried to communicate with people through PM's, the chatroom and other sources and all I get anymore is grief and put downs. The biggest one I get is my screen-name. People think I am a pedophile or an old perverted man and they treat me like shit. Look back over my threads and see how many bad chatroom experiences I have had...not just with my screename but with my questioning why we even have a chatroom if we cannot discuss tickling in there??? I was actually being threatened to be banned because I wanted to discuss TICKLING!!!

In any case, my point being...there is a Clique. Not everyone can make it to NEST and not everyone can participate in real life meetings all the time. Let me tell you that I very rarely ever PM anybody on this forum and when I do I am very pleasant, curtious, and never get out of hand...but guess what? People never respond no matter how nice I am and no matter how long I have paid my dues here in the community. The funny thing is I am one of the nicest people you could ever meet and you can ask many members about that, but with all the new blood, I am shit...and that is how I am treated.

To the OP...I understand your frustration and wish you well. I have been here in the TK community for over 15 years, contributed a website, had gatherings, got a celebrity involved in the site, posted original media and basically nobody knows I exist anymore. I am not going to play the 'popular" game. I would rather deal with people who are here for the namesake of the site.

peace out,
daddy

 

[LadyNerd]

For those of you saying you request to be friends with random folks and those who PM people at random looking to talk, you may be the nicest folks in the world. I'm not going to say you are not by any means since I have never really spoken to you. Nevertheless, I know I reject random friend requests. To be on my list, we must have actually spoken and become some semblance of friends. I don't know if others do the same or not, I'm sure there are people on both sides of that spectrum. I also know that there are folks who do the same when it comes to random PMs. While I answer all PMs I get, it's fairly aggravating getting random ones from folks who only liked my screen name and know nothing about me. Getting "hi how r u" is probably one of my biggest pet peeves, I'll admit.

Otherwise, I agree with Myriads. There are cliques and then there are folks who try to be friendly with everyone. I do try to be friendly with everyone. Then again, I joined just over a year ago now, and I had to fight to make friends the same as everyone else. That means you have to speak up regardless of what's going on. After all, when I started, most folks ignored me, missed my comments on the chat room and the like. You just have to keep posting, be friendly, and speak up. Don't get offended at every little thing because, after all, this is the internet.

 

[JaneyD]

Well if ever there is a clique or not, don't let it get to you.

If you're part of the clique then good for you. If not, so what?

You know what I mean? If they don't like you or they'd just ignore you, its their loss. Haters gon' hate. Just be yourself 🙂

On the other hand, random PMs or friend request may not be the best approach in making friends here. Its like having that odd friend request from someone you don't know on facebook. Well it is a lot like that. Would you add a random stranger? So I guess establishing an a acquaintance relationship at the very least here on the forum first would increase the odds of you making friends.

So I guess the only thing left to say is...

Hi I'm Janey 🙂

 

[TickleMyFancy]

It just takes time 🙂
Just respond to PMs you get, and send some out 🙂 be friendly and open, and then after that its just time. Nothing more you can do.

If you're ever bored feel free to PM me 🙂

 

[Bohemianne]

You have very few posts. The more you interact publicly, the more people will appreciate your presence. Goodluck.

EDIT: LOL... Doesn't mean you have to heavily rely quantity milestone @ Silly Forums. 😉

 

[Sandrock74]

I am a friend to all.

Except to some.

That's probably why I'm so darn confusing! 🙂