Is it worth giving up?

[Soles_Scream]

I am not one for dating apps but I did try Feeld since it is kink focused. I wrote in the profile that I don’t post a picture because of my job but would share it once there was a match. 100% of the time the conversation ended when I shared a pic.

Thankfully I don’t do regular dating apps. A profile with my pic would have no matches. Ah, well. What can you do?

Haptic, I think you are getting in your own way, my friend. Speaking from my own experience of getting in my own way.

 

[outkastman]

Stream of thought post. If it's depressing, sorry.

So, I've been into tickling since the early 2000s. That's when I discovered this forum.

As a guy, each year, it seems like less opportunities present themselves to explore "tickling". Many people don't get it. They don't want to get it, and that's fine with me, because "hey, why live a lie?".

Tickling has always been in my personal order of operations in terms of finding a partner. If they can't handle that, then I feel like there's multiple other areas we won't match on.

Everyone talks wistfully about the "joys of being ourselves", but the closer I look for more qualities in people, the less I find.

Have you ever just walked away from this life? Just gave up on tickling? On trying to date? Just be incognito?

For me, it’s always been work on myself and be happy with myself first. When you enter a new relationship, let it be authentic. See if the attributes that you hope to be in your partner blossom, and then go from there. Try entering into these relationships without expectations because we should try to see people as they are. If you are in a healthy relationship and your partner loves and cares about you, it’s very possible for tickling to enter in at the right time and spice things up!

I love to tickle (and tickle feet). My wife does not have ticklish feet, but it was her idea to buy stocks because she enjoys tickling me, that was over a year into our relationship. My “ideal dynamic” changed significantly from what my original hopes were for us. Now, we have been together for 7 years and have a great life together, and tickling entered into it unexpectedly!

Idk if that helps but I hope it does, friend!