Is "The Question" (Are you ticklish) a personal question, and how do TMFers see it?

[Mitchell]

Is "The Question" (Are you ticklish) a personal question, and how do TMFers see it?

Okay, there is a question gnawing at me that has been in my mind for a long time, so I wanted to post a thread on the forum for feedback from the members to find out everyone's opinion on it. The topic in question being, is bringing up our favorite subject and asking people if they are ticklish, or discussing tickling, a personal or sexual question or subject, and how does everyone see it?
I guess a logical answer to this would be in what context it is discussed. Asking a co worker in an office if she is ticklish would be much less appropriate than asking a co member of the TMF. My bigger issue is this, is asking someone The Question itself. (That being Are you ticklish, of course) a personal question, sexual question, both, or neither? What does everyone think?
To me, I have to look at it that in the mainstream, it probably is personal and/or sexual. Think of it, besides a significant other, family member, or close friend, leaving TMF aside, who else in life knows if people are ticklish and what their ticklish spots are? It would probably amount to a handful of people in one's life. So, my conclusion is that asking someone "Are you ticklish?" is both personal and sexual. Maybe Iam wrong, but that is how I see it.
Anyhow, that is my thought. I would be interested to hear feedback from other forum members as to how they see this question. Thanks.

Mitch

 

[Tklelicious]

just have to put my 2 cents in

okay.....my first thought is "are you kidding?" i mean we are all hopefully on this site to tickle or be tickled! it just seems droll to me to ask first thing. upon first pm or im, it comes off as desperate; a "kid in a candy store" kind of thing, or just seems like person asking is real inexperienced. i know we all feel like this at some point, but in a few sentences or im/pms later, you'll know. maybe it's me, i like some intellectual tickling as well, and as it is we are on an on-line forum and real-life meetings/tickle sessions are not all that common, i need more that the stats and the usual questions. now, asking if a ler a lee in a creative way, now that makes more sense. i hope you haven't come across people just lurking here who aren't ticklish, i haven't had that. is it a too forward or sexual question? well, depends on context. i personally prefer the more sensual tickling and seek attraction as well. i haven't wrapped my mind around the "just for the fun of it" kootchie koo tickling. i save that for friends/siblings/babies once in a blue moon when a belly or a foot is just too irrestible! so bottom line--sure, ask it, but only when appropriate 🙂---and work, not typically appropriate unless someone brings up topic or it's someone you are in a relationship with.

 

[Luv2Tickle69]

Asking "the question" is best when there is an opportunity that WON'T get you into any kind of trouble...I for one, would NOT go up to a lady I don't know from Eve and ask her if she's ticklish just because her feet look THAT appealing to me....now...if I'd known the same woman from running into her often and striking up regular conversations each time, and I saw her laying in the park soaking up some sun, and her feet were bare; then yes...maybe then, I would sneak up and fit a little tickle to surprise her, knowing her reaction to seeing it was me would be favorable....

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

Is it personal? I guess that depends. I wouldn't go up and ask a perfect stranger (unless we happened to be at NEST or something). But, for someone you're at least acquainted with, I don't see it as necessarily such.

Ann

 

[Tickler Bart]

It depends on the individual.
The 'mainstream' would NOT consider it sexual because tickling is NOT a sexual act to THEM.
Of course, it REALLY depends on HOW you ask.
If you walk up to a co-worker & ask if they are ticklish, they might just give you a puzzled look & say yes or no.
It VERY much depends on who it is & where it is.
Is is wrong? No. It's really a harmless question when you think about it.
To US it's sexual in nature. To them it's silly actually & they probably haven't really thought about it in ANY kind of way, let alone sexual.
That is, of course, my own personal opinion.

 

[steph]

I don't think in and of itself it's a bad thing. Someone posed "the question" just the other day on one of my body piercing boards in the general discussion forum. It was obviously not someone with a fetish, she was just curious...

I suppose it depends on your reasons for asking. Obviously with people for whom it's strictly sexual in nature (and I'm not one of them) but I think the more erotic your reasons for asking, the more careful you have to be, so people don't get freaked out, especially girls...

XOXO

 

[Knox The Hatter]

No set rules. It can be an innocent question, posed at an opportune time, or, it can be a sexual one. Sometimes we're so wrapped up in the personal side of all this that it's hard to gauge the outside of it all. But then, there are people here who can't conceive of an outside of it all, so perspective might be a bit of a problem.

I notice that there are people here who think that asking this question is a terrifying prospect. I've always tried to come up with more ingenious ways of doing it. It's fun.

 

[luvgirlsfeet]

I was recently talking to a girl who noticed me limping a little bit and i told her that its from an injury to my foot that happened a few months ago I will say something like. I was afraid the doctor would be working on my foot and hit that 1 ticklish spot. Sometimes she will repsond to it by saying that her feet are ticklish too 🙂 and it was a female co-worker I was talking to. A few of my female co-workers of mine I do know are ticklish 1 in particular because she has tickled me from behind and i got even

 

[tommytikl]

Well lets take your work example.
I would NOT ask the lady AT work, but maybe if a group of co-workers went to a bar for happy hour, then I might ask her there because she will be drunk, er I mean, it will be a social setting and not a work setting.

Good question though..and again it depends on the context..I mean if you ask someone out of the blue with no real friendship with the person than that would be bad and might be seen as harrasment ESP if you ask over and over again...

 

[ericr]

I think it depends a lot on the context of the conversation. To ask if someone is ticklish out of the blue is usually too personal and a bit odd. On the other hand if tickling has come up in the conversation (such as in regard to a medical exam, pedicure or massage being ticklish), if someone is tickled in your presence, if there is a tickle scene in a movie, if there is talk about nerve sensitivity, if there is talk about laughter, etc. it may seem appropriate, easy, natural etc. to ask others if they are ticklish as well as to talk about your own ticklishness.

 

[KoocheeKoo]

Mitch, I've never asked a lady that question in my life; not a girlfriend, not girls at school...not a female co-worker. I'll admit in my younger days, I had the urge too...especially several cuties who worked in the office building I guarded at the time.

Not only is asking if a woman is ticklish seen as "too personal" by many, esp. here in the south....I always figured there was a better than 95% chance they were ticklish. In my life, I've probably tickled close to a hundred women and girls....and only found one who wasn't ticklish.

Most internet polls I've seen indicate 88-93% of those who participated voted they were ticklish; polls which included men and women of all age groups. I know a few folks who lost much of their ticklishess as they aged....so venture an educated guess that if 90-92% of Americans OVERALL admit they are ticklish, then the percentage of young women and girls who are ticklish is likely 95% or more (possibly 98-99% based on my tickling experience of southern women under age 30...and a couple other similar surveys I've read about online).

 

[DonnieBrasco]

I wish I could answer but I find that very personal😀

 

[Mitchell]

LOL! Nice one, Donnie!🙂

Mitch

 

[primetime]

asking that question is relatively harmless, depending on who you ask it to. like everyone else has said, asking a complete stranger may be wrong, but asking someone you are comfortable with and they are comfortable with you is okay. how can it really be a "personal" question. despite the fact that the mainstream public isnt into tickling like us, i would believe the majority of them think tickling is a harmless childish thing. a personal question would be if certain body parts are ticklish. but just asking if they are ticklish is no big deal. again, it's all in the context on how you ask. most of the women i know, especially at work, have answered my question. some say "yes", others say "no". they know me to be a happy silly person, so the question isnt strange at all. in fact, i think they kind of expect that from me. lucky me.....

 

[The Sean Man]

I rarely ask at work, and if I do, it's usually in a goofy, fun situation. But outside work? I always find a way to ask the question...it never hurts to ask😀

The Sean Man

 

[Limeoutsider]

I dont ask

 

[Mitchell]

Okay, Limey, but seeing as you are a girl, would you consider it personal if someone asked you? (As you are aware of us information gathering men like yours truly😀)
Hope all is well with you. Happy Holidays to you and your family.

Peace.
Mitch

 

[Limeoutsider]

Depends on the person asking, how well I know them, ya know?

Happy Holidays to you and your Family as well!

 

[featherfingers]

Since I give foot massages as a profession, this question comes up every time I work on someone. Usually, the client will tell me if she is ticklish...sometimes I'll be doing a particularly soothing technique (which feels a lot like tickling) and she'll say, "Oooh, that is sooo nice! Don't stop!" After I get to know her, I incorporate more of those soothing techniques and I can tell by the look on her face that she loves the sensation.

When I meet a lady while I'm shopping or while I'm standing in line at a bank, we might make small talk but I never point blank ask, "So, are your tootsies ticklish?" Do you realize how perverted that sounds to a total stranger? She may ask me what I do for work, and when I tell her that I give foot massages, the floodgates open wide open. She'll either say, "Ooh, I want one!", or say, "I can't stand having my feet touched." The point is, I didn't have to interrogate her to find out if she likes to have her feet massaged.

If you approach women with a 'car salesman' type attitude, you'll definitely scare them away. Women are the total package, not just a couple of feet for you to play with.