Isabeau is right on this.
I completely see her point and agree. If there is someone special in your life, someone that has been there for you, generally takes care of your needs and just 'gets' you; cares for you completely, you want to be there for that person, even if that means a little personal sacrifice at the alter of their fears. In the bigger picture, the whole of the relationship is what is important, and sometimes you do just haveta keep that special person at ease. Loving your special partner means also respecting THEIR limits in the relationship.
Viper is right on this.
It IS frustrating to have someone tell you that "X won't allow me to play". I'm not here to necessarily go all south-of-the-border oral on someone, but it would be nice on occasion to find someone that I connect with when it comes to both tickling, and other aspects of life beyond. To find someone that you are into, you find them unique and special, they are independent in their thinking and personality, you get along, you both share this odd, quirky thing that a LOT of people don't get, you are both actually here, talking on and musing over this interest, when the rare social event related to this vexing fixation is set before you both - and one memeber of this party mentions that the squares won't "let" him/her go. How could that not be frustrating? Holy cows, man, people wanting a mainstream, 'vanilla' relationship are faced with constant rejection and frustration. Most of us here have no other place to go, it's difficult to meet people into tickling, we're not even here to set up a permanent relationship, or even here for sexual activity... we're just here to have a chance to let go with someone we like, not feel like freaks, and maybe even buff up our sanity a little. Then someone - an independent adult - who is here for the same interest, is already in a relationship (lacking one specific ingredient), while enjoying us for who we are, tells us to have fun at the prom alone. Yessssss....... that is somewhat irksome.
What's that? Someone else here on the TMF has just paired up and is getting married? Oh, that's wonderful! Just terriffic news. No, really, it is. That is awesome. Truly. Somebody else who is not me found their perfect mate within a fetish cyberworld. Please, no, no - need to tell me the details, just let me enjoy the moment. I mean it - let me sit in my room, alone, with the curtains drawn, and just simply BASK is such delightful news. Oh, those? Why, tears of joy of course, silly!
And to muddy the Pierrier even more, I have been doing some volunteer work for a domestic abuse agency for a bit over a year now. One person in a relationship telling another what they can and can't do, where they can and can't go, how to socialize and so on can be an earmark for bigger trouble in a relationship. True, most likely there is no such thing going on, but it IS a possibility - and if we like each other here, if we're talking, PM'ing, etc. then there is a level of caring there that extends beyond just the obvious tickle connection. We don't want to be left out of playtime; we also don't want our friends hurt.
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