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Is tickling a mild form of BDSM

Exactly, which is why sometimes people here need to be reminded that tickling is not something that's always a matter of racks, restraints and tools. It's an activity that occurs by and large between vanilla people who make no sexual connection to it.
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This is a fetish forum where most people DO make a sexual connection to it. So I think it should be clear to everybody that in a question like that the person who asks the question most likely does not think about the quick vanilla tickling one person gives the other while passing them!
 
Yes it has its relationship to it, well at least I think it does.
 
rhiannon said:
Maybe not yours. Tickling of other people might! Not pain, but power is definitely a part of the kind of tickling I practice. And definitely going to the limits.
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Rhiannon, thankyou - I have always said tickling is not sexual for me and I very much believe that - but it is power and control over a girl in restraints that I can cause a significant amount of distress and agony without hurting her - with her consent, of course. I think you brought that to light for me - it's not sexual but it is power and control.
 
This has been discussed many, many times on this forum, here is one of the best threads for those who are new here (really new, not pretending to be new):

http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?t=120666&highlight=workshop

Though it wasn't always the case, these days tickling is definitely considered to be under the large umbrella of BDSM by actual BDSMmers; many of the largest BDSM conventions now have very popular tickling classes and workshops because of that recognition. And it's considered anything but mild, many folks who can take a LOT of pain break under tickling incredibly fast 😉 Still, those who feel that tickling can't possibly be an aspect of BDSM have the right to that view if it works for them; there's no one definition of tickling or BDSM, and I doubt there ever will be.
 
GQguy said:
Is tickling a mild form of BDSM?

From wikipedia:
BDSM is a type of roleplay or lifestyle choice between two or more individuals who use their experiences of pain and power to create sexual tension, pleasure, and release.
GQ
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Just an FYI, that wiki is very good overall but it needs some tweaking: for instance, BDSM doesn't have to involve pain or sexual tension (though many feel it's no fun without them 😎 ) There are many purely mental BDSM relationships, and those that are non-sexual, more of a mentor/student situation or another type of relationship 🙂
 
Two questions here. One, is tickle-torture a form of BDSM? This is entirely semantic. Tickle-torture has some things in common with things that clearly are BDSM, as shown by the word torture as well as by the presence of domination and submission. OTOH, tickling doesn't involve pain, and needn't involve sternness or punishment. So we really can answer the question however we like.

Two, if it is a form of BDSM, is it mild? Well, if it's mild it is, and if it isn't it isn't. If you've been tickled for several hours nonstop (I have), believe me there's nothing mild about it.
 
BellaRisa said:
This has been discussed many, many times on this forum, here is one of the best threads for those who are new here (really new, not pretending to be new):

http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?t=120666&highlight=workshop

Though it wasn't always the case, these days tickling is definitely considered to be under the large umbrella of BDSM by actual BDSMmers; many of the largest BDSM conventions now have very popular tickling classes and workshops because of that recognition. And it's considered anything but mild, many folks who can take a LOT of pain break under tickling incredibly fast 😉 Still, those who feel that tickling can't possibly be an aspect of BDSM have the right to that view if it works for them; there's no one definition of tickling or BDSM, and I doubt there ever will be.
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Awesome post. Well said with references and knowledge to back up your point, yet you respect others that disagree. Classy.
 
TickleToy4You said:
Yeah wiki isn't the most dependable source out there haha.
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Interesting. While I rarely directly quote wiki when writing a paper...where pray tell would I find an easy definite definition of BDSM written by those that study it with numerous references to back it up? If you have the time by all means find the difinitive definition of BDSM that is better than the one wiki offers. Looking at the references the wiki writer used at the bottom of the article might help in the search.

But you're right. It's not. For the purposes of casual convo and casual debate...I think it works.

GQ
 
BlackestLily said:
I believe it is, and in my opinion can even be heavy if the receiver hates in. Kink.com is beginning to do a lot more videos that incorporate tickling, but not as an enjoyment like we think it is. A lot of girls who choose to do videos with them actually dislike/ hate it and so it's a form of torture for them at varying levels. They much prefer actually being whipped over tickling. So perhaps the lightness/heaviness aspect is subjective. 🙂
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This.

I've known people who do some really heavy play in the BDSM world but mention tickling to them? They freak out. So yeah, it might not be painful torture as say, being whipped or whatnot but it's still torture and can certainly be used as a form of BDSM play.
 
rhiannon said:
BDSM doesn't necessarily either!
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Thank you. We'll have to keep saying it 'til people listen: BDSM does not = pain. It can, but it absolutely doesn't have to and pain is not a good measure of whether an activity counts as a BDSM activity. A young lady bound head to toe in silk rope having her feet kissed and worshipped by a foot slave at Black Rose or Ohio Leather Fest is engaged in BDSM, and she's definitely feelin' no pain :rainbow:
 
GQguy said:
Is tickling a mild form of BDSM?

From wikipedia:
BDSM is a type of roleplay or lifestyle choice between two or more individuals who use their experiences of pain and power to create sexual tension, pleasure, and release.

For some the answer is a simple yes! For others the answer is no! How do you view it?

I think it is a form of BDSM. Some would say that tickling isn't pain...but i'd argue that point. A good 90% of women i've dated like to be rough handled in the bedroom. They like to be spanked(some more than others) and experience other power plays as part of the build up to their climax. However 100% of the women i've dated would say that tickling was too much after a minute or two. Tickling is more painful to them than spanking!

I get that BDSM is more than just a few spanks or tickles in the bedroom but the unequal powerplay is still evident.

So what do you guys think?

GQ
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I think that wiki is the most ridiculous definition of BDSM I've ever seen.
Tickling is a form of play. It can be used with BD (bondage/discipline) and
certainly as a form of s/m (sadism/masochism). D/s is dominance and
submission, which isn't really relevant to play. BDSM encompasses all of
these things. But spanking is not BDSM. Tickling is not BDSM. Cock and
ball torture is not BDSM. BDSM is a huge spectrum of things, hence its
broad definition (again: bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and
sadism/masochism).
 
I guess it's just easier to say it CAN be a form of BDSM. Doesn't mean it has to be haha. I'd rather be tied up, gagged, oiled up and tickle tortured with plenty of tools if you wanna call that BDSM.
 
TickleToy4You said:
I guess it's just easier to say it CAN be a form of BDSM. Doesn't mean it has to be haha. I'd rather be tied up, gagged, oiled up and tickle tortured with plenty of tools if you wanna call that BDSM.
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That's not BDSM. You could call it sadistic play, or s/m, but not BDSM.
 
This is one of those topics where you'll get a ton of responses, and no one will really agree with one solid answer lol.
 
TickleToy4You said:
I guess it's just easier to say it CAN be a form of BDSM. Doesn't mean it has to be haha. I'd rather be tied up, gagged, oiled up and tickle tortured with plenty of tools if you wanna call that BDSM.
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BrightEyes1082 said:
That's not BDSM. You could call it sadistic play, or s/m, but not BDSM.
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Wait, sorry, why couldn't that fall under BDSM?
 
LD_Tickler said:
Wait, sorry, why couldn't that fall under BDSM?
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I'm not sure how to break it down any further...

Tickling can be sadistic play. S/m is a part of the broad spectrum
that is BDSM. If you want to be literal in that sense, then yes, it
falls under BDSM. But tickling is not BDSM.
 
BrightEyes1082 said:
I'm not sure how to break it down any further...

Tickling can be sadistic play. S/m is a part of the broad spectrum
that is BDSM. If you want to be literal in that sense, then yes, it
falls under BDSM. But tickling is not BDSM.
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Oh, are you just making the general point that no one activity is BDSM, things just fall under an aspect of BDSM?
 
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