is tickling someone who is not your SO cheating?

[SadCuzNotTcklsh]

If you are married, would tickling someone else be considered cheating?
I would think has been has been an issue for some people here. How many people's SO still doesn't know they like tickling?
I guess it all depends if the point of it is sexual in nature or not.

 

[rhiannon]

If your SO thinks it's cheating, then it is.

 

[SadCuzNotTcklsh]

If your SO thinks it's cheating, then it is.

OOhhh. Good one.

 

[rhiannon]

Well, it's true! 🙂 You can claim it's not cheating as long as you want, it's your SO who will decide whether they consider it a reason to kick your butt or not! 🙂

 

[thetmfobserver]

It would depend on your relationship, and how you view tickling. Basically, what Rhiannon said. 🙂

 

[SadCuzNotTcklsh]

Well, it's true! 🙂 You can claim it's not cheating as long as you want, it's your SO who will decide whether they consider it a reason to kick your butt or not! 🙂

What about this. What if you are tickling somebody with someone else (who has a SO)? Would the SO say you are both cheating with the same person at the same time together simultaneously?

 

[cue]

But couldn't that be said with some who attend NEST?

Those who aren't open about their love of tickling and give false excuses to attend the yearly gatherings, aren't they, also, cheating?

I think for so many, the idea of tickling someone does get connected with sex, when not everyone does it for sexual gratification. I'm one who does it solely with my husband, because it is such a turn-on for me. I don't know that I could let someone else tickle me, knowing how my body reacts to that.

But for some, it's like a...stress reliever. To them, it would be just like going for a massage to help relieve their bodies of stress.

I agree that it depends on how the S.O.s define cheating. To some, anyone else touching them is cheating, while for others it may be if sex is involved. And since there isn't at NEST (I'm guessing), then it may not be considered cheating to them. For those who are into tickling and are involved/married to someone who isn't, it may just be a way for them to relax.

 

[rhiannon]

What if you are tickling somebody with someone else (who has a SO)? Would the SO say you are both cheating with the same person at the same time together simultaneously?

Let's compare this to a strip club! If your wife can consider it cheating if you are sitting in a table dance bar with about 50 other guys, then why couldn't it be cheating if two people are tickling someone else? Never heard of threesomes? 🙂

 

[marcusb]

If you have to sneak around behind their back because they would not approve... yes.

If you are married, would tickling someone else be considered cheating?
I would think has been has been an issue for some people here. How many people's SO still doesn't know they like tickling?
I guess it all depends if the point of it is sexual in nature or not.

 

[Maestro1874]

Typically, if you have to ask, it is.

 

[tkl-pen]

Once again it comes down to the concept of sexual or not. My wife does not like to be tickled and is both aware and understanding of my tickling orientation. She is perfectly okay with me tickling other women and even has no problem with me doing so in her presence. So, it's no more cheating to me than going to a martial arts class. For someone like Rhiannon, where tickling is intensely personal, intimate and a prelude to sexual activities, I can see that it would be considered cheating because it is totally sexual to her. So, it depends on the person and the situation - for me no, for her yes - even though its the same thing.

 

[Flatfoot]

Depends on the couple. In my case, it is. That's what we agreed on.

 

[LD_Tickler]

Yeah, Rhi is right. Cheating isn't actually objective. In some cultures, friends kiss each other on the lips to say hello. In other cultures, that would be unfaithful. Depends on the people involved.

Once I told a girl I was dating at the time about my tickling fetish. Her very first reaction was "you better not let me see you tickling any other girl."

 

[rhiannon]

For someone like Rhiannon, where tickling is intensely personal, intimate and a prelude to sexual activities, I can see that it would be considered cheating because it is totally sexual to her.

It doesn't even have anything to do with that. Even if it isn't sexual to you, if your wife didn't like it that you were doing it to other women - I think I remember you do it as part of SM parties and so on, right? -, it would be cheating, because it is your wife who decides if it is cheating.

If my husband doesn't consider it cheating if another guy tickles me, although it does turn me on, just because it is not considered as sexual to my husband, then it is not cheating.

 

[tkl-pen]

It doesn't even have anything to do with that. Even if it isn't sexual to you, if your wife didn't like it that you were doing it to other women - I think I remember you do it as part of SM parties and so on, right? -, it would be cheating, because it is your wife who decides if it is cheating.

If my husband doesn't consider it cheating if another guy tickles me, although it does turn me on, just because it is not considered as sexual to my husband, then it is not cheating.

I have actually had to cut back on the SM parties this fall, Rhiannon, because I'm getting arthritis in a hip. Now, I can only book a couple of these per month. Besides, it was getting to be too much of a good thing anyways.

 

[rhiannon]

All I'm saying is: my husband would consider me participating in SM parties as cheating....and it wouldn't matter that it wouldn't turn me on, because most likely it would turn on the people around me.

 

[tkl-pen]

I understand, Rhiannon, he may not be as open to it as my wife. It may also be different for you, being a woman, and I understand a fairly attractive one, although I have never seen a picture. Then, I wonder if the men and women who operate strip bars, dungeons and the like are cheating on their husbands/wives by doing so.

 

[Morning Lorie]

If your SO thinks it's cheating, then it is.

Wrong. Each person decides for themselves. If the SO thinks otherwise, then you work it out and come to some kind of agreement. Or you part ways forever.

No SO of mine has ever decided what I'm allowed to do.

 

[GQguy]

I guess I agree with Rhi. It doesn't matter what any of us say is cheating....it is soley dependant on your wife. I had a dream a month ago where my girlfriend let some guy tickle her feet. I broke up with her in my dream. Some might call this harsh....but in my book it's a no go. My buddies would be more lenient. It all depends on the individual you're married too buddy. You know her better than anyone.

 

[GQguy]

Wrong. Each person decides for themselves. If the SO thinks otherwise, then you work it out and come to some kind of agreement. Or you part ways forever.

No SO of mine has ever decided what I'm allowed to do.

Very true...No SO should ever decide what their partner is allowed to do.....but that SO can part ways if they don't like what was done. The original poster obviously doesn't want his SO to part ways with him otherwise he would have dropped her a while ago. He wants to have his cake and eat it too. And wether he can have his wife and other tickle partners is dependant on his wife.

 

[Dave Pavet]

If you wife catches you in TMF of looking at another female in a store for more then 3 seconds, she considers it cheating!

 

[Morning Lorie]

Very true...No SO should ever decide what their partner is allowed to do.....but that SO can part ways if they don't like what was done. The original poster obviously doesn't want his SO to part ways with him otherwise he would have dropped her a while ago. He wants to have his cake and eat it too. And wether he can have his wife and other tickle partners is dependant on his wife.

But the question was not "Can he have his wife and other tickle partners?" The question was, "is it cheating?"

The answer is no, it isn't.

 

[Coda]

For goodness' sake. You can't break <I>or</I> keep a commitment with another person if you don't know what the commitment is.

If you haven't discussed this with your wife, you <I>can't</I> know the answer.

 

[rhiannon]

But the question was not "Can he have his wife and other tickle partners?" The question was, "is it cheating?"

The answer is no, it isn't.

If it is for your SO, and your SO divorces or leaves you for it, then it is cheating, no matter what you think! 🙂 It doesn't matter what YOU think! It solely matters what your SO thinks, because it is them who will draw the consequences.

 

[Doctor_D]

A relationship includes a mutual understanding between two people. And everyone is different, so what is considered cheating will vary from couple to couple. I would imagine most people would not put tickling, especially the brief sort, on the same level as sex with someone else. More likely it would be akin to that "accidental kiss" with a coworker; hurtful, but not exactly full on cheating. Other things to consider are how often it's done and if it's kept a secret. But as I said, it depends on the couple...