Ladies on this site?

[AquaFeline]

There's nothing more annoying than getting yet ANOTHER *rolling eyes here* yahoo friend invite from someone on the TMF, and their 1ST question is, "Hi. I saw you on the TMF.....so, you like to be tickled?" DUHHHHHH! But I would much rather someone come at me and just say hello, how are you? how is your day? That would make me more apt to talk about tickling later.

*scritches head* actually if you haven't posted in your profile whether you're a 'lee or 'ler, asking whether you like being tickled is a reasonable question... just not as the first thing out of their mouth 😀 I don't mind that too much, the only thing I minded was an IM I got where the first question was if I had any clips. They did not even specify what KIND of clips, maybe I'm on some kind of water sports board too! 😉

 

[dtrell]

Oh... one more thing. You guys wanna know something that is extremely frustrating?
I have several people on my Yahoo Chat who I have put on ignore. Some because conversations with them made me feel uncomfortable, most because I had so many folks talking to me that I had to weed the list down to those which I felt were more compatable with my personality and sense of humor (at one time... I had 6 chats going... AARRGGHH!!!). What I did to these folks whom I chose for the weeding is to make myself appear "Permanently Offline."
I can think of one 'Ler here that I have told off in a PM after being provoked to do so. I can think of another with whom I have recently requested a cease in communications. Besides those 2... I can think of no other 'lers who can accuse me of being rude, disrespectful or harsh. Even those who totally creep me out with their requests and questions have been treated with politeness.

this second person, do i know him? and you say you requested a cease in communications...did you actually do that at the moment you decided not to speak to him again, or did you let him try to contact you for about a week and you ignored him, then only requested the cease after he PMed you first?

i dont know about most of the desperate guys on here...but im not one of them. if a female on here thinks they dont want to talk to me anymore after saying how cool they thought i was, then all it takes is a simple conversation one time and they wont hear from me ever again. made up excuses are not required, only the truth. and once i remove someone from my buddy list, or they block me, i sure as hell arent putting them back on again under any name.

 

[Tamia78]

*scritches head* actually if you haven't posted in your profile whether you're a 'lee or 'ler, asking whether you like being tickled is a reasonable question...

Yes, I agree, but I have posted on my profile that I'm both. I just think it's dumb to keep asking me the same questions that they can find out if they just do a little research.

 

[isabeau]

i dont know about most of the desperate guys on here...but im not one of them. if a female on here thinks they dont want to talk to me anymore after saying how cool they thought i was, then all it takes is a simple conversation one time and they wont hear from me ever again. made up excuses are not required, only the truth. and once i remove someone from my buddy list, or they block me, i sure as hell arent putting them back on again under any name.

i can attest to the fact that dtrell is not desparate. and he is nothing but truthful. which can be good and bad. as one of the first guys on the forum to pm me back in july, i can say that he has been a good friend ever since. and he never once started a conversation with the inevitable are you ticklish stuff. he is interested in tickling, in person, plain and simple. and i have had the pleasure of meeting him once in person.

isabeau

 

[TickledToDeath]

i can attest to the fact that dtrell is not desparate. and he is nothing but truthful. which can be good and bad. as one of the first guys on the forum to pm me back in july, i can say that he has been a good friend ever since. and he never once started a conversation with the inevitable are you ticklish stuff. he is interested in tickling, in person, plain and simple. and i have had the pleasure of meeting him once in person.

isabeau

On that note.......I will throw my 3 cents in........dtrell..........over the years that I have been here........the few times I had any conversation here with him, he has been nothing short of honest and cool. No reason do I have for even thinking for a moment he would be anything less.
Never heard a complaint about him, directly to me, from anyone either.

 

[Mz Chaos]

Who's accusing dtrell of being desperate? Did I miss something?

 

[isabeau]

Who's accusing dtrell of being desperate? Did I miss something?

um no one is... i just answered a response of his. and knowing dtrell as welll as i do, he is not desparate.

isabeau

 

[dtrell]

i never said anyone was accusing me of being desperate...i am saying that these guys that would try to add someone back onto their buddy list, that already blew them off once, by using a different screen name are desperate. there isnt ONE woman on this forum id want to meet that bad to keep pushing myself on her. if someone doesnt want me to chat with them, then im done with them and the feeling is mutual.

and thank you isabeau and TTD for the nice sentiments.

 

[Fidji999]

i read through this thread carefully before deciding to register today, as i felt brave this evening, i still did 😱) really wondering how long it would take before the first pm coming in. boy, i did'nt expect it to be THAT quick. but it was a very nice one. hope this is not just beginners luck 😱))

 

[Italian_Touch]

i read through this thread carefully before deciding to register today, as i felt brave this evening, i still did 😱) really wondering how long it would take before the first pm coming in. boy, i did'nt expect it to be THAT quick. but it was a very nice one. hope this is not just beginners luck 😱))

oh my gosh!!!!
A nice PM? Noooooooo way!!!! We have to fix it immediately otherwise people might start to think that not all the guys here are morons...
so:

"hey, are you ticklish? how much? which is your worst spot? do you have a pic of your feet? where are you from? can we meet tomorrow first thing in the morning?"

Now, welcome aboard!

 

[inthenameoffun2]

Not had any that were flat out rude in the beginning. I have had some that say one thing and then do another. This after talking either on the phone or on the mic via PM or IM's. They say yes lets talk more, or talk with you tomarrow, and then never reply back. But to say that any have been rude?? Well how can any be rude if they do not reply??? Nothing said means nothing at all, true? Yes there are many boring questions that many of the ladies here have to answer over and over, oh and over again. I always try to say something else to help make sure that the conversation is not just about tickling. Yes this is a tickling forum, but come on, you have to be nice and polite, not only have the thought or questions and conversation about tickling as your main agenda. Look at it this way, If a women sent you a PM and asked you if your ticklish and where are you the most and are you ticklish in one certain place always staying on that one place, time after time. How would you feel? Talking on here should be like talking in person.
( ok thats hard for some, that would make them honest) Ask other questions, get to know the person, do all you can to make sure that your showing that you are nice and polite and that you can talk about anything.
Yes bring up tickling, here and there, but do not stay on the subject. If they do not answer, or just blow you off, then you can say hey I did my best and if they are not cool with how (respectful) I have been, then hey, no problem, I'm sure there are others around here that will enjoy my conversation.
( yes there are some ) I hope that helped in my strange and differant way of attemtping to answer your question.

 

[dtrell]

Not had any that were flat out rude in the beginning. I have had some that say one thing and then do another. This after talking either on the phone or on the mic via PM or IM's. They say yes lets talk more, or talk with you tomarrow, and then never reply back. But to say that any have been rude?? Well how can any be rude if they do not reply???

um...because that is the definition of being rude....ACTING like you want to talk to someone, then suddenly ignoring them...anyone ever hear of HONESTY? (i really dont wish to chat with you anymore, because *insert excuse here*) i have had too many on here act like they were interested in talking and meeting only to have the "i dont have time" excuse come up when they do decide to finally reply to you...yet these same people that dont have time, seem to have plenty of time to post away on the TMF at all hours of the night, and also to take time to get to know other people. honesty people, there isnt enough of it in the world..."i dont want to chat because i think you are an ass"...hey if thats the reason, works for me...better than hearing nothing but crickets chirping....

 

[Fidji999]

oh my gosh!!!!
A nice PM? Noooooooo way!!!! We have to fix it immediately otherwise people might start to think that not all the guys here are morons...
so:

"hey, are you ticklish? how much? which is your worst spot? do you have a pic of your feet? where are you from? can we meet tomorrow first thing in the morning?"

Now, welcome aboard!

*LOL*
thanks for the welcome!
btw, it's already afternoon, where I come from, where have you been all morning 🙂

 

[Italian_Touch]

*LOL*
thanks for the welcome!
btw, it's already afternoon, where I come from, where have you been all morning 🙂

mmhh.. let me think... I was probably trying to find something intelligent to write!

 

[kis123]

um...because that is the definition of being rude....ACTING like you want to talk to someone, then suddenly ignoring them...anyone ever hear of HONESTY? (i really dont wish to chat with you anymore, because *insert excuse here*) i have had too many on here act like they were interested in talking and meeting only to have the "i dont have time" excuse come up when they do decide to finally reply to you...yet these same people that dont have time, seem to have plenty of time to post away on the TMF at all hours of the night, and also to take time to get to know other people. honesty people, there isnt enough of it in the world..."i dont want to chat because i think you are an ass"...hey if thats the reason, works for me...better than hearing nothing but crickets chirping....

Since we're on the subject of honesty.....

The women here are NOT compelled to respond to ANYONE'S PM if they don't want to. Nor should they feel guilty if they don't! The only thing I could be accused of is being rude if I didn't.

But, there are some on this forum whos posts I've read in the past I have no desire to ever respond to. Based on their responses in thread after thread, I want no relationship at all! And I sometimes feel it doesn't even deserve an acknowledgement of existence in my inbox much less a response.

I've had mostly really nice guys PM me with nothing but positive and friendly messages. I've had some who wanted to cybertickle, and I've had those who are just trolling for a tickling/sex interlude. I don't have time to waste with those types and I don't have to respond if I don't want to.

As much as I hate the word "bitch", I guess it means that I am one when it comes to this particular subject. I'm not trying to be mean or start some flame war, but if a woman doesn't respond to a PM, just move on-she probably isn't someone you'd want to deal with anyway.

 

[dtrell]

Since we're on the subject of honesty.....

The women here are NOT compelled to respond to ANYONE'S PM if they don't want to. Nor should they feel guilty if they don't! The only thing I could be accused of is being rude if I didn't.

But, there are some on this forum whos posts I've read in the past I have no desire to ever respond to. Based on their responses in thread after thread, I want no relationship at all! And I sometimes feel it doesn't even deserve an acknowledgement of existence in my inbox much less a response.

I've had mostly really nice guys PM me with nothing but positive and friendly messages. I've had some who wanted to cybertickle, and I've had those who are just trolling for a tickling/sex interlude. I don't have time to waste with those types and I don't have to respond if I don't want to.

As much as I hate the word "bitch", I guess it means that I am one when it comes to this particular subject. I'm not trying to be mean or start some flame war, but if a woman doesn't respond to a PM, just move on-she probably isn't someone you'd want to deal with anyway.

i agree kis, however my point is not on an INITIAL response to a PM...i am talking about when the woman has answered PMs, chatted on instant messenger, talked on the phone, and even talked about possibly meeting the person...THEN all of a sudden ignoring them. im sorry, but i feel that person is entitled to be told when their attentions are no longer desired...see i for one am a dumbass, and i dont take "ignoring" hints very well...simple explanations of why my attentions are no longer desired are much more considerate and are taken much more seriously and are much more appreciated.

 

[jaba]

what would you TMF ladies do?

speaking as a female who gets many pm's a day, i try to be polite and courteous and always answer them, until they start wanting to cyber tickle back and forth. i wont do that. usually i just tell them i would rather not.
isabeau

Hi Isabeau, my "first lady"....(smile)

Since you ladies here appear to be the experts in "p m etiquette" (and us guys are probably the primary "p m transgressors", ha ha)........


How would you respond to the following p m I received a while ago:

"Hi jaba. Sorry I did not respond to your p m to me earlier requesting that I make a guess in your lady laugher guessing game.

I have a friend on the forum who likes my laugh, and he wants to hear my laugh on the TMF.

I told him that I would put my laugh on your guessing game, and that he would not recognize my laugh.

Can you put my laugh on your guessing game next week, so he can hear it on the forum? I will send the recording of my laugh to you.

Thanks jaba,"

I don't know how you ladies would handle such a rude and tacky p m, but I assure you, her p m box would never receive another p m from me, even if she were the last TMF lady on the planet......

This lady, and one other lady who accused me of "secretly recording her laughter and posting it on the TMF" (where did I record her laugh, at her insane asylum? ) are the only "non wonderful" experiences I have had with the wonderful ladies of the TMF......

Jaba is a very happy and fortunate soul....



😛 jaba 😛

 

[inthenameoffun2]

i agree kis, however my point is not on an INITIAL response to a PM...i am talking about when the woman has answered PMs, chatted on instant messenger, talked on the phone, and even talked about possibly meeting the person...THEN all of a sudden ignoring them. im sorry, but i feel that person is entitled to be told when their attentions are no longer desired...see i for one am a dumbass, and i dont take "ignoring" hints very well...simple explanations of why my attentions are no longer desired are much more considerate and are taken much more seriously and are much more appreciated.

Well said. From one dumbass to another. Thats the point I was trying to make when I sent out the post a few weeks ago. Question About Honesty.
( not looking to rehash that post ) But Kiss has a point too that I have used now. If they do not reply, or have stopped, then I guess they are not someone that is worth the time in the first place.

 

[ticklishscribe]

Forget that... Get to the point; is Margaret Thatcher ticklish?

Steph you are none of what Toneus says. To me you are all lady, all adorable, all fun, all sensual sweetness and when I get my hands on you it's going to be XXX tickling. XXX for extra sensitive, extra torturous and extra long. 😎

Stay away from the one called Steph, she is the nastiest, bitchiest, most unpleasant piece of work since Margaret Thatcher

 

[Mz Chaos]

I can think of one 'Ler here that I have told off in a PM after being provoked to do so. I can think of another with whom I have recently requested a cease in communications. Besides those 2... I can think of no other 'lers who can accuse me of being rude, disrespectful or harsh. Even those who totally creep me out with their requests and questions have been treated with politeness.

this second person, do i know him? and you say you requested a cease in communications...did you actually do that at the moment you decided not to speak to him again, or did you let him try to contact you for about a week and you ignored him, then only requested the cease after he PMed you first?

#1. When did I lose the right to choose who, when, why, how often, and what I say when I talk to a person?
#2. I DID say that those people COULD accuse me of being rude, disrespectful or harsh. (It is their right and they are allowed to excersize that right)
#3. Funny thing… the ‘Ler I told off (quite harshly may I add) in the PM has never lashed out, has even treated me with more respect since the altercation and has never bad mouthed me on the forum.

Look… I came here and joined the forums to chat with and find people who share my same fetish.
I WILL NEVER win a Miss Congeniality award… nor will I ever apply for one. I’ll be the first one to admit that I am rude, crude and totally unsophistcated. I am a complete and total bitch and proud of it. But to those who treat me with respect, I treat with equal respect.
You seem to think I really give a shit what the folks who I have put on ignore think of me. Wow, maybe their attitude is one of the reason’s why they are on ignore OR as hindsight, one of the reason’s why I am glad they are on there…

 

[lk70]

The best new threads happen when I'm away from the computer for a few days.

I haven't been swamped or overwhelmed with PMs, but I've gotten a decent number. I can think of only one I completely ignored and I assure you, there was simply no other way to react. I'll reply to any polite PM, I hope in at least a polite manner. Sometimes maybe even in a downright friendly manner!

And I'll keep up a PM dialog for awhile and move on to IM or phone or in person sometimes. But sometimes it becomes apparent that the person I'm talking to and I don't have much in common and don't have much to talk about and one or both of us loses interest. I've had guys stop PMing with me out of the blue- and you know what? No problem. In all cases, I was already feeling the struggle to keep up my end of the conversation, so I was just as glad they did. If they didn't like me or didn't feel they had anything in common with me, no offense taken! Why should I? There are TONS of people on here- you can't click with them all, but I hope you don't have to end up hating or avoiding anyone either. Gosh, I'm such a freakin' polly anna sometimes I want to shoot myself 🙂

It can be awkward to end a relationship, even if it's just as superficial as a PM exchange and probably no one wants to hurt anyone's feelings, so I imagine just letting it drift away is easier (seemingly). Kind of like at a party, when you're talking to someone and then you realize there's nothing more to say- you don't say to the person "You don't interest me, I'm not talking to you anymore" do you? Nah, you let your eyes wander away and then you duck away and don't return. It's part of the human dance, I think.

Ah, I'm not making any sense. See ya!

 

[Mz Chaos]

I've had guys stop PMing with me out of the blue- and you know what? No problem... If they didn't like me or didn't feel they had anything in common with me, no offense taken! Why should I? There are TONS of people on here- you can't click with them all, but I hope you don't have to end up hating or avoiding anyone either.

I have had the exactly the same experience... quite a few times. No biggie. If they don't wanna talk anymore... they don't wanna talk. And they have never heard squat from me over it.

It can be awkward to end a relationship, even if it's just as superficial as a PM exchange and probably no one wants to hurt anyone's feelings, so I imagine just letting it drift away is easier (seemingly). Kind of like at a party, when you're talking to someone and then you realize there's nothing more to say- you don't say to the person "You don't interest me, I'm not talking to you anymore" do you? Nah, you let your eyes wander away and then you duck away and don't return. It's part of the human dance, I think.

I couldn't have said it better myself.

 

[kered]

As I stated in am earlier post, I find the ladies here friendly and helpful. Isabeau took me by the hand and sort of showed me around the forums. Mz Chaos helps with putting up with my dumb questions and gently puts me in the right direction about how to use this old computer. Aun existe amor and Heavenlytickles are nice enough to explain how things work in England...etc. I suppose it may be that alot of ladies pm me first from time to time because we talk about everything but tickling and such. Let's be realistic. The nearest women I talk to would be Sultry or Isabeau, so I don't see any reason to ask where they are ticklish or what they prefer in tickling foreplay or if we might hook up because they have their own lives, husbands, boyfriends, kids and careers. I'm comfortable with this arrangement and I think they are too or they would not contact me first. We mostly trade stories of our personal lives and defeats or wins in life or even share a joke. If any of these women wish not to talk anymore with me or anyone else that is up to them and they should say so. I have the same course of action afforded to me but so far this has never happened and I hope it never does.

 

[kis123]

i agree kis, however my point is not on an INITIAL response to a PM...i am talking about when the woman has answered PMs, chatted on instant messenger, talked on the phone, and even talked about possibly meeting the person...THEN all of a sudden ignoring them. im sorry, but i feel that person is entitled to be told when their attentions are no longer desired...see i for one am a dumbass, and i dont take "ignoring" hints very well...simple explanations of why my attentions are no longer desired are much more considerate and are taken much more seriously and are much more appreciated.

Ok, fair enough-I can agree with you based on this scenario.

I really didn't want to appear nasty, but I had a point to make about some of the PMs I get-certainly not all of them.

The majority of the men on this forum have been nothing but gentlemen. My initial response was for the very few who aren't.

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

Ok, fair enough-I can agree with you based on this scenario.

I really didn't want to appear nasty, but I had a point to make about some of the PMs I get-certainly not all of them.

The majority of the men on this forum have been nothing but gentlemen. My initial response was for the very few who aren't.

I think some still forget that there are people behind the computer with lives. Its a work in progress. This a forum foremost not the personals. Agreeing to a schene is a privilige not a requirement. My advice to any guys that feel they have been ignored, be careful what you say. Not everyone is going to like you just like not everyone is going to like me. I am who I am like it or not. Being friendly doesnt mean friendship.

If I find I have nothing in common with someone because we didnt quite connect then thats fine. I have two choices..one, get involved in something the woman likes or two, accept that she is pink and I am blue. I fail to see the delema.