alixandrya
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I've been "out" about my fetish with my partner for about 3 years now. we've been together for 4 years, and i was so ashamed of my fetish I didn't even mention it until about 9 months into the relationship. ever since that day, we've been different. She doesn't like it AT ALL, and it has caused a huge sexual wedge between us. I've tried to be playful about it, but it's never a joke to her and sometimes, she turns violent. Like most of us, I just get off better when I can incorporate my fetish. Last night, after we argued about it for the 76th time, she said to me "If you want to be happy, maybe you should find someone else..." That was more painful to imagine than I want to believe. My point is, should I leave a seemingly perfect relationship in every other aspect but the sexual one? Should I attempt to build a life with someone other than her just because they share my fetish? Or should I stay and be unhappy in the bedroom, but happy with everything else?
I'm so conflicted/scared/ashamed/hurt.
I'm so conflicted/scared/ashamed/hurt.