Leaving the forum for good.

[pw_jagerbomb11]

I've always known that being a member of a virtual community has its pluses and minuses. But in this particular forum, it appears that being honest and open about your feelings results in being left exposed to ridicule from people you
thought you shared something in common with and that you thought you could talk to with an element of trust. The people who read this thread will know who they are, and indeed, many of the people I've spoken, particularly from my own country, came across as nice people, and with them I have no problem. For those of you who think attention is what I crave, you clearly don't know me at all. Yes, I posted this in the forum when private messages would have sufficed, but if people want to read it,that's their own choice. Among the many reasons I originally joined this forum, attention was not one of them, I can assure you.

Anyone who has had a tickling fetish and kept it private for years, should hopefully understand where I'm coming from; when you've kept it bottled up, being open and honest about it can be a difficult thing to do. Being able to talk to people who think the same way can make it a lot easier. That was my hope, but I was wrong, and that's fine.

Philip.

 

[3xPIN]

Please don't go.

 

[jhop220]

Your allowing others to dictate your actions. That is the bottom line. You are allowing a select few who ridicule you to make you leave. It is sad, and shows a true lack of self-esteem.

It should be unacceptable to you. How do you plan on making anything out of life if you allow others to dictate your decisions? Do you think there is this Utopia somewhere where everyone will like you?

Not happening. I don't mean to sound harsh, but it is the truth. You have the ability to block people too, and to not even consider that is remarkable. No Phil, your just leaving based on the antics of others.

I kept this fetish bottled up for more then 15 years. I joined this site in 2002, but only began talking about a month or so ago. I came out of the shadows because I was tired of giving a shit about what people would think about me. I got tired of allowing a fear of rejection guide my decisions. So, I stop allowing it to dictate me. I can look at myself and be happy with who I am.

I could give a damn less of what so and so thinks or says of me. That means nothing. You are wearing your emotions on your sleeve and that is not smart to do in any situation must less this one. Don't worry about other...you handle you! Be who you are and be proud of it!

 

[kcantankerous]

Your allowing others to dictate your actions. That is the bottom line. You are allowing a select few who ridicule you to make you leave. It is sad, and shows a true lack of self-esteem.

It should be unacceptable to you. How do you plan on making anything out of life if you allow others to dictate your decisions? Do you think there is this Utopia somewhere where everyone will like you?

Not happening. I don't mean to sound harsh, but it is the truth. You have the ability to block people too, and to not even consider that is remarkable. No Phil, your just leaving based on the antics of others.

I kept this fetish bottled up for more then 15 years. I joined this site in 2002, but only began talking about a month or so ago. I came out of the shadows because I was tired of giving a shit about what people would think about me. I got tired of allowing a fear of rejection guide my decisions. So, I stop allowing it to dictate me. I can look at myself and be happy with who I am.

I could give a damn less of what so and so thinks or says of me. That means nothing. You are wearing your emotions on your sleeve and that is not smart to do in any situation must less this one. Don't worry about other...you handle you! Be who you are and be proud of it!

I agree,

Matter of fact if you see me in the PR and general thread I speak from my own opinions and seek the opinions of others on mine and vise verse. Yeah some of the rebukes sting, but it's all part of life. I hope that either one of two things happens: 1) I change at least one person's mind or 2) my mind is changed based on the evidence presented.

For example Jager, Jhopp, Kis, and other's and I have had differences of opinion on a myriad of topics. To my knowledge they have not bashed me personally but they did punch holes in my theories. That is all good and well. Every now and then I get flamed by some folks but I let it slide.

In my early days I tended to flame from time to time myself (I regret those actions today and that was one reason I went years without posting). Anyways, to stay or not is your decision, this is my first time communicating with you and may be my last. I could disconnect tomorrow and posts will still be made and the cycle continues.

What you may want is a small support group where bonds can really be formed. In this forum some bonds have been formed but in the end everyone is anonymous, with the exception of those who go to gatherings and still use their real names there. So I say take what you can from this experience. 10% or less are real jerks and unfortunately those ones communicate 60% of the time (pulled those numbers out of my ass but I'm sure I'm in the zipcode).

Thanks,
K

 

[jhop220]

I agree,

Matter of fact if you see me in the PR and general thread I speak from my own opinions and seek the opinions of others on mine and vise verse. Yeah some of the rebukes sting, but it's all part of life. I hope that either one of two things happens: 1) I change at least one person's mind or 2) my mind is changed based on the evidence presented.

For example Jager, Jhopp, Kis, and other's and I have had differences of opinion on a myriad of topics. To my knowledge they have not bashed me personally but they did punch holes in my theories. That is all good and well. Every now and then I get flamed by some folks but I let it slide.

In my early days I tended to flame from time to time myself (I regret those actions today and that was one reason I went years without posting). Anyways, to stay or not is your decision, this is my first time communicating with you and may be my last. I could disconnect tomorrow and posts will still be made and the cycle continues.

What you may want is a small support group where bonds can really be formed. In this forum some bonds have been formed but in the end everyone is anonymous, with the exception of those who go to gatherings and still use their real names there. So I say take what you can from this experience. 10% or less are real jerks and unfortunately those ones communicate 60% of the time (pulled those numbers out of my ass but I'm sure I'm in the zipcode).

Thanks,
K

HA! I see what you did there.

K brings up a good point. Head over to the volatile P&R forum. You will see different opinions, but (most of the time) there is a genuine level of respect we all share for one another.

Fact is that without this community...a lot of us would be lost and feel alone. This place helped me overcome my fears and brush them off. This is more of a support base then you will ever find. Not everyone here is for the better good, but most of us respect and support one another.

Take time to meet others, and you'll see a lot more good people reside here then bad,

 

[Phineas]

Ignoring the weirdness of someone I've never even seen post claiming they're being run off the forum with torches and pitchforks, I'm going to mention something that a lot of people seem to have difficulty with.

That being, that just because other people share your fetish does not mean they will agree and/or support everything you do or say.

I see a lot of crap that gets posted here, and when people say "uh, you know, that's not such a good thing", the response is usually some variety of "Hey, I thought you liked tickling!". Well, yes, I do, and one of the best/worst things about having this fetish is that everyone expresses it in a different way. If you come here expecting everyone to agree with you on everything you post, you're in for a rude surprise.

 

[joeschmoo13]

I completely agree with Phineas. Just because every person here shares a fetish doesn't mean they will agree on everything (or anything) else. Every person here is different and will have different views on a variety of topics. I can't speak to the original poster's experience but I've found the vast majority of people to be welcoming and nice here. Without trying to be too critical it seems foolish to me to run away from a place where you can share your fetish because of a couple bad apples. To each their own however.

 

[Myriads]

I've always known that being a member of a virtual community has its pluses and minuses. But in this particular forum, it appears that being honest and open about your feelings results in being left exposed to ridicule from people you
thought you shared something in common with and that you thought you could talk to with an element of trust. The people who read this thread will know who they are, and indeed, many of the people I've spoken, particularly from my own country, came across as nice people, and with them I have no problem. For those of you who think attention is what I crave, you clearly don't know me at all. Yes, I posted this in the forum when private messages would have sufficed, but if people want to read it,that's their own choice. Among the many reasons I originally joined this forum, attention was not one of them, I can assure you.

Anyone who has had a tickling fetish and kept it private for years, should hopefully understand where I'm coming from; when you've kept it bottled up, being open and honest about it can be a difficult thing to do. Being able to talk to people who think the same way can make it a lot easier. That was my hope, but I was wrong, and that's fine.

Philip.

Show me where on forum you have been humiliated.

Educate me as to what made your experience here poor.

Myriada

 

[pw_jagerbomb11]

Show me where on forum you have been humiliated.

Educate me as to what made your experience here poor.

Myriada

Who the f*** are you to ask for details?

 

[RChello]

leave already then...Table for one now open!

Who the f*** are you to ask for details?

 

[TKL_Rebel]

Who the f*** are you to ask for details?

Myriads is one of the forums moderators here who takes a lot of pride in the site (i assume), so if you could provide some legit proof of someone being an idiot to you, Myriads can sort it out....

Can not believe how much attention this thread got!

Can someone delete it and ban this guy since he cant bring himself to leave, or at least move this topic to the correct board "General Discussion"

 

[voided9]

I've said it before and I'll say it again - you should NEVER be embarrassed, ashamed, or humiliated about who you are and what you love. If you want to go, then just do it - but you'll have a hard time finding any other community with these kind of people who understand and share your passion for tickling. You may feel weird for it, but there's nothing wrong with you, and we are all in the same boat. We all love tickling and I'm pretty sure each of us went through a while of, "Is this normal? Is something wrong with me?" That's why it's good to be here and have people you can open up to, because they get it! They've been there! Nobody is here to hurt you or break your trust. I don't know why you feel this way, and if you want to tell me, then message me. But I know you well enough to say, this is something you NEED to talk about - whether it's on TMF or otherwise - because you are struggling with acceptance of your fetish. Don't be afraid and don't push away the ones who want to help and listen to you. But if that is what you want to do, then don't drag it out, just go.

That was fucking long and I apologize! Just had to get it out.

 

[pw_jagerbomb11]

I've expressed my opinion; if people don't like it, tough.

 

[ticklemepls]

Who the f*** are you to ask for details?

Myriads is the 'head hauncho' (or one of them) of the TMF.... he's one of the many who spent countless hours trying to keep peace in the community. He's got the ability to ban people who do not follow the rules- THATS who the f*** he is to ask for details, he's trying to help.....

Why get so ticked off at someone whos trying to help anyways? I mean I understand you're mad/humiliated or whatever... but c'mon seriously? Relax, he's trying to help figure out what happened to try and fix it.

 

[ticklemepls]

Can someone delete it and ban this guy since he cant bring himself to leave, or at least move this topic to the correct board "General Discussion"

 

[pw_jagerbomb11]

Myriads is the 'head hauncho' (or one of them) of the TMF.... he's one of the many who spent countless hours trying to keep peace in the community. He's got the ability to ban people who do not follow the rules- THATS who the f*** he is to ask for details, he's trying to help.....

So what? Maybe he needs to weed out the judgemental people on this forum, if he has the ability to ban people, he should start with the people who think it's fun to embarrass others.

 

[ticklemepls]

So what? Maybe he needs to weed out the judgemental people on this forum, if he has the ability to ban people, he should start with the people who think it's fun to embarrass others.

I'm not going to get into an argument with you... at this point it's a waste of MY time. All I'm going to say is there is THOUSANDS of threads and topics here on the TMF it is illogical to think that someone can go through and read every single solitary one of them... if he doesn't KNOW theres an issue- he cant fix it. Dude, enough already obviously you're unwilling to calm the heck down and let someone help you so sign out- and leave it at that- quit coming back if you cant accept the help trying to be given. Plain and simple.

 

[pw_jagerbomb11]

Then why don't you ban me from the forum? If I'm such an annoyance and causing the members so much irritation, have me thrown off the forum for good. So much for being able to be honest and expressing an opinion!

 

[ticklemepls]

Then why don't you ban me from the forum? If I'm such an annoyance and causing the members so much irritation, have me thrown off the forum for good. So much for being able to be honest and expressing an opinion!

you're allowed an opinion on anything you like- theres just a right and wrong way to do it- the way you come off is you dont appreciate anyone who's trying to help you, thats all. People here will help if you give them the chance- you just need to stop being so angry and let them... Theres always someone who's going to be the 'jerk' and say things that they shouldn't (we've all done it at one point or another)... but not EVERYONE is like that.

annnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnd I digress

 

[-Hari-]

So what? Maybe he needs to weed out the judgemental people on this forum, if he has the ability to ban people, he should start with the people who think it's fun to embarrass others.

How is he to do that if when asking the potential victim for input on the matter he just gets the response you gave him? make no mistake, people who constantly and deliberatelybreak the rules and make this an unpleasant place DO get dealt with, its happened in this very thread.

Now the problem I think people are having here is that youve openly declared you are leaving, upon creating this thread people were being intolerant and abusive, that got handled, but now 3 days or so later you are still here, you havent left.

Dont get me wrong, my position is unchanged, I do feel its a shame you feel the need to leave, if the fact that your still here means youve changed your mind then thats just fantastic, shall I maybe lock this thread and let it sink so you can carry on with other topics? if thats the case then please let us do our jobs and sort out any issues you may have with other users, things dont happen unless you report issues to moderators and admins etc

If not then maybe its an idea to do as you planned and leave, even if only for a break to gather your thoughts on the matter. Arguing here about it isnt helping anyone get anywhere.

Hari

 

[pw_jagerbomb11]

If you want to ban me, that's fine with me. I won't lose sleep over it. I did have quite a lot of stuff that I was looking forward to sharing on the forum, but as I said, it appears that by being opinionated, I have burned my bridges.

 

[-Hari-]

If you want to ban me, that's fine with me. I won't lose sleep over it. I did have quite a lot of stuff that I was looking forward to sharing on the forum, but as I said, it appears that by being opinionated, I have burned my bridges.

What's this talk of banning? what member of the moderation team has given you this impression? If you want to stay and share stuff on the forum then please do so.

I think people are abit confused about weather your leaving or not, hence the comments. Its as if you you've said your leaving a room and then went on to stand in the doorway talking for three days.

Why don't you just stay and post the other things you wanted to post and ignore those who annoy you?

 

[NY ler]

Thought he was leaving? LEAVE, good bye, have a nice life, byeeeee.

 

[pw_jagerbomb11]

Maybe, sometime in the future, I'll start contributing and posting on the forum again.

 

[-Hari-]

ok, until then, enjoy your other endeavours 🙂

Hari