LERs...what's your style?

[TklDuo-Ann]

This topic has been raised in a slightly different form before. But, I'm just curious to see what kind of tickling the lers here prefer. I know a lot of folks for whom it's difficult to adjust to specific lees because they tend to go into auto-pilot and stick with one form of tickling. Sooo....

Do you prefer the firmer/rougher tickling?
Do you prefer the lighter/ feathery touches?
Do you prefer something in between?
Do you prefer using toys with your tickling? (if so, which ones)
Does your style always depend on your lee?

The reason I ask this is that I've often been frustrated when people have tickled me. Because of health issues, I can't get into rougher tickling. It doesn't tickle. It just hurts and will always distract me from anything that's working. But, I've found that many people will just walk away rather than adjusting their style. Others will insist on continuing in their own way even after I let them know that it hurts, causing me to have to end the session. I know of others for whom it's the exact opposite. They need the firmer touch in order for it to tickle.

I'm extremely ticklish and love being tickled. So, when people don't pay attention or just stop and walk away, I must admit that I sometimes get annoyed. So, I just thought I'd see what those here think. Are you willing to adjust to your lees? Or do you prefer to stick with a certain style and wait for someone who'll respond favorably to it?

Please note that I'm not pointing fingers or looking for people to change who they are. I'm just curious about what your styles are. I also think that those who've been frustrated from the LER side, may want to consider this in their own play. Who knows? You may find that people who you thought weren't ticklish or who didn't like being tickled will respond more favorably to a different touch. 😉

Ann

 

[amk714]

I'd adjust my style of tickling based on the 'lee's preference, and I'd expect her to do the same when she's tickling me. If she's not willing to adjust her style, I don't want her to try tickling me because I won't like it. Since I'm not an experienced 'ler or 'lee I can't elaborate anymore than that. It's just my opinion and people can do whatever they want.

 

[theshire]

As a Ler I prefer rougher tickling, especially on the ribs and sides. However, if my Lee didn't like that because it hurt, I would switch to something lighter (of course, if they didn't like it because it tickled TOO MUCH, there would be no stopping me at all ). Everybody responds to different touches. I have a friend who really likes the gentle tickling feeling of fingernails dragging over her bare skin, so if I was tickling her I would give her some of that between the bursts of evil rough tickling.

I think of it as a tickler's job to adapt to what gets the best response out of their Lee. That's kind of the trick, isn't it?

 

[AffectionateDan]

Just depends, really...

...this is one of those questions that there's no black or white answer to. Personally, given my druthers, I prefer for the most part, soft, light, caressing tickles. In my mind, that's the way a tickle's supposed to be... tickly. But depending on the variables, such as whom you're playing with, where you're getting them (on their body), where you're at, setting-wise and the NATURE of the way you're tickling them, oh man, I could just go on and on about all the different aspects here. Bottom line is, sometimes different strokes are called for. Ya gotta switch up... variety is yummy. But for me, my favorite style is gentle, teasing touches. Lightly scratching and feathersoft fingertips. But everybody's got their own tastes and preferences.

 

[natural tickler]

The key to me is adaptation. You have your style, and tone it down or raise it up depending on the lee. Of course, pain is no fun for everyone, so I will make their comfort the #1 issue, over my excitement to tickle. I believe in variation with my style to give every lee a different flavor, and I watch closely to see which flavor works best, and go from there. The last thing you want is to not tickle someone anymore, because you were insensitive to their feelings. And Ann, I understand why you would be annoyed if someone walks away because you didn't like their style. Anyone who walks away that is insulting

 

[tommytikl]

Actually I have found that the way someone adjust's(or doesn't) their tickling style, will tell you how they adjust, or don't, to other things like sex.

I guess some people are soo specific in their tickling fetish that they loose the point that they are tickling someone who is on the other side.

Actually, Ann, it took ME a while to get used to your needing a very light touch but once I figured it out, I loved it because of your reactions...so while I had to adjust my style and work at it, I was willing too.

Some people just don't take critisim well...going back to the sex thing.

 

[laughingboy2000]

A tickler shouldn't specialize in a tickling style, he should specialize in adapting to a persons ticklishness.

 

[kingp]

Tickle threashold

I really like to start out gradually...a single finger probing an armpit while the wrists are immobile....a gentle teasing of the center of the sole....I sense the reaction from the ticklee and try to find that place where it tickles too much not to laugh, and I like to hover there for a little while. Once the giggles come more frequently I will change areas and tickle a little harder trying to get a good belly laugh from my lee. Sometimes I will whisper in her ear as I begin this game ...asking her if she can feel my fingers and can't she hold out a little longer, that its only a little finger so why are you losing control...that sort of thing.

For me its like an erotic sensual dance to be played out and enjoyed to the lees capacity. To drive her so crazy with wanting to be tickled....and touched

KingP

 

[lk70]

I really like to start out gradually...a single finger probing an armpit while the wrists are immobile....a gentle teasing of the center of the sole....I sense the reaction from the ticklee and try to find that place where it tickles too much not to laugh, and I like to hover there for a little while. Once the giggles come more frequently I will change areas and tickle a little harder trying to get a good belly laugh from my lee. Sometimes I will whisper in her ear as I begin this game ...asking her if she can feel my fingers and can't she hold out a little longer, that its only a little finger so why are you losing control...that sort of thing.

For me its like an erotic sensual dance to be played out and enjoyed to the lees capacity. To drive her so crazy with wanting to be tickled....and touched

KingP

😱 😱 😱 😱 😱

And you find that works for ya, huh?

 

[sole seeker]

good question, Ann!

I'm definitely into light and feathery touches. My favorite tactic is to lightly stroke several fingertips up and down my lee's soles, then begin to draw figure-8's in the arch and beside the ball of the foot. I generally switch gradually from fingertips to fingernails.

I also like to lightly stroke the outside and top of her foot, even though I'm definitely a sole-man. I do not like rough tickling, although I will use more force if the lee requests it.

I have used an artist's brush on a lee's soles, especially beneath and between her toes. That's always a lot of fun. Lightly dragging a fork up her soles drove one lee almost to madness.

My favorite tool is for my lee to wear hose, because most of them have been more ticklish wearing them. I love the idea that it's heightened sensation all over her foot.

I have never gotten to use an electric toothbrush on my lee's soles and toes, but I'd love the chance!

 

[Mephistopheles]

I vary between light and rough, depends on what works the best

Toys? Brushes etc.

 

[lightninbug]

Old Dogs Learn New tricks Rather Easily

Wonderous Variety is the Key.

Finding out what you're good at & modifying those talents as the situation demands; I use a light touch, a rough tough, the Barely noticable, The 'Hammer & Tongs', Tools, Toys, Tongue, Lips, Breath...

...all modified to what she wants/ likes/ desires and away from what she finds annoying; her dislikes / hates.

And you find THAT out by simply asking, experimentation and observation.

You Pay Attention

Sounds kinda dry & clinical when you write it all down, doesn't it?
BUG

 

[TikleBelly]

Tickle touch

I prefer to use a light to medium firm touch in most situations. Perhaps a rougher touch for a few seconds on rare occasions. It depends on the ticklee, their reactions and the tickling scenario. I am usually not trying to get the ticklee to use her safe word, just get her thinking about using it. lol

In a one on one, non-bondage tickle fight, I might use a firmer touch as a consequence of trying to keep her failing arms and legs under control. Gee, it's like she doesn't want me to tickle her there! ;-)

In a one on one tickling with her bound securely, I like to start very slowly and light, perhaps with a single finger trailing over her body, then slowly build up to a medium touch. A light rib massage can be so much fun!

Just about the only time I get rough is in a gang tickling situation, like at a gathering. Usually that's the only way to get a reaction. When there are five pairs of hands tickling, it's hard to tell what is tickling, and what isn't. It's easy to get carried away in that situation and use a rougher touch than I would prefer. When you get a bunch of guys together, their competitiveness comes out.

I usually don't use toys, I prefer the feeling of my fingers on the skin. Once in a while I'll use banjo picks, which work very well as a substitute for fingernails. Applying baby powder to moist skin helps the fingers glide over the skin. A small paint brush is fun once in a while too.

Well, time for a cold shower! Bye!

 

[BigJim]

I think my tickling style is best summed up by a quote from The Mystery Men, by The Sphinx.

"The octopus that plays the drums".

I lash out and tickle every possible ticklish surface with every possible tickling body part and implement and I do it at full pace going up and down through a series of different tempos, speeds and pressures. One of my UKTF lady friends described me as a "little kid in a sweet shop who's trying to grab everything he can". Ahem.

 

[SlaverTickler]

It verys

I will some times use slow constant stroking with my finger tips, or quick flurys all over, but only for a few secounds. I think the quick fluries would work better with a blined fold, but I've never tried. Either way it's alot of fun, well, for me.

 

[Luv2Tickle69]

I've never been a 'digger...' I mean..unless there's a shovel and the promise of a treasure beneath my feet, I ain't diggin' NOTHIN'....

....my primary target of choice has always been the feet....and I love being able to gently skritch my fingertips along the soles in varying speeds....MAYBE the occasional rake or swipe up the soles to spice things up, or applying different pressures; cautious NOT to cause pain....after all, tickling shouldn't hurt!!!!

....I've found that I don't tickle other body parts too much differently than I do the feet....ribs, belly, legs...what have you....my fingers tend to do much the same things....and I'll mix it up, but I'm always mindful of pressures.....

 

[TickledToDeath]

Love all levels of tickling as both ler and the lee HOWever, I do lean more towards the INTENSE and merciless tickling but can and will adjust if needed.

 

[natural tickler]

I don't actually believe there is a such thing as style, although I believe we all have different techniques. We all have the same style per se, just different ways of delivering such style

 

[BigJim]

A rose is a rose is a rose.