Looks vs Personality

[Em Es]

Looks are easier to improve than personality

Give me the ticklish plain Jane who lives to please me over the knockout who is too much pain for the pleasure, any day.

 

[JoBelle]

Nice round of thoughts from people. Good question Shygirl!

I personally think that personality is more important than looks. Note I didn't say looks weren't important at all though. There is a type that I'm attracted to...and I fit the bill for them too. Life is sweet, no? 😉

Short term play might be most fulfilling for some if their partner is their idea of gorgeous, but long term life...and long term pay pals need more to sustain things. Half the fun of playing is the ability to appreciate a tease and a good prank or joke! God forbid your perfect person have a nasty car wreck, get burned, or develop some type of illness that leaves a scar after treatment. Your world can quickly crumble if you build it on that pretty sparkling sand that is so easily washed away. And let's not forget that gravity pulls on everyone...lol...and that wrinkles grow on all faces! Let's hope your pal agrees you're hot enough for them after the downhill slide starts! 😛

Give me a witty, intelligent man over a big dumb bulky guy ANYDAY!
Joby

 

[natural tickler]

I would definitely go for the personality. If they're beautiful inside, you can get over the outside. If you have an air-headed hottie, all you'll have is a dim-witted point of view. However, if you can manage to get both, that would be a great bonus

 

[drew70]

For me, intelligence is not a prime factor. Looks and personality are more important. If she's cute and sweet, I don't care how smart or dumb she is.

 

[Double T]

For me, intelligence is not a prime factor. Looks and personality are more important. If she's cute and sweet, I don't care how smart or dumb she is.

I, also, prefer a great personality over beauty. It's the inside that counts. As for inteligence, I find that very attractive, too. When I was in college, and talked to a girl, I could tell by looking her in the eyes if I was talking with her, or at her. Of course, her responses were key in determining this also. Too many "Uh huh"'s and "Yeah"'s just didn't cut it. Someone who could actually carry thier part of the conversation was what won my admiration. So I would prize personality, inteligence, honesty, trustworthyness, compassion, warmth, and a sense of humor above physical appearence.

 

[crydun]

Wow!!

you fellows are raising my hopes about the male species of the human race!! I'm beginning to think I might find someone after all!!!

 

[Knox The Hatter]

"Over the long haul, I think personality is definitely more important than looks. The personality is what you remember your "playmate" by and goes to building memories that you share over a long term period. It helps establish the friendship factor, which is the lasting thing in a relationship."

Ah, yes! Something I always felt was MOST important: the "Friendship Factor"...because, just what IS the partner you've chosen, if he or she is not a friend? Most people separate the two ("she's not my friend, she's my wife! What the hell's the matter with you anyway?"), without giving it much thought, which is the source of many potential problems. The truth is, my wife is my best friend, even better than my actual best friend, in many ways. You can't buy loyalty like this, or for that matter, love. That is also where a great personality comes in. It makes what is good that much better...

 

[trepak]

If she can keep her mouth shut, I prefer LOOKS as I got enough personality and intelligence for both of us. And hey, I've got friends to talk with....

 

[njjen3953]

If she can keep her mouth shut, I prefer LOOKS as I got enough personality and intelligence for both of us. And hey, I've got friends to talk with....

Ohhhh. What a charmer he is.

 

[pghtickleguy]

Personality wins out with me everytime. Looks are nice but if they are dumber than a pile of bricks then what? Boredom will set in quickly.

 

[JPie1]

I would definitely have to say personality is more important, looks are nice but it doesn't make a realtionship. If you want a quick playmate then you can go for looks, if you want something real, something that will last and endure you definitely want personality.

 

[grippedchimp]

If she can keep her mouth shut, I prefer LOOKS as I got enough personality and intelligence for both of us. And hey, I've got friends to talk with....

And you wonder why men like this can't get laid...

 

[Enny]

Personality is way over looks. I will admit that yeah it's great to have someone that looks good, but it isn't so great to have someone that doesn't have a personality at all, especially if the person acts very fake.

 

[Iggy pop]

And you wonder why men like this can't get laid...

I don't know where you have been. I've know a lot of guys like this in my time.(I'm a little ashamed some have even been friends of mine) Men like this get laid all the time. Its just that men like this usually have a hard time staying in a relationship.

 

[SmileyTkls]

Must it be looks or personality? I happen to think there are lots of women and men (here on the forum and in offline life) that are winners in both categories! Now, having said that, I do know that there are people who are lookers, but spoil it with their words and actions, and plain people, who vitally enhance their looks just by their wit and charm. I've personally experienced the "beautifying" of a woman by getting to be around them, till I couldn't understand how a pretty gal like her would want to be with me. So, I suppose, I'd have to say personality, but some lucky slobs get both all rolled into one lushious, ticklish package. 😀

Smiley

 

[trepak]

that's why......

.......I didn't post my whole story in the first place. Just wanted to see how you guys would react😱 shame on me! I'm always making fun of anything and anyone - I know this ain't the best behaviour, my girlfriend tells me all the time ( that idiot's got a girlfriend?? How the hell could that happen?? )
I don't know either but it works great for about 5 years now and there'll be much more to come.....Oh, by the way, my girlfriend looks great AND has got personality.
I find it amusing that you talk about 'men like this' although you know nothing about me. But I don' take it too serious 'cause that's the way most people are. I just said what's my opinion and that is of course a matter of my personal situation. The question in the first post of this thread is assuming, that you can choose between looks OR personality. Of course, we all would choose both if possible - but that's not the point. And in my situation I'd definately prefer looks, period (OH MY GOD - HE DID IT AGAIN 😱 ). And I'll tell you why: I've got a great relationship, so the only way for me to choose between looks or personality would be a quick adventure, and then it is looks, nothing but looks - because I simply don't want to talk with her and that's why she better keeps her mouth shut (assuming that she's JUST good looking - I am Mr. Conversation himself but not while having sex, ptui). And if you're looking for a one-night-stand (better: a 'some-hours-stand'), do you care if the other one's got a 'Dr.' in front of his/her name? Well, I don't. It's just much easier to find someone great looking and dumb than a 'drop-dead-beautiful-nobel-price-winner'. And stupid people want to get laid too - so what's wrong with helping them? 😀 (seems to be a really GREAT relationship if he already thinks about some 'adventures' that's what you think now, isn't it? Sorry, but YOU did it again - still you don't know me at all....). I don't know what you call it but to simply translate it from my language: we've got an 'open relationship'. That means we are together, we love each other BUT we (that includes her too) can have sex with other people if we want to 🙂eek: what the hell is wrong with german people?😱 ) This is just for the open minded - so if you're not, don't try that. But for us, it works great.
Oh, and I never had problems with getting laid, thank you, Mr Chimp.

 

[Knox The Hatter]

Shining Ice has been here long enough to play devil's advocate with everyone here knowing what he's aiming at. You haven't. You're upset with everyone else's reaction? Oh, well.
As far as the indignation about our opinions, well, keep in mind that you're gonna have to deal in the future with Chimpy and Jen and the others here a lot more than you think when you come in here.
Get to know the rest of us better, let us get to know you better, before you start playing devil's advocate...🙂

 

[njjen3953]

trepak,
If she keeps her mouth shut, how will you know what SHE likes sexually? Or, is that not of any importance or concern to you?

 

[trepak]

I'm not upset....

....why should I? I'm really not upset with your reactions. Oh, and I'm here for about 2 years now (not as a registered member, but as a guest) - so I'm not such a newbie after all. And I'd be more than happy to chat here with all of you guys - including 'chimpy' and 'jen' and you Mr Knox. Actually I don't know why you all are so upset about me. I made a statement that may have sounded a little strange for you but shygirl asked about our opinions - so here's mine. If you don't like it, ok. If you want to talk about it, great. But don't judge it (or me) without knowing about its background.
Conversation can only work (in an interesting way) if there's people with different opinions. It would be a very boring thread if every post would say: 'I prefer personality' - 'Me too' - 'I agree' - 'Yeah, personality it is' - 'You're right' - 'I agree' - 'Me too' ......... My opinion's different from the ones I've read here so I thought, a new point of view could make things a little bit more interesting. So well, if you've got a problem with different (strange, weird or whatever) opinions, just tell me and I'll go - but that's not the way a forum works (at least that's what I thought.......)

 

[giantfan121262]

Ah, yes! Something I always felt was MOST important: the "Friendship Factor"...because, just what IS the partner you've chosen, if he or she is not a friend? Most people separate the two ("she's not my friend, she's my wife! What the hell's the matter with you anyway?"), without giving it much thought, which is the source of many potential problems. The truth is, my wife is my best friend, even better than my actual best friend, in many ways. You can't buy loyalty like this, or for that matter, love. That is also where a great personality comes in. It makes what is good that much better... [/B][/QUOTE]

Couldn't agree with you more, man. On all counts.

 

[Drago69]

Personality, definitely.

Like, one time at the movies, I was going in to get a ticket for a movie and I saw this girl ahead of me in line, and she wasn't all that attractive or anything, and I didn't really look at her very much. Then after the movie, outside, she came up and started talking to me out of nowhere ('cause she likes talking to strangers for some reason) and she was nice and stuff, and all of a sudden I couldn't get her out of my mind. I just wish I wasn't so shy around girls, so that I could've talked to her a bit better... oh well.

Anyway, it's really hard to be attracted to anyone anymore without talking to them and seeing what they're like

 

[Em Es]

Right on , Drago69

Drago69, I've had that happen. You are so right. Women whom at first I did not notice, or even disliked, grew on me. As I got to know them, they started to look better and better.

For example, my senior year of college I had a work-study job helping freshmen who were struggling with composition. This girl Adele was a fellow tutor. She was short, probably 5'1'" or 5'2," and since I'm only 5'8," that was cool. Adele had an okay figure, maybe a few pounds overweight. Her face was pleasant and round, not particularly pretty but certainly not ugly. Adele had short hair, always a turn-off for me, brown and permed a bit curly. Had we only met once, I would never have thought of her again.

I spoke with Adele intermittently through the semester but never clicked with her. She was always nice, I must say. But at the Christmas party that December, I realized how attractive Adele could be when she showed up in tight black pants, which made her rear end look shapely. All of a sudden, I was sweet on Adele.

By the end of the night, Adele and I were kissing. Of course I tried tickling her, and when Adele wriggled in ticklish reaction, I tickled her for quite a while. She was truly submissive, laughing and shaking, trying to fend off my tickling hands but never complaining about it.

Ultimately we went out on a date, despite the fact she had a long distance boyfriend. For some reason I didn't tickle her much that night. While we worked the spring semester in the same place, I tickled her once in a while but that was it.

Well, that was a long-winded way just to agree with Drago69, wasn't it?

 

[Knox The Hatter]

Trepak (I do love your screen name; I am a great Tchaikowsky enthusiast), I have no problems with differing viewpoints. I just thought yours wasn't meant to enlighten. I thought it was meant to provoke negative reactions for the sake of provoking negative reactions. If wrong, I do apologize.