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Looks vs Personality
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I would definitely choose personalty over pure physical beauty. The reason is that though the playmate may be very attractive at first sight, this attraction would steadily decline each time she openned her mouth. The opposite would be true of the person with average looks. Average looks and a great personality combine to make a very attractive woman indeed.
Looks and personality are both important. Too much emphasis on one or the other is probably not a good idea. Many attractive people have good personalities as well. If a person feels good about himself or herself, generally that person will take steps to maintain a pleasant appearance. So, you might not have to choose one quality over the other. You can have your cake and eat it too, so to speak.
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Definetly personality.
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Both are good. But, personality is MUCH more important to me.
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In all total complete hard core up front honest reality, I'd have to go on a case-by-case basis with each prsn. Sometimes I like LISTENING to music, sometimes I like LOOKING at a a painting...... but if I can find a singing painting, that would be great!
Personality vs Looks
In my case, I first was attracted to my boyfriend because of his personality. As time has passed, I realized that he is also very cute and lovely. I think my love for him makes me see him in a beautiful way if that makes any sense.
In my case, I first was attracted to my boyfriend because of his personality. As time has passed, I realized that he is also very cute and lovely. I think my love for him makes me see him in a beautiful way if that makes any sense.
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Personality does take presidence over looks. A bit o both is nice though, HOWever, you could have one of the greatest looking people in the world and have a personality that would turn milk sour at a glance, making that person UGLY on the inside which is BAD news.
On the flip side, you could have a person who may only be attractive to her/his friends or whatever have you, a person who will not be considered a model etc. but have a personality that is just plain great, that person is far more attractive than the former.
If the core of someone is rotten, that person is rotten through and through regardless of the appearance.
You can see a beautiful apple, bite into it and notice it is rotten and full of worms, you will spit out the bite and toss the apple into the trash where it belongs.
Same goes for people as far as I am concerned. Not that I take bites out of people.......then again..😉
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On the flip side, you could have a person who may only be attractive to her/his friends or whatever have you, a person who will not be considered a model etc. but have a personality that is just plain great, that person is far more attractive than the former.
If the core of someone is rotten, that person is rotten through and through regardless of the appearance.
You can see a beautiful apple, bite into it and notice it is rotten and full of worms, you will spit out the bite and toss the apple into the trash where it belongs.
Same goes for people as far as I am concerned. Not that I take bites out of people.......then again..😉
😛 😀 TTD
Okay, maybe I just have a really warped world view, but . . . since you asked, I'm sharing.
I am assuming by "playmate" we are referring to someone you engage in bondage/tickle/etc. play with. Looks are nice, and personality is good also, but above those I would put trustworthiness. Top of my list and non-negotiable, as a matter of fact. Everything else is secondary.
I am assuming by "playmate" we are referring to someone you engage in bondage/tickle/etc. play with. Looks are nice, and personality is good also, but above those I would put trustworthiness. Top of my list and non-negotiable, as a matter of fact. Everything else is secondary.
Looks will get my attention. Personality will keep it. Both are important. If you are great looking, but have no personality then I will get bored with you and move on. If you have great personality but I am not attracted to you physically at all then the best you will you ever be with me is a buddy or friend nothing more.
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An average looking person with a great sense of humour and vivaciousness would win over a dim glamour girl any day for me. OK sure, I have this tendancy to seek out the more attractive ones, but if they can't keep a good conversation going and aren't up for a laugh, I'll drift off. Just a right balance of both should be needed.
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A lively light in his eyes & a kind smile...
Helena, yes, nicely said!
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Helena, yes, nicely said!
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A great personality, for me, covers a HOST of ills as far as appearance goes. If your personality sucks, than I don't care what you look like, I don't want you around. Go find some fatuous dweeb to ogle and fawn over you, there are plenty of them around.
Girls with great personalities are such a premium in this world, such a treasure, that I usually find some way to include them in my life in such a way that does not interfere with my marriage, and benefits us all. It's a beautiful thing...
Girls with great personalities are such a premium in this world, such a treasure, that I usually find some way to include them in my life in such a way that does not interfere with my marriage, and benefits us all. It's a beautiful thing...
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Hmm...
I would rather have someone who is fun to hang out with and looks ok rather than some hottie who cant carry on a conversation
I would rather have someone who is fun to hang out with and looks ok rather than some hottie who cant carry on a conversation
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Most hotties either are incapable of carrying on a conversation, or WON'T, because they feel that such a task isn't their responsibility; it's enough just to sit there and be hot, and who needs that extra responsibility anyway?
A crashing bore, they are.
A crashing bore, they are.
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I would go with personality over looks. If you really don't like somebody, their good looks are no compensation.
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Not ALL hotties are boring and shallow. Come on people 🙄
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Quiet you, I was reffering to hot women
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Over the long haul, I think personality is definitely more important than looks. The personality is what you remember your "playmate" by and goes to building memories that you share over a long term period. It helps establish the friendship factor, which is the lasting thing in a relationship.
Fortunetely for me, I am married to a very beautiful woman who can charm a rattlesnake. So, as Drew said, "you can have your cake and eat it too" 😉
Fortunetely for me, I am married to a very beautiful woman who can charm a rattlesnake. So, as Drew said, "you can have your cake and eat it too" 😉
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Cut off the head and the body will die; the reverse is also true.
In the same manner, you can't have a surviving sensual relationship with a person if you aren't physically attracted to them and have at least a minimal amount of respect for them.
You can have a dying or short term relationship with those people, though; and those can be kind of fun.
I mean, myself, I'm a rarity; I won't hook up with a girl to which I'm not physically attracted. I believe that physical attraction is one of the separators between FRIENDS and LOVERS. (I do have a bad habit of hooking up with my hot friends from time to time ... to time, though; but that's another story.)
But lots of guys hook up with girls that they aren't physically attracted to for one night stands or even indefinite sex buddies, and in our generation, whatever a man is doing, you can be sure women are doing twice as much of it.
And who wouldn't love to rail, tickle or otherwise torture a beautiful shrew or jerk. I know you can sign me up!!!!
So, if you want it to last, you're gonna need to have the whole package. Else, just do what feels right.
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Cut off the head and the body will die; the reverse is also true.
In the same manner, you can't have a surviving sensual relationship with a person if you aren't physically attracted to them and have at least a minimal amount of respect for them.
You can have a dying or short term relationship with those people, though; and those can be kind of fun.
I mean, myself, I'm a rarity; I won't hook up with a girl to which I'm not physically attracted. I believe that physical attraction is one of the separators between FRIENDS and LOVERS. (I do have a bad habit of hooking up with my hot friends from time to time ... to time, though; but that's another story.)
But lots of guys hook up with girls that they aren't physically attracted to for one night stands or even indefinite sex buddies, and in our generation, whatever a man is doing, you can be sure women are doing twice as much of it.
And who wouldn't love to rail, tickle or otherwise torture a beautiful shrew or jerk. I know you can sign me up!!!!
So, if you want it to last, you're gonna need to have the whole package. Else, just do what feels right.
T
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Personality is definately more important to me. Albeit, there are certain fantasy men that I'm attracted to that are also very unattainable(John Stamos *ahem* did I say that????) However, beauty fades, dumb is forever! I just came out of a bad relationship with someone who was EXTREMELY attractive on the outside, but had the personality of a snake on the inside. So, as I was saying, I like a man with a great personality who is honest, trustworthy and can make me laugh(all tickling aside) And if he has great abs and chest and eyes like John Stamos, then "ohhhhhh, heaven is a place on earth!!"
