Lost a friend

[aun_existe_amor]

Thanks isabeau, you're very kind 🙂

 

[ViperGTS]

*hugs maureen* I hope you feel better soon and get over your grieving. Think happy thoughts! hehe. If you need someone to talk to, IM me.

 

[steph]

I've lost many friends~I wish I could say it gets easier but losing someone you love never does. It all began for me at 19 when my high school sweetheart and fiance Danny (22) died mountain climbing~I've lost about 9 other friends since graduating college. It really blows. The good news is that in time, the pain does fade. I'm so sorry to hear your sad news. PM if you like....

XOXO

 

[Michael514]

Sweety, just grieve the way you feel. I know first hand about strokes and what they can do. I saw it happen to my grandfather and mother, and I have the high blood pressure too. I too am a major candidate for one. That's another story. Please Know this though, in time it will heal and we, as members and a family, are always here to help. Please pm me if you need to talk. I'll listen. Please take care.

 

[unit5610]

aun...you have my thoughts and prayers as you go through this difficult time. The situation with your siblings must be so difficult and I so understand that you don't want your daughter to grow up being everybody's caretaker like you've been. She is obviously a fine and very caring young person already and you can be very be proud of that. I know it's not much consolation because we're so far away but you have many friends on this forum who think very highly of you. Good luck..things will improve for you!

 

[maureen28]

I just want to thank everyone for their support. You guys are really like a family. And Aun, feel free to PM me anytime so we can talk.

 

[TicklishLurker]

I lost my best friend last year - she had Cystic Fibrosis, she was 26.

I cried a lot. Mostly in private. I was angry - at God for letting her die (she just had a double lung transplant and had it been successful she would've lived a long, normal life), at myself for living, at the world for going on.

All I can suggest is time. I managed to keep my sanity, believe it or not, thanks to the music of Barry Manilow. Something specific about the way he sings always makes me feel better no matter how depressed, angry, or even PMSy I am. But what works for me won't work for all.

I still miss Erin, of course. During her birthday this year all I did was mope. Same them last year when it came around the aniversary of her transplant.

Time and allowing yourself to grieve is all I can suggest. But if there's something that makes you really happy, no matter what, so long as it's not destructive like heavy drinking or drugs, I say endulge yourself in it, a lot.

 

[lite]

I'm so sorry for your loss, Maureen. I don't really think I can add much to what the other fine people have posted, except to say that you will be in my thoughts and prayers.

And here's one for Aun: . I'm sending my thoughts and prayers for you as well.

 

[aun_existe_amor]

Thanks Everyone. Just to let you know, he died last night. It's very sad but a big relief.

 

[chickles_:)]

Thanks Sultry and isabeau 🙂 You made me cry lol

Hiya Aun,,
I read your reply. It's amazing how we set about genuinely trying to connect and help and something hooks the pain that lies deep within us. I hope you no longer feel badly about letting it out on this thread. I have been to many funerals and people who come so often come wanting to support the one who has lost a special person but they can't help but be reminded of the precious person they once lost how ever many years before. It's simply part of being the social creatures we humans are. 🙂
I'm really happy for you that others have responded to your need for contact. Please feel free to PM me too if it helps. The beauty of this forum is that no matter the miles you have friends here who care.
You have endured more than many. My heart is with you, Aun, in thoughts and prayers.
Chickles

 

[chickles_:)]

I just want to thank everyone for their support. You guys are really like a family. And Aun, feel free to PM me anytime so we can talk.

Hiya Maureen,
Thank you for being brave enough to come here to look for support! Hon, that always takes courage. But finding caring people to talk with is the best thing we can do when we feel the pain of loss.

I would simply echo the sound advice you have received from so many. One thing i would add which you may have heard already is that grief is a curious thing. Experts have done a fine job tracking the stages of grief and all but the reality is that grief is not logical. Just when you think you're done crying, raging, or depressing, something will come along out of the blue and bring tears to your eyes - for no reason that you can even figure out. -even years later!
THAT'S NORMAL!
--just so you know should it ever happen.

The other thing is that this first year will likely be hardest. there's something about the first go-round facing all the 'dates' that were significant in your relationship that will bring back many of the strongest memories.
There's really no way to prepare for it, except to know it will happen and to accept yourself when an anniversary or two swings your moods and affects your life.

Best of all, remember that you are not alone. You have reached out here, and i'm sure elsewhere, and you have received lots of TLC. Hold on to that when the nights get long. Remember that we really care about you, Maureen.

PM me if you wish🙂 Maureen, you're in my heart in thoughts and prayers.

Many blessings,
Chickles

 

[aun_existe_amor]

Chickles, you are so obviously a kind and thoughtful person. Thank you so much for your kind words. Thank you everyone for your kind words. I'm starting to feel like I have a TMF family to turn to when I need some support 🙂

 

[maureen28]

Oh, Aun, I am so sorry for your loss. Please feel free to PM me anytime you need to talk.

 

[chickles_:)]

Chickles, you are so obviously a kind and thoughtful person. Thank you so much for your kind words. Thank you everyone for your kind words. I'm starting to feel like I have a TMF family to turn to when I need some support 🙂

Hiya Aun!
I'm so glad you feel the family of this forum! And you too Maureen. I know i feel the preciousness of people here who have been a great support when i've needed it.
May life take you ever more into sunshiny days ahead!
You so definitely deserve it.🙂

Many blessings,
Chickles