Papabear said:
Okay I am going to rant for just a moment,
Let's see my daughter got high and stole a purse then got arrested then got out and got high then had a child then kept getting high and neglected her child then kept getting high and lost her boyfriend. I love my daughter and grand daughter but if she did not get high she would not be a 19 yr old mother of a two year old that she basically does not want.
Blaming a troubled teenager's poor choices on 'getting high' is soooooo easy for parents to do, but it's equivalent to blaming an eating disorder on the food. Statistics and the facts of life indicate with very high certainty that if your daughter did not get high she would make just as bad decisions in some other way. I'm sorry to be so blunt, and I do not mean to disrespect your pain over the situation or to judge without knowing those involved, but *rationally*, what happened is your daughter's fault, not that of any drug. In fact, chances are pretty good that she's getting high in order to *escape* her problems, so that the problems are causing the drug use and not the other way around. People make their own choices in life, and cannot fob off the responsibility for them on an inert substance with no intentions and no moral responsibility.
Millions of people smoke pot every day without stealing or neglecting anything, without getting pregnant or arrested. In fact, many smoke pot and then, under its influence, accomplish great and beautiful things--look at the music of The Beatles, or the comedy of Rodney Dangerfield, or the poetry of Allen Ginsberg. Those people do not need to be hunted down, arrested, and harrassed because some other people use the same substance and then make bad choices instead of good ones.
Virtually anything that is good carries some risk of abuse. Some people are addicted to sex: they have it all the time, everywhere, with no protection, with people they don't know in situations they don't control. Those people end up with STDs, unwanted pregnancies, inability to have healthy relationships, loss of the ability to accomplish anything else in life, and a host of other problems. So do we then ban sex, since it has such a disintegrative effect on some lives? Sure, go ahead--if you want to see the human race go extinct.
While your daughter's situation is sad and no one can really blame you for wanting to lash out at some scapegoat, marijuana most certainly did not go into her mind and tell her to make those bad decisions any more than a rope tells someone to hang themselves with it. Because some people hang themselves with rope, are we to persecute the millions of others who use rope for other purposes--say, maybe to consensually tie up people so they can be tickled?