men, again!!!

[sugarmouse]

ok i posted up a bit ago about me finishin with my ex he didnt come to seeme when i was ill and i thort he didnt give a toss abot me....anyways wen i was beta i went out with him an tort what have i doen he hasloads of gud points andcompared to my ex hes an angel.we get bk together afterhe ses sorry an all this and then few days later he changes his mind ses he deserved to be dumped he was horrible to me and i shud move on.....im gutted.....then we sleep together one nite and i ask after a few times of seein him are we bk together? and he ses yes. that was thursday.
he meets me from work lasntite we go out for a drink and he has a face like a smacked arse and i ask wots rong an he ses hes changed his mind he wants to b single and he wants us to quitwell were ahead...befor he gets bored and does somthing thatll hurt me then, later on in the nite he tells me he can already forseehim regretting it so i said if yu can tell that why are you doing it? and then i asked maybe he needs time to htink about it and did he want a week? and he said yes.....me been a stupid ass slept with him lasntie even tho i reallypromised myself i wudnt he just left now wen i was still in bed i pretended tobe asweep didnt saybye..compared to other guys he was a star i dnt no wot to feel like now

 

[qjakal]

Indecision...

Sorry to hear you're struggling, mouse, but I have to agree that continuing to sleep with him while letting him make up his mind IS a bit generous! Guess you're too nice for your own good.....

Sounds like you'd be better off finding someone new who actually appreciates you and doesn't have to mediatate upon it for days at a time..

My 2 cents, Ms. Mouse.....good luck to you in any event.

Q

 

[The Sean Man]

I agree with qjakal. Drop him and find someone else who'll appreciate you. A good friend of mine has been "indecisive" about a girl he's been dating...FOR A YEAR!!! He's driving this poor girl out of her mind, and despite the reamings from myself and our other friends, he sees nothing wrong with it😡 Chin up, Sugarmouse

The Sean Man

 

[steph]

Didn't you say this guy was like, 40?

Over in the states we have a saying Sugar..."Dump that zero and find you a hero..."

Lordy, what a head case 🙄
You deserve better.

XOXO

 

[leafstk]

I agree 😡 Sorry to hear about all that Sugarmouse, you do deserve better than that 🙂

 

[Knox The Hatter]

As you go through life, Shuggy, you'll see that it's one learning experience after another that leads you to the right man. Obviously, this moron is clearly not worth your time and effort, and continuing to put up with this can only lead to more pain. Now, you know you're much better than hanging with this piece of shit. And, uh, no, your legs are as closed as the liquor store at 4AM from now on! Time to start anew, and I'm in your corner.

 

[sugarmouse]

thnaks so much everyone!he dunt bother me...he seems tho think hes brokenmy heart ill have to put him rite on that one...lol...wot bothers me is...
my first bf used me for money an my house...second one turned gay...thrd one used me for sex...fourth one stewart nuff sed shagge dbehind my back used me for money lied to my own friends about me stole from me then i had a much regretted one nite stand and now this one............are yu all lying when yu say yur happilly with someone lol its kindof scary beensingle ppl say i send out the rong signals tho...cos im bit flirty and..this ll sound big heded....my best friend sed i rely onmy looks alot..and that stops men from noticing that im something more than that..it maybe comes from the fact that iv done glamour modellin and stuff..i duno !?!😕

 

[nenezinho]

well sugar....I´m a perfect stranger but if you´re regarding a lot on looks you will have a great chance of getting the wrong kind of people!

Not that good persons can´t look good or can´t love good looking people, it´s just that the generally, people who get to a flirty and good looking girl are people who just want to play a bit and have some fun. Then, when you start getting close to them they run away because in their minds they just want to be free and be able to find more people like you and have more fun.

You´ll have to be careful, don´t be afraid of being alone some time, choose wisely 🙂 sometimes what looks the best ends up being the worst on the long run.

While many of us guys are just out there to play this isn´t true for every single one and you can surely find a nice guy who really cares for you.

good luck!!!! I could tell you something about you girls myself lol maybe another time....i´ve had my share of disapointment also....it just happens when you´re a kind and loving persson, you tend to get disapointed cause a lot of people care very little for others.

 

[Jimblast]

Guys are such...

We guys are such A-holes.....I hate us!

 

[TicklishSinner]

Aww mouse im sorry to hear that..not all guys are assholes...you will find one that will treat you like a queen someday!!

 

[sugarmouse]

thankyou nen 🙂 ..i m jus bubbly and always laughing..maybe ppl jus thimnk im just after a good time..when relaly i want more than that...i dnt go for good lookin guys tho as a rule i go for someoen who i feel has a heartbeat..its not that i go for men who r likely to be players..thanks sinner huni😉 i ope i get somoen who cares next time🙂

 

[drew70]

Whatever you decide, it's going to be tough. My heart goes out to you. He's definitely not treating you right, though. That at least is clear.

 

[steph]

I think the choice is yours Sugar...

We have a few things in common--we have the same personality and when I was your age, a bazilion years ago, I did nude modeling for art classes to make rent. What I've learned since is that looks only get you so far, and they change as you age. Work on your studies, keep being a sweetheart and concentrate on developing your "radar" so you'll know a bum next time ya see one...

XOXO

i ope i get somoen who cares next time🙂

 

[Limeoutsider]

buy a cat

 

[mgctouch]

Hey there mouse, this might sound a bit simplistic but it actually can be a good tool for learning about the men you date.... When you go out on dates, try to do activities like miniature golf, dining out, and walking onthe beach or a nature trail instead of going to a movie.

Playing games like miniature golf allow you to see if the man is so competitive that he get agitated if he is losing or if he is more concerned with just having fun and making the moment special for you. It also allows you to talk and learn abuot each other while you are playing - something whichis difficult to accomplish in a movie.

Other activities which are good are spending a night in playing cards and board games - again to see if the man thinks more about you or more abuot himself.

If you are considering the man for more than an occassional date, introduce him to your friends and plan to meet his friends. Listen to what your friends say and ask his friends about him. In the process, keep your ears open and don't let your heart make you blind and deaf during the time when you really need to be learning abuot the man.

I wish you all the luck in finding a man who will honor and cherish you and treat you as you deserve to be treated.

 

[sugarmouse]

thanks everyone, i have a hamster lime, will that do?lolwell the ex was speaklin to mne yesdi and wants to take me out tomoro nite lol not sure yet but i am feelin a lot happier thankyou for carin ppl🙂

 

[BigBrownEyes]

Sugar, I'm sorry to hear that your personal life is disappointing. Well, you're not alone on that one.

Your problem is nearly jumping off the page. The topic heading you chose, "men again," is suggesting that "all men are such and such..." Ok, that's a problem. I could sit here and say that all women are *****s and bitches, just as easy as you can say that all men are assholes and jerks. Obviously, it doesn't sound very nice, and it's not true.

The problem is that you are agressively picking the wrong type of guys. The guys you're picking are jerks right from the start. Hey, it's textbook!

The biggest untruth that I ever hear young women say is "I just want to meet a nice guy." The barroom is filled with nice guys, but the a-holes get picked.

For some reason, you're attracted to the wrong type of guy. Maybe the jerks are more exciting, or maybe you're addicted to the drama. That one, I don't know.

Hey, I've done it, too! Passed up on a very nice lady so I could chase someone who really isn't that interested, and loves to drag me through the mud. Why do we do it? Maybe we're afraid of commitment. Or, maybe we're afraid of boredom.

I mean all this constructively. I do the same crap.

 

[sugarmouse]

ihear yu! truth is most of my friends are men and i dnt thinkmen are all assholes or whatever.i just as you say, seem to get the wrong ones for whatever reason.im going to be more careful in the future🙂

 

[the_Baron]

how about a convent? these days, you could see some action there!

 

[BigBrownEyes]

My sister kept picking the same type of guys, over and over. She was always attracted to wild ass drunks, who didn't treat her nice at all. Finally, after a very bad experience, she now picks genuinely nice guys. Does she ever fall in love with the nice ones? Probably not But, at least, she's gotten away from guys who are bad for her. 🙂

 

[mgctouch]

lol well the ex was speaklin to mne yesdi and wants to take me out tomoro nite lol not sure yet but i am feelin a lot happier thankyou for carin ppl🙂

You could always accept his invitation to go out, insist that he treat you to a nice expensive dinner and movie (or other activity of your choosing) and then claim to have a massive headache as you go home. When you get home, show him to the door as you "prepare" to go to bed!😀 😉 😀 😉 😎

 

[CaptainQuantum]

Over in the states we have a saying Sugar..."Dump that zero and find you a hero..."

You better check yourself before you wreck yourself. Don't go there girlfriend. Mmmhmm. Talk to the hand cause the head ain't hearin ya.

Go Ricki! Go Ricki! Go Ricki!

And Sugarmouse, if you read this and don't know who Ricki Lake is in the UK, consider yourself lucky lol

 

[kcantankerous]

You can listen to everyones advice or you can stay and be somebodies bitch. It's your choice sugar, thats pretty much the size of the issue.

 

[dskodj]

Sugarmouse, I really dont know you (or many on the forum these days to be honest lol) but ive sent you a PM regarding my input on this cause in some ways we are in a simmaler situation..originaly posted it here but I decided to delete it and send private cuz it was a little too personal to me LOL So check ur PM and maybe my input will help a bit of your confusion 🙂