My last time on here.

[BostonTickling]

There's a difference between doing something to make your partner happy, and sacrificing a part of yourself just to appease them. Chances are (and this is just my opinion) that if you are doing this just for the sake of saving your relationship, but are still harboring but repressing the desire to be on the forum and connect with people who share your interest in tickling , then it will eat away at you, and it wont be good. I am a big fan of people doing whatever makes them happy. And you should never have to sacrifice any part of yourself for anyone else. Again, this is just my two cents. 🙂

 

[Tiger.Lily]

Sacrificing a part of himself? Has anyone actually read the posts he's made or is everyone too busy talking out of their asses about "leaving the forum for a girlfriend" to bother? He's not just chatting on TK or Gen Dis and involving himself in the community. He's making threads about meeting up with people and playing. Now, in comes the girlfriend of 3 years who sees that not only has he never told her about this forum but he's also been propositioning play time with other people. Something that is clearly very sexual in nature.

And no one else seems to think that this is a legitimate issue of trust and boundaries?

I can see the argument had it been a purely innocent endeavor of chatting with friends and looking up videos but it was most certainly NOT that. I think if everyone took a step down off their mighty pedestals and took into account the facts there would be a lot less judgment and a lot more understanding.

 

[BostonTickling]

Sacrificing a part of himself? Has anyone actually read the posts he's made or is everyone too busy talking out of their asses about "leaving the forum for a girlfriend" to bother? He's not just chatting on TK or Gen Dis and involving himself in the community. He's making threads about meeting up with people and playing. Now, in comes the girlfriend of 3 years who sees that not only has he never told her about this forum but he's also been propositioning play time with other people. Something that is clearly very sexual in nature.

And no one else seems to think that this is a legitimate issue of trust and boundaries?

I can see the argument had it been a purely innocent endeavor of chatting with friends and looking up videos but it was most certainly NOT that.

I did read the thread. And yuou are absolutely right. This is an issue of trust and boundaries. My opinion is that if he has a vested interest in meeting people on the TMF and playing with them, then he probably shouldn't be in a committed relationship. It is not fair to her. Even if he abstains from all further activity on the TMF, It seems as if the damage has been done. And quitting cold turkey doesn't make the thoughts of exploring the tickling universe with multiple partners just go away. Again, this is just my personal opinion.

 

[Tiger.Lily]

As far as the details behind the matter goes, I have no idea. Maybe she knows and it's exactly as you said, or maybe he's one of those people who just can't find it in himself to tell her about this fetish and she just found out. Either way, it'll work out as it's meant to. They'll compromise or break up. But it's not our place to judge how they get to that final destination. And I personally agree with him that this is the first step to recovery for his relationship.

 

[chrisheaven]

is he back yet?

 

[love feet]

Hmmm???.

 

[NonConTickler]

Hey forum, there's something I have completely failed to mention. I actually have a girlfriend, who I've been dating for over three years, and she found out about my activities on this forum, today. She's very upset, especially since I never told any of you about her. From now on, I won't be going on this forum at all.

She is extremely acceptive of my quirks and what this forum is about, and she is very supportive, but she draws the line at flirting and fantasizing with other women. And that's what I did.

I feel extremely terrible about this; I feel so guilty it hurts. My actions have possibly ruined my relationship, the best relationship I've ever had, ever could have, and I have never made a bigger mistake in my life. I just hope I can fix things with her, but like I said, I won't be on here anymore, ever again. I'm changing, for her. Right now.

I've had one relationship, which lasted about 4 months, and I broke up with her when she started getting bossy with me. You've got to be of the mindset that you're the #1 person in your life, and if she doesn't do what you want you're outta there. I don't believe in compromise (unless obviously when its a matter of survival, you have to do what you're told at your job in order to get paid, etc). I do what I want, when I want. If it means I have to be alone the rest of my life its a small price to pay for being true to myself.