Need some advice on self control

[KusuguNinja]

I've been into tickling ever since I was 12, and honestly I find it to be the most enjoyable experience on the planet. But for the past few years, the lust for it has become so uncontrollable that it has started to have a negative effect on my life. So much so that if I encounter a girl showing off a little of her stomach, wearing sandals, or essentially any exposed vulnerable area, I can't get my mind off tickling fantasies. At some points, it has kept me from having a simple conversation with one of my close friends, just because I was unable to pay attention to anything else but tickling fantasies with her as my 'lee.
For now, I've resorted to reclusion, simply because I feel disrespectful every time this happens. But, my mind races every time I turn on the tele, or open a magazine because such body exposure is popular and mainstream. Hell, most cartoons aimed for preteens has at least one female character with her belly bare. And I'm not trying to say such fashion is wrong, because self expression is among one of the most important fundamentals one should learn. I'm just saying I need some help controlling my mind.
I know some may question why I'm having such difficulty with an easy task, but I've tried many times. And failed every time. I'm at my wits end. I don't want to lose my love for tickling, I just want to control it, rather than have it control me.

 

[taz_tickler]

I'm no shrink so I certainly am not qualified to advise on controlling your fantasies. What has helped me is to induldge it. I had gone over a year and a half with no tickling and I was having big time withdrawl symptoms - nothing like you were describing as far as it affecting my social life, but it was on my mind costantly. I have recently shared my fetish with a long time friend and all at once I had tickling back in my life - as both a ler and a lee. At 58 yeras old, she can't believe what she's been missing all these years. Try not to let it hold you back.....try to feel out someone you feel a bond with get some idea of whether or not you'd feel good about sharing with this person how much fun tickling can be. I'm not one who believes we have to "come out" to everyone we know...I'm still very private about my fetish and I don't feel bad about that. But I really believe its a good thing to have someone you can share it with.

 

[Musicroxmysox]

I think if you are really feeling some constraints on your life about this then maybe you should seek some outside help. Honestly therapy is great...it can really help you work through things if your willing to try.

 

[Go_Detroit]

Well I'm no expert, and I don't have any advice, but I'm pretty sure your close to normal.

If you didn't have a tickling fetish you would just be instead looking at the girls breasts or booty and just fantasizing about straight up sex.


I fantasize all the time about tickling, sex, and being able to fly.

Im sure im not the only one.

To fantasize regularly is normal, but to get totally distracted by it is definatly not.

Hopefully someone has some good advice for you.

 

[footetickle]

I've been into tickling ever since I was 12, and honestly I find it to be the most enjoyable experience on the planet. But for the past few years, the lust for it has become so uncontrollable that it has started to have a negative effect on my life. So much so that if I encounter a girl showing off a little of her stomach, wearing sandals, or essentially any exposed vulnerable area, I can't get my mind off tickling fantasies. At some points, it has kept me from having a simple conversation with one of my close friends, just because I was unable to pay attention to anything else but tickling fantasies with her as my 'lee.
For now, I've resorted to reclusion, simply because I feel disrespectful every time this happens. But, my mind races every time I turn on the tele, or open a magazine because such body exposure is popular and mainstream. Hell, most cartoons aimed for preteens has at least one female character with her belly bare. And I'm not trying to say such fashion is wrong, because self expression is among one of the most important fundamentals one should learn. I'm just saying I need some help controlling my mind.
I know some may question why I'm having such difficulty with an easy task, but I've tried many times. And failed every time. I'm at my wits end. I don't want to lose my love for tickling, I just want to control it, rather than have it control me.

Wow thats a tough one. The only thing i could suggest is to have a long tickle session in order to get the strong urges out of your system

 

[Coda]

I'm sure you're capable of controlling it, Kusugu. If it really came down to it, and your life depended on it, or perhaps your income, then I'm sure you would suddenly become endowed with some snapping-out-of-it power. You must have an excellent imagination if you drift into tickling fantasies to easily, so use it instead to imagine yourself the way you'd like to behave instead.

(If I'm wrong, and you really don't believe you're capable of curbing it yourself, then... yes, talk to more people about it.)

Regardless, feel free to indulge mentally in tickling fantasies in private. That is, of course, what the content (especially the stories) here are for.

 

[punkrockergirl]

i think you need to stop worrying about tickling so much, i mean i understand its your fetish but, take it as if i meet a girl and it happens great but if not thats what the tmf is for.. this place has clips,stories, and artwork to help control urges for your fetish

 

[TheEliteOne]

Take it from me, I know what you're talking about.

I have a close, beautiful female friend who knows of my tickling fetish, and we talked a lot about it. Sadly, on my end, it ended up being the only thing I talked about. Put yourself in her shoes, I don't think any of us would like to hang out with a person who continuously talks about one subject day in day out.

It tends to get dull and boring. In my case, it got to the point that I would propose the idea of renting a room and fulfilling a tickling session with her, knowing very well in the back of my mind that it's not her thing. Regardless, I'd ignore that common sense and would try achieving it. It never went through, but even after her rejecting the offer, I would still try. Talk about a dog returning to his vomit.

It got serious once when our friendship was on the line. Mind you, she's a close and dear friend to me. I told myself that it's either I keep talking about tickling and lose the close people in my life, or I keep it and be patient about it. That paid off; our friendship has never been stronger and we both noticed it.

I recommend you just try to not speak about it at all. This is something you love, and you'll always love. But to let it become abusive in any relationship, or to allow it to give you this tunnel vision, you must do something now before it's too late. Seclusion won't help. Rather, control yourself. It's not easy, agreed, but it can be done. Trust me.

 

[Libertine]

....past few years, the lust for it has become so uncontrollable that it has started to have a negative effect on my life. .. I'm just saying I need some help controlling my mind...
I know some may question why I'm having such difficulty with an easy task, but I've tried many times. And failed every time. I'm at my wits end. I don't want to lose my love for tickling, I just want to control it, rather than have it control me.

If you are under 25, this state of affairs is, unfortunately, completely normal and generally cured by finding an understanding, similarly inclined long-term girlfriend for the mutual satisfaction of your fetish. However Mother Nature, vile as she is sometimes, has also combined this period of most savage need with the time of life when you are (until you become an old doddering wreck) least attractive to women. Ask any female under 25 about that.

Time and experience will cure you of doing all the stupid things you need to do to learn to avoid doing them- this is the best advice you'll get, and admittedly the worst thing you'll have to listen to.

Try thinking of yourself as vintage Cognac. Coca-cola's cheap and immediatedly consumeable; Cognac's very expensive and sought after by the sophisticated, but it needs years to mature.

I''ve been there. Best of luck.

 

[KusuguNinja]

thank you all for your advice. It's truly been a great help to me. I have been in a relationship for 4 years now, and I have turned her on to tickling, but sometimes it just isn't enough. I'm 24, but instead of being least attracted to women, i find myself more attracted and scared of slipping. I dunno, I guess I'm just scared in general of who I might become.

 

[casper314]

I been there on several occasions with people I'm very close to. It's a dangerous area you're entering. on one hand; you want tell them but, your afraid of how they will treat you afterward. Will they look at you differently; (like a freak or pervert).

Are will they accept it; yet, they still look at you funny. you notice they would stop wearing open toe shoes around you for instance.

For me it's an on going battle, like crack cocaine is to an addict. the more you do it the more you want it. All I can say is accept the fact that you want to tickle them.

keep it as a fantasy that might come true one day; the worst thing for me was i denied that I had those feelings which ate me up inside every time I'm around one of them.

so, much so that I couldn't sleep at night; when i finally told them about my fantasy; some laugh about it, so i haven't talk to again, and some are open
about it " maybe one day" and one I have tickled for 2 hours.

Remember you can't pick your family; but, you can pick your friends. I hope this help in someway.

 

[Deleted member 66627]

thank you all for your advice. It's truly been a great help to me. I have been in a relationship for 4 years now, and I have turned her on to tickling, but sometimes it just isn't enough. I'm 24, but instead of being least attracted to women, i find myself more attracted and scared of slipping. I dunno, I guess I'm just scared in general of who I might become.

If she's interested in your fetish, have you discussed or attempted to play out any of the fantasies that you say you have? If she's aware of it and ok with it, then I'm sure it wouldn't be too hard to talk with her about it.

 

[maniactickler]

i think you need to stop worrying about tickling so much, i mean i understand its your fetish but, take it as if i meet a girl and it happens great but if not thats what the tmf is for.. this place has clips,stories, and artwork to help control urges for your fetish

This is not enough.

 

[phant0m]

thank you all for your advice. It's truly been a great help to me. I have been in a relationship for 4 years now, and I have turned her on to tickling, but sometimes it just isn't enough. I'm 24, but instead of being least attracted to women, i find myself more attracted and scared of slipping. I dunno, I guess I'm just scared in general of who I might become.

After reading your first post I thought that you were just undergoing the normal loneliness that people suffer form when they want a relationship but can't seem to get one. This wouldn't be a problem since most people go through it at some point in their life, but If you are already in a serious relationship with someone who shares your tickling interest and you still can't control your urges (and by control I mean avoid being distracted in your case), I think that you should seek professional help since you may be suffering from the "equivalent" of sex addiction.

Everybody on this forum is kind and supportive, but there is only so much they can do for you over the internet. If you think this is a serious problem, then for the sake of your relationship and the rest of your social life you need to take serious measures.

 

[MrTicklefeet]

Silly guy. He had me going to, painting the illusion this was a problem with his relations, when it turns out he's been in a relationship for years. I lost empathy for him after that revelation.
I had this problem as Im single with no regular outlet, nothing I can do with friends if I wanted to keep them. I started hiring models for homemade tickling videos. Living it was able to allow me to scratch the itch (pun intended,) and take the pressure off of the fantasy life.
Mildly annoying I had to pay for it, but I did get some nice vids to watch, and met a few good people that way.

 

[KusuguNinja]

I'm sorry if you found my first post misleading, but I never said anything about my personal relationships in the first place. While it is my fault for being misleading, it is also your fault for assuming. But, in lieu of knowing I'm in a good relationship, you should now understand why it's such a scary problem for me.

Perhaps phant0m is correct in believing it's a form of sex addiction. I do sometimes have trouble with my own sexual identity, and have spent many years practicing self-reflection and meditation about why I feel the way I do. I have found myself to be a very complex and complicated individual, and rather than discovering all of this while I had the opportunity to experiment and explore, I discovered it at a time where it would be a risk for cheating.

I blame no one but myself for that bungle, and I would gladly suffer these torments than cheat on my lover. All I ask is if someone else had a similar experience and/or give me a perspective outside of the box I've created around myself. I'm not trying to win anyone's pity or sympathy, or convince people there's serious danger. I'm just trying to keep my composure. Again, I apologize to anyone I have offended.