Negativity on the Forum

[Wolf]

Exactly lol. And that everyone wants a lee who goes crazy laughing. But really I'm starting to think finding someone is really a case of finding someone to begin with.

That's a pretty valuable realization ya got yer hands on there, man...

(Serious. No snark. )

 

[The Internet]

Exactly lol. And that everyone wants a lee who goes crazy laughing. But really I'm starting to think finding someone is really a case of finding someone to begin with.

I definitely want a lee who goes crazy laughing.....just not fake laughing! 😛

Hey Rectangle, thanks for the heartfelt words, no biggie, it's just a thread, and lots of us have gotten into that vortex you described, I know I have. I certainly didn't want you to go: you're the only person I've ever met who describes the 1980s almost exactly as I do! Uncanny! Please......I need you around, if not only to corroborate!!!

*quick story: many, many years ago, when I posted under nontkl, I too was going to do a "self-imposed exile" and made a big deal about leaving the Forum: i started a thread, made a big goodbye, everyone dropped by to wish me well and good luck, "don't go, stay", and I say oh no i'm leaving, thanks everyone, gonna leave now, here i go!.......and two weeks later I was back. lol.

And for the next YEAR.....everyone is asking me: didn't you leave? 😛

So it's good you came right back, we've all done that, "the overnighter"......it's like going on a diet: easy to declare......harder to execute for the rest of your life!

ok, so all's well, ends well......DJ CapturedDoll, strike up the Byrds.........and they all lived happily ever after, the end! 🙂

 

[Wolf]

I definitely want a lee who goes crazy laughing.....just not fake laughing! 😛
Hey Rectangle, no biggie, it's just a thread, and lots of us have gotten into that vortex you described, I know I have. I certainly didn't want you to go: you're the only person I've ever met who describes the 1980s almost exactly as I do! Uncanny! Please......I need you around, if not only to corroborate!!!
*quick story: many, many years ago, when I posted under nontkl, I too was going to do a "self-imposed exile" and made a big deal about leaving the Forum: i started a thread, made a big goodbye, everyone dropped by to wish me well and good luck, "don't go, stay", and I say oh no i'm leaving, thanks everyone, gonna leave now, here i go!.......and two weeks later I was back. lol.
And for the next YEAR.....everyone is asking me: didn't you leave? 😛
So it's good you came right back, we've all done that, "the overnighter"......it's like going on a diet: easy to declare......harder to execute for the rest of your life!
ok, so all's well, ends well......DJ CapturedDoll, strike up the Byrds.........and they all lived happily ever after, the end! 🙂

Nicely done.

 

[rdhd]

Wow..... a thread that started out on a high note, devolved into the gutter, and then somehow resurrected itself into something decent.... Pat yourselves on the back for a job well done, TFMers!

 

[duderino84]

That's a pretty valuable realization ya got yer hands on there, man...

(Serious. No snark. )

Ya, some of that "growing up" logic coming into play.

 

[shy_lee]

I try not to be rude, and sorry for any in the past. Sometimes it's just my odd sense of humor though.

I think if we were all in a room together we'd get along much better. It's hard to read people with just text.

Of course everyone would get along better...
...There'd be no talking, just tickling! 😉

 

[Rectangle]

I definitely want a lee who goes crazy laughing.....just not fake laughing! 😛

Hey Rectangle, thanks for the heartfelt words, no biggie, it's just a thread, and lots of us have gotten into that vortex you described, I know I have. I certainly didn't want you to go: you're the only person I've ever met who describes the 1980s almost exactly as I do! Uncanny! Please......I need you around, if not only to corroborate!!!

*quick story: many, many years ago, when I posted under nontkl, I too was going to do a "self-imposed exile" and made a big deal about leaving the Forum: i started a thread, made a big goodbye, everyone dropped by to wish me well and good luck, "don't go, stay", and I say oh no i'm leaving, thanks everyone, gonna leave now, here i go!.......and two weeks later I was back. lol.

And for the next YEAR.....everyone is asking me: didn't you leave? 😛

So it's good you came right back, we've all done that, "the overnighter"......it's like going on a diet: easy to declare......harder to execute for the rest of your life!

ok, so all's well, ends well......DJ CapturedDoll, strike up the Byrds.........and they all lived happily ever after, the end! 🙂

Someone once told me: You go to sleep with your pride, but you wake up with your mistakes.
I think I get it now.

 

[kcantankerous]

*Grins*

Thanks man.



Why not?

And yeah.
How not to rage out and alienate yourself from the community: 101

Hello,

I feel like I do not belong. Everyone has been great on here. I just don't think I fit in for some reason. Maybe because I am not as active as most of the attendees. Plus I get melancholy sometimes and I would hate that to be anyone's first and or only impression of me.

Thanks

K

 

[The Internet]

I know, I know, I'm looking forward to this thread dying, too! BUT.....I had wanted to address some of these comments, especially the ones from the folks who you don't hear from often, they got lost in the sauce......so one more time:

None of us are saying "keep your opinions to yourselves"-voicing opinions is okay. We just gotta remember that there are people on the other end of what we're saying (and I've pulled some corkers in adrenaline rushes, I'm not counting myself out of this) and temper our disagreements with an element of understanding. I think we can all manage that.

~K

Well said, K. And for the record, I've always appreciated your posts.

Ive always been a glass 3/4 empty type of guy. but I do it in a fun way.

One of my favorite comments, and Maniac, so true, you have ALWAYS been of my favorite posters and have cracked me up countless times. Bar none, my favorite member of the opposite side of the aisle! I would have said that years ago, and I'm saying it now. I have never been able to imitate your style, I'm insanely envious.

Yes,it's sadly true that there is lots of negativity floating around the Internet since 9/11 happened,for the heavy super touchiness of some people over certain thread subjects and mere mentions(which some people really take the wrong way) is part of why I barely post here anymore(like I frequently used to twelve years ago)

i'm sorry to hear that. i personally have always traced the acrimony to the 2004 Election and the creation of the P&R Forum! lol. Before that we were just a bunch of fraggles! But hey.....us on our worst day is NOTHING like the old message board! It had so many flames on it, I wouldn't even go on it, you'd be there all day looking for something tickle-related! So maybe we ain't so negative after all.

i dont often post on threads but i do read them. as an observer i have noticed that the amount of negativity and and narcacistic "im right and you're wrong" comments have seemed to be higher than usual. i know debate is healthy but people seem to be taking differences in views and opinions personally. idk how to remedy it, just something one of the lower members on the totem pole seems to notice.

With three posts since 2014, thanks for coming out of the woodwork to share that. I literally have said "i'm right, you're wrong" (i've also said it vice versa, to my credit, lol). For the record: you're not a "low" member on the totem pole, post counts mean nothing, quality of posts mean everything. 🙂

I think if we were all in a room together we'd get along much better. It's hard to read people with just text.

So true, so true. I've often considered making audio comments for that very reason.

I like this. Thanks for sharing, The Internet!

As Rajee would say: You're welcome, JoePTickle. 🙂

I'm very much in agreement with what the Internet is laying down here. I thought this forum was supposed to be a safe place for those of us who share this particular kink. Most of us aren't comfortable sharing and discussing it, even with the people we're closest to IRL. Many of us have experienced shame over simply being who we are. I'm not saying that people shouldn't be able to debate and discuss and take opposing view points. But for crying out loud there are times when I feel like people need to just keep extremely negative comments to themselves. I wish more of the lurkers would post on here. I'm sure we're all missing out on a lot of good points of view and experiences being shared by people who are afraid of being judged and jumped all over simply for expressing themselves. I admit that I've been guilty of being a dick on here myself, but I will continue to try to be the most positive and encouraging member I can be. At the end of the day, that's all any of us can do. I appreciate everyone who posts on here, and even more so if they try to do the same. I'd tip my hat to you The Internet, if I was wearing one. I think this thread was needed to remind all of us why we are on here in the first place. I hope we can all remember that going forward.

To sum up, we need more of this and less of this

More of this : and less of this

More of this and less of this

Seriously, I'm thankful for all of you guys being on here. You... complete... me... lol

Goes without saying, Sensual Switch is the best.

This is an interesting thread that raises some valid points about merely being human with one another. That's great.

I want to bring up something else perhaps relevant to the sense of community that we hope to all achieve: how many of you have actually met others from this forum or other tickling forums face to face--not over an electronic screen on video chats--but live and in the flesh?

I think striving for those type of meetings, even if they don't lead to any tickling at all, would help to build trust and friendship among those in this forum. It's great to ask for civility through a board online. I'm all for it. I'm just wondering if in the long run, keeping a personal disconnect from others by only knowing them through electronic pulses, will keep even the most admirable people sociable.

I've met some people from the TMF, and of course some members have met MANY members of the TMF. Interestingly, someone PM'd me and told me about a notorious negative poster, got everyone riled up (including me, back in the day)......but when he met the guy at a gathering? He was the nicest, coolest person! A pussycat!

I've seen questions asked or something about tickling or being tickled to see a few buffoons act like they're the Dalai Lama of the TMF. I just laugh and think we're on a fetish forum moron.

Guilty as charged, Jluv!

I am ashamed of my behavior years ago. I wasn't a troll, but I was harsh and a bully. That ties into my screen name as a scarlet letter - in this case, word. I want more members to feel safe to share. However, as echoed, we have a part to play in making the community happen.

You, a bully?!!! Oh my god, I cant even imagine! Well obviously you've grown and changed! I agree: the more people who actively share, who actively feel comfortable sharing, then the better than the Forum is. And THAT'S what "the old days" were like, there were a lot of more people contributing. And although yes, there were flames, I don't remember people as relentlessly grouchy as sometimes it gets here. (part of that is, I think, alot of us were younger then) Who knows. By the way, KC, you "belong" here, stop it with that! lol.

Haha I just want to know why everyone was so angry when they first got here. I joined in 2001 but frequented the forums before that. I was 18(of course 😛) but man.....I had JUST discovered the TMF and the internet, as a kid with a fetish. All my teenage mind could focus on was the MATERIALLLLLZZZZDSKLJFHSDKLJHF. Clips section/pics/stories/artwork, it was all so new to me!!! I couldn't be bothered with angry discussions!!!

I know! It took me SIXTEEN YEARS before I really started posting in this section! I finally had caught up on all the media! lol.

It's the internet. Can't really try to analyze behavior

I was watching a video about a guy born without limbs who ended up being accepted at 3 ivy league schools at 17. The video had around 200 dislikes.

Always better when you see something you don't like, just close the page. There's always going to be people who are going to be assholes just for kicks

Possibly the best comment on the whole thread, lol. Definitely 100% true!!!! l 200 dislikes, oof, hahahahahaha!

At the chat I have found the most aggressive members, mocking about others, and not really trying to have fun talking about tickling.

Awww, sorry to hear that. I don't know anything about the chat room or how it operates. I've always been afraid to go in it! lol.

Hi:

I posted that message and I didn´t want to troll anybody. I apologize to everybody who has felt affected for the content of my message. On the other hand nobody wrote a pm expressing his/her feelings or the rules of this forum. i want to say that my native language is not english and maybe some senteces can be misanderstood or not reflect my real thoughts. If someone think that I am mad I undertand absolutely.

Cheers, peace and tickling.

I will try not to express my fantasies in this place. I will only speak about tickling.

But I want to make clear that I am not a rapist or something like that. I am only a mind with good and not so good thoughts and internet allow me to express what I cant express in my normal life.

As far as I can see, you did nothing wrong, and nonconsenusal fantasies are all over this community, from videos called "Nonconsensual Tickle" to enacting kidnappings and slave auctions at gatherings. In fact, you will find nonconsensual fantasies in probably every corner of sexuality, in both men and women. I've had 'em! "Marilyn Monroe....do you wish to confess?" Anyways, for a guy who only speaks English as a second language, your comment was articulate and well-written. A lot better than my Spanish, I can tell you that!

Of course everyone would get along better...
...There'd be no talking, just tickling! 😉

LOL! True!

And, just to let rdhd have the last word:

Wow..... a thread that started out on a high note, devolved into the gutter, and then somehow resurrected itself into something decent.... Pat yourselves on the back for a job well done, TFMers!

 

[CapturedDoll]

Hello,

I feel like I do not belong. Everyone has been great on here. I just don't think I fit in for some reason. Maybe because I am not as active as most of the attendees. Plus I get melancholy sometimes and I would hate that to be anyone's first and or only impression of me.

Thanks

K

You DO fit in!! You have the unique and rare fetish of Tickling!!! 🙂

Some people may have met and know each other outside of the forums... but at the end of the day we are all just strangers writing together. That should free you. I enjoy giving my opinion because I never really use to. For a long time I felt simliarly as you did. "Well... everyone knows each other... I don't quite know how to get my foot in the door". And I let that to a degree hold me back. But this time around I thought I have absolutely nothing to lose... I am an individual with my own perspective. There's only one way to get to know people or have them know you... and that's contributing.

Sometimes I feel sad... and when I do I just don't post. But if you feel melancholy a LOT... you may need to find accompanying outlets to raise your happiness levels. Watch more Stand up Comedians or comedies! 🙂 You don't need to be physically tickled in order to tickle your mind. 🙂

 

[Cosmo_ac]

But like I said: it's me too. Me too with great frequency, and I'm ashamed to admit it. I am most definitely in the top percentile, so I'm not shaking the finger at just other people. The other day we're having a little back and forth about movies, and Cosmo_ac leaves a very reasonable comment with not a trace of unfriendliness.....and I jumped all over him. And he was echoing something I had already written! I couldn't even agree to agree. And I know I'm not the only person who has this problem. I get into it often with someone who shares mostly - or entirely - the same viewpoints and we split hairs for pages. We can't agree to agree.

And so Cosmo, brother, will you please accept my sincerest apologies for my rude attitude? You innocently contribute to a thread and next thing you know you're in the ring with some obnoxious guy called The Internet, sorry man.

I actually stumbled upon this post by sheer chance a few days ago. I wanted to respond, but I wasn't sure what to say exactly. I mean, I knew at least to a degree what I wanted to say to The Internet, but that didn't quiet seem to do it, and I guess I just wanted to take some time and think about what to write. But I also wanted to address the theme of the post as well, because I do think it is something that has merit as well.

So, to Internet, I'll accept your apology, if you accept mine. I got a bit heated too, and got more aggressive then I needed to be. We were talking about something you obviously were passionate about, and when we're passionate about things, that passion can bleed through into our conversations. It's all part of being human, so don't beat yourself up too much about it, because God knows, I, and many others have done the same thing. It reminds me of a Meme I just stumbled upon recently: Yes, I've made mistakes. Life didn't come with an instruction manual.

As for the general theme of this thread; I don't think this is the first time this topic has came up, and I doubt it will be the last. Whenever it does come up, I'm reminded of something Shem The Penman once said, that the only thing that brings all of us together here is that we love tickling. Shem wasn't wrong. We have people from different cultures, different countries, different political views, and I can't say that Shem was wrong. The only reason we are all here is because we love tickling.

But while I was thinking about how to respond to this post, I realized something else. Something which is so simple, that sometimes I think we all forget it.

William Shakespeare wrote the Merchant of Venice, and one of the more famous parts of it reads as follows:

Doesn’t a Jew have eyes? Doesn’t a Jew have hands, bodily organs, a human shape, five senses, feelings, and passions? Doesn’t a Jew eat the same food, get hurt with the same weapons, get sick with the same diseases, get healed by the same medicine, and warm up in summer and cool off in winter just like a Christian? If you prick us with a pin, don’t we bleed? If you tickle us, don’t we laugh? If you poison us, don’t we die? And if you treat us badly, won’t we try to get revenge?

Yes, we all come from different places, have different religions, different values, different experiences, and different beliefs, but when you strip that all away, you have the same basic thing. We all have dreams, we all want to be loved, to be accepted, to protect what we care about, to find someone or something special to us. When you peel the layers back, we're all the same, and maybe if we can just accept and respect that, maybe we can become something better.

 

[The Internet]

I actually stumbled upon this post by sheer chance a few days ago. I wanted to respond, but I wasn't sure what to say exactly. I mean, I knew at least to a degree what I wanted to say to The Internet, but that didn't quiet seem to do it, and I guess I just wanted to take some time and think about what to write. But I also wanted to address the theme of the post as well, because I do think it is something that has merit as well.

So, to Internet, I'll accept your apology, if you accept mine. I got a bit heated too, and got more aggressive then I needed to be. We were talking about something you obviously were passionate about, and when we're passionate about things, that passion can bleed through into our conversations. It's all part of being human, so don't beat yourself up too much about it, because God knows, I, and many others have done the same thing. It reminds me of a Meme I just stumbled upon recently: Yes, I've made mistakes. Life didn't come with an instruction manual.

As for the general theme of this thread; I don't think this is the first time this topic has came up, and I doubt it will be the last. Whenever it does come up, I'm reminded of something Shem The Penman once said, that the only thing that brings all of us together here is that we love tickling. Shem wasn't wrong. We have people from different cultures, different countries, different political views, and I can't say that Shem was wrong. The only reason we are all here is because we love tickling.

But while I was thinking about how to respond to this post, I realized something else. Something which is so simple, that sometimes I think we all forget it.

William Shakespeare wrote the Merchant of Venice, and one of the more famous parts of it reads as follows:



Yes, we all come from different places, have different religions, different values, different experiences, and different beliefs, but when you strip that all away, you have the same basic thing. We all have dreams, we all want to be loved, to be accepted, to protect what we care about, to find someone or something special to us. When you peel the layers back, we're all the same, and maybe if we can just accept and respect that, maybe we can become something better.

Cosmo, beautifully said, thanks, and you're right, at the end of day each of us is just a soul, trying to find his own way, no need to make each other out to be the Incubus of the Internet. Although I certainly accept your apology, it looked to me like you got sucker punched (by me!) so I totally understand drawing hard lines. I know I would have! I don't think you had much/anything to apologize for, at least not in that thread. I could have said everything I said...but without the snark and attitude! It's a family trait, sad to say. If I say to my Dad, "hey Pop! Jimi Hendrix!", he'll grouse "oh Jimi was an asshole". If I say "Jimi was an asshole!", he'll start arguing, telling me all the adversity Jimi had to overcome, lol. There ain't no winning with us! Might as well take the whole lot of us to the dog pound and put us down! lol.

Well, it's fitting we should end this thread by tying up one of the things that inspired it's conception! Thanks again, Cosmo, thanks for letting me off the hook, and for taking the time to write such a considered and understanding post. Viva Cosmo!!!

(....and that's all folks!)

 

[xionking]

Peeps seem to feel obligated to tell this Rectangle guy how he should be, rather than accepting of who he is.

 

[TKLVR18]

Peeps seem to feel obligated to tell this Rectangle guy how he should be, rather than accepting of who he is.

The difference between sharing an opinion and starting an argument is generally something along those lines. Sharing a disagreeing opinion while respecting that the other person's views is one thing-trying to change minds angrily is another.

~K

 

[Wolf]

What's with the post-mortem?
I thought this was settled.

 

[kcantankerous]

Hello,

It is only settled when no further questions, comments, or opinions (which are basically comments) are posted. I think this thread, if read in its entirety, is instructive. I believe my own missteps and reconciliations can be found somewhere in the forum. I think we had a pleasant ending to the argument, and now the thread can turn to its intended state.

Thanks,

K

 

[Mitchell]

I've purposely stayed out of this thread.. to avoid making it. any .. worse.. because .. as most people who know me are aware.. I'm one of the most controversial members of the forum. This is not.. intentional.. it just sort of.. happened over the years. A combination of my unwise actions at times, and .. I think.. complete overreaction to things I post by some people, even if said things are not personal about myself, or my personal life, etc. .

I joined this forum.. when it was maybe.. 10 or 20 percent the size it is now.

Some years ago, long before the forum grew to its current size.. I was talking to a forum member who has been here for a very long time, .. not saying who of course.. to protect that person's confidentiality, etc.

I had mentioned how it seemed, even back then, the forum was getting more of a negative vibe.

This person explained that., in their opinion., it is.. natural/expected that when a community grows in size the way this forum has.. the increase in different personalities, and the mixture of such. will cause there to be more debate/clashes, etc etc.

The politics forum has caused some of this to occur. It is also, however, just the situation with the different personalities, and the "pot boiling over" at times, so to speak.

I've made my contribution to this thread. hopefully not too controversial.. or personal.

Now I'll just go back to what I've been trying to do more of lately, and observe.

 

[JaySnow]

Wasn't gonna chime in but here's my worthless 2 cents.

I think in this day and age with the internet people have become hyper sensitive. I grew up in the 70's and early 80's. I don't recall this hyper sensitivity but perhaps I was just caught up in football and girls. People say things on the internet they wouldn't dream of saying in "real life" and many people get offended. Much of it is crass but we choose to be offended. "Sticks and Stones" is not an antiquated notion but seems to have been all but forgotten. I've reacted poorly in the past getting caught up in the current zeitgeist.
I saw one member state they lost sleep over a post they may have or haven't made. I'm sorry to hear that! There isn't anything on this forum that should cause that. It's an entertainment venue geared to a particular audience and nothing more. I've met a few really cool people here on line but this forum has never and WILL never cross into my life, just like my fantasy football team won't. If I seem cold I'm sorry. I choose to ignore the negative posts and find the ones that entertain me. I've gotten too old for and have little patience for what doesn't entertain me on an entertainment venue. If the NY Jets are getting blown out I don't continue to watch just to piss myself off, I change the channel. Yes yes, it happens a great deal LOL.

 

[Wolf]

Wasn't gonna chime in but here's my worthless 2 cents.

I think in this day and age with the internet people have become hyper sensitive. I grew up in the 70's and early 80's. I don't recall this hyper sensitivity but perhaps I was just caught up in football and girls. People say things on the internet they wouldn't dream of saying in "real life" and many people get offended. Much of it is crass but we choose to be offended. "Sticks and Stones" is not an antiquated notion but seems to have been all but forgotten. I've reacted poorly in the past getting caught up in the current zeitgeist.
I saw one member state they lost sleep over a post they may have or haven't made. I'm sorry to hear that! There isn't anything on this forum that should cause that. It's an entertainment venue geared to a particular audience and nothing more. I've met a few really cool people here on line but this forum has never and WILL never cross into my life, just like my fantasy football team won't. If I seem cold I'm sorry. I choose to ignore the negative posts and find the ones that entertain me. I've gotten too old for and have little patience for what doesn't entertain me on an entertainment venue. If the NY Jets are getting blown out I don't continue to watch just to piss me off, I change the channel. Yes yes, it happens a great deal LOL.

If I understand the history correctly, this is a forum for people who have similar interests to gather and interact with people of like mind.
It's a forum for adults only, so I don't think it's unreasonable to expect people to act like adults.
If we're acting like adults, anonymity shouldn't be an excuse to say something online that you wouldn't say to another person's face.

 

[JaySnow]

If I understand the history correctly, this is a forum for people who have similar interests to gather and interact with people of like mind.
It's a forum for adults only, so I don't think it's unreasonable to expect people to act like adults.
If we're acting like adults, anonymity shouldn't be an excuse to say something online that you wouldn't say to another person's face.

You see, this is what I'm talking about. I never said anonymity is an excuse but however it IS reality that it emboldens some. Not everyone has the same sense of decorum as others. I may not agree with some but I don't get wrapped around d the Axel about stuff. This may be a community for you and that's great! For me it's an entertainment venue.
Cheers, all the best to you.

 

[chicago]

The thing is, this site is not the whole internet, so we must abide by the forum standard of decorum set by the rules put in place by the mods. If people are assholes, that will either cause less discussion entirely or more fighting which I don't think anyone wants but I agree with everything else said in last few posts

 

[JaySnow]

The thing is, this site is not the whole internet, so we must abide by the forum standard of decorum set by the rules put in place by the mods. If people are assholes, that will either cause less discussion entirely or more fighting which I don't think anyone wants but I agree with everything else said in last few posts

I agree and a general lack of decorum is prevalent on many site on the internet. Facebook and Twitter are hubs for poor behaviour. I guess I've become callous to it and ignore it easier. It angers me to see someone post a story a pic or question and they receive nasty replies. I think the moderators do a good job and we must remember, the TMF is a private site/venue and members are subject to its rules if they want to participate. I've received nothing but Contempt and ridicule when I was in the chat room. It's more cliquey than junior high so I avoid it all together. I avoid it therefore I avoid the aggravation LOL

 

[kucheeku]

I agree and a general lack of decorum is prevalent on many site on the internet. Facebook and Twitter are hubs for poor behaviour. I guess I've become callous to it and ignore it easier. It angers me to see someone post a story a pic or question and they receive nasty replies. I think the moderators do a good job and we must remember, the TMF is a private site/venue and members are subject to its rules if they want to participate. I've received nothing but Contempt and ridicule when I was in the chat room. It's more cliquey than junior high so I avoid it all together. I avoid it therefore I avoid the aggravation LOL

I'll say right here, right now that any guys going into the chat room who want to talk civilly and have questions about m/m tickling can always do so when I'm there. I'm always open to discussions and I'm not a jerk.

 

[Aeveirra]

Yeah, I can see where your coming from.

~~~ I have to be totally honest, I try to be as nice and as friendly as possible to everyone i meet on here. I'm not saying I'm "perfect" or anything, it's just what I prefer doing.
~~~ Thats Mainly because, the whole reason I joined this site in the first place, was to make new friends. So, I don't have a reason to be mean to anyone who didn't do anything to me, or who doesn't deserve it.
** Even for some of the people who aren't very nice to mean here,
I don't even try to get even, or fight back. It will just cause pointless drama.

*** Your statement about how some people are unwilling to post, out of fear of negative backlash - is totally true.
Sadly, this same thing has happened to me on here.
I made a few posts on here a while back, outlining a neuroscience-based theory I developed for explaining Tickling Fetishism.
The theory is based mostly on previous academic research about tickling, and brain activity. (And basic facts about brain function)
It basically explains the origin, and psychology of tickling fetishism.

*** To make a long story short - I have studied neuroscience for over 5 years, and I worked very hard on putting this whole theory together.
I posted this theory on the TMF because I wanted to share my ideas with people. I thought it could hopefully allow people to get a better understanding of the one thing we all share a common interest in.

*** The negative backlash I got, after making just a few posts on the subject - was so disheartening. So many people just intentionally tried to hurt, discredit, and humiliate me.

Some people were nice and seemed interested, but there were a lot of people who acted exactly just like you said:
"undercutting, undermining, embarrassing, humiliating, discouraging, negating"
**** Seriously - each and every one of those words, are exactly what so many people did to me. It was so upsetting. I didn't know what I did wrong.

~~~~ They didn't even "argue" against my ideas; instead just claiming:
"your making all this shit up". They basically tried to make me look like some lying moron. NONE of them actually cared about my background in the medical field, because they kept calling my knowledge on the subject into question. Others pretended like they were the experts, and claimed everything I said was just wrong and illegitimate, because "reasons".

I made about 3-4 of these types of posts over the course of a few months. But it was worse each time, and people got meaner. The only thing I got out of it, was feeling more upset with each new thread.
I had to delete a lot of comments on them, because SO many replies were just unnecessarily disrespectful and hurtful.

~~~ But now, it's gotten to the point where I've completely given up on trying to continue with those sort of posts. I don't want to talk about the science of tickling anymore, because it seems like no one actually cares for learning about it.
They'd rather just degrade and ridicule me for no reason whatsoever.

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wow, Sorry I got sort of personal with all this; but you reminded me of just how upset this situation made me.
At the time, I was really excited to share my ideas and get people interested - and I was not at all expecting people to be so harsh to me.

Your totally right; it seems like there's too much negativity on here.
What's really sad though, is that there's absolutely no reason for it.

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[kcantankerous]

Yeah, I can see where your coming from.

~~~ I have to be totally honest, I try to be as nice and as friendly as possible to everyone i meet on here. I'm not saying I'm "perfect" or anything, it's just what I prefer doing.
~~~ Thats Mainly because, the whole reason I joined this site in the first place, was to make new friends. So, I don't have a reason to be mean to anyone who didn't do anything to me, or who doesn't deserve it.
** Even for some of the people who aren't very nice to mean here,
I don't even try to get even, or fight back. It will just cause pointless drama.

*** Your statement about how some people are unwilling to post, out of fear of negative backlash - is totally true.
Sadly, this same thing has happened to me on here.
I made a few posts on here a while back, outlining a neuroscience-based theory I developed for explaining Tickling Fetishism.
The theory is based mostly on previous academic research about tickling, and brain activity. (And basic facts about brain function)
It basically explains the origin, and psychology of tickling fetishism.

*** To make a long story short - I have studied neuroscience for over 5 years, and I worked very hard on putting this whole theory together.
I posted this theory on the TMF because I wanted to share my ideas with people. I thought it could hopefully allow people to get a better understanding of the one thing we all share a common interest in.

*** The negative backlash I got, after making just a few posts on the subject - was so disheartening. So many people just intentionally tried to hurt, discredit, and humiliate me.

Some people were nice and seemed interested, but there were a lot of people who acted exactly just like you said:
"undercutting, undermining, embarrassing, humiliating, discouraging, negating"
**** Seriously - each and every one of those words, are exactly what so many people did to me. It was so upsetting. I didn't know what I did wrong.

~~~~ They didn't even "argue" against my ideas; instead just claiming:
"your making all this shit up". They basically tried to make me look like some lying moron. NONE of them actually cared about my background in the medical field, because they kept calling my knowledge on the subject into question. Others pretended like they were the experts, and claimed everything I said was just wrong and illegitimate, because "reasons".

I made about 3-4 of these types of posts over the course of a few months. But it was worse each time, and people got meaner. The only thing I got out of it, was feeling more upset with each new thread.
I had to delete a lot of comments on them, because SO many replies were just unnecessarily disrespectful and hurtful.

~~~ But now, it's gotten to the point where I've completely given up on trying to continue with those sort of posts. I don't want to talk about the science of tickling anymore, because it seems like no one actually cares for learning about it.
They'd rather just degrade and ridicule me for no reason whatsoever.

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- - - - - - - Conclusion - - - - - -
wow, Sorry I got sort of personal with all this; but you reminded me of just how upset this situation made me.
At the time, I was really excited to share my ideas and get people interested - and I was not at all expecting people to be so harsh to me.

Your totally right; it seems like there's too much negativity on here.
What's really sad though, is that there's absolutely no reason for it.

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Hello,

I appreciate the depth with which you respond. A trait I need to pick up myself. People can disagree without going into character assassination mode. Like if a producer puts out material and the person's level of ticklishness or reaction doesn't suit someone's taste, some of these individuals bleat "fake". I see those posts, and I think these people protest too much.

In your case, some folks are intimidated by well thought out posts with big words in them. I suppose that is an example of me being vicious. Anyways, glad you are posting again. I try to treat others better than I want to be treated. I personally want more involvement by our lurking - not meant to be a negative connotation -friends.

Thanks,

K