New with a question

[TripleHGame]

Hi..I'm new to this forum and so far it looks like a great place already. I see everyone is willing to help people out so here goes my dilemma.

Tomorrow I am meeting up with a friend of mine. We are both into tickling, although I think I may be into it more than she is. I do not know how deep the fetish runs for my friend, so I will not call it a tickle session. Anyway, there's a chance that tickling can and will occur.

The problem is, although I am very ticklish, sometimes I freeze up or I am tickled and do not laugh. I feel it. I know it tickles. But nothing is coming out. And I want to laugh. I want to embrace my ticklishness cause I know it's there. Catch me by suprise sometimes and I go into hysterics. If the same sex tickles me, when I am not into (No offense to anyone who is) then I laugh normally. Unforutnately, with girls it is a different story.

Anyone know how I can handle this? Am I thinking too hard or what? Please let me know as soon as possible.And thank you so much in advance!

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

Welcome!

Not everyone is a big laugher. There are people who laugh racuously and those who laugh little or not at all. I wouldn't be too concerned about it. Setting up expectations that are based on stereotypes of how we "should" react to something doesn't allow us to be ourselves....and keeps us from being what we think we "should" be as well. As a favorite quote goes, "Shit on shoulds." As with most things, tickling is much more fun when it happens naturally. If you try to simply relax and enjoy it and not worry about how you think you should respond, you'll have fun.

Ann

 

[Butterfly wings]

Welcome TripleHGame

 

[chrisheaven]

thinking too hard-yes

 

[Myriads]

Hello TripleH,

Welcome to the TMF. I'm sure others will have answers for your question, but I'll say don't over think it much, enjoy and communicate with your friend. Things should go well.

Myriads

 

[Vae]

As a favorite quote goes, "Shit on shoulds."

Great quote, Ann! I need to remember that!

I couldn't agree with Ann more here. If you two are going to tickle each other, try not to think about how you're supposed to react and rather just react. Have fun with it. Like Ann said, not everyone is a laugher. Some people are just squirmers, some are screamers and others aren't any of those! I think it would do you best to not think about it, just feel it and don't worry about what you think is normal.

Welcome to the forum, by the way! Hope this helps and you enjoy your stay.

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

Welcome to the forum! There are a lot of friendly people here. I agree with what Vae said. Basically, just try not to think about how you should react and just react.

 

[Mimi]

Welcome aboard, THG! We're thrilled to have you with us!

I've tickled some, who even though they love the sensation, have reacted with expressions and noises similar to being in excrutiating pain. It sort of unnerved me at first, but once I understood that was their normal reaction, I could enjoy it as much as a squealing shriek.

Chances are your nervousness is playing a role in how you respond, causing you to freeze up the way one often does when they've rehearsed their clever lines, yet still stumble over a mellow "Hello" when finally approaching the target of their desire. As you get more comfortable around her, you'll probably relax a bit more, and be able to respond as you expect. Don't dwell on it, though. It will probably only add to your anxiety and draw more attention to it. Just go with the flow and enjoy our sport. 😉

Mimi

 

[lilwolf]

I used to be a lot like you. And perhaps it was because I wasn't relaxed enough. It would tickle like crazy and I would squirm, but the laughter wouldn't come out.

When I learned to relax more and be submissive, instead of defensive. I would giggle and sometimes laugh my arse off depending on the spot I was tickled.

 

[Illtcklu]

Perhaps you should think about it like this: Don't make it a reaction, but instead an action! Yes you should relax more, though some people tend to laugh more when they're nervous. Adreliene hightens the senses, and sensations, so science tells us. So who knows? Let it flow, man!

 

[milagros317]

Welcome to the TMF, TripleHGame, and congratulations on your first posts. 😀 This is a wonderful place, have fun here.

Just be natural, and don't worry about how loudly you will laugh.

 

[Hiryu]

Just calm down and let it come naturally. If it doesn't, don't get upset. Just chill and relax your mind and body. It'll happen when you reach that state of comfort that you need to be at.

 

[TripleHGame]

Sorry to bring back up an old thread, but I'd like to thank everyone for their kind words and advice. As for my expeirnce, she was as shy as I was nervous about not laughing. So it was ok. But there's always next time! Once again, thank you!