Other elements in sexual tickling.

[Deleted member 66627]

I was reading the thread about tickle turn on spots, and was thinking back on times when I'd become aroused and whether or not it had anything to do with the fact that tickling was occurring. What I basically came back to was that it wasn't so much about the tickling itself, but the form of physical play it involved.

Meaning, if I'm attracted to a person on a sexual base level, the feeling of him touching me in general, let alone it being tickling is an incredible turn on. Not just because of where/how he's doing it.

Does that mean tickling in of itself isn't a turn on for me, personally? No. It just seems to have fallen into the category of a preferred physical interaction that gets me going with the right person.

Does any of this make sense? I even went to Jay to make sure I wasn't just being weird. 😛

 

[slacker2114]

You ARE weird. But we all knew that already. 😛

But you do make sense. Look at it from the vantage of would you get turned on from a total stranger just walking up and tickling you? I doubt it. It seems that it's more of a familiarity thing that makes the tickling itself enjoyable. Throw in attraction and you got yourself a ball game.

 

[dove]

I did not quite follow everything you said ): But I do know that I love being tickled, but it is not completely what will turn me on. I can be turned on WITHOUT being tickled, it just turns me on sooo much to be tickled.

It is still a fetish, but I think it is not always needed all the time.

 

[KrazieDog]

Like I told you, I agree basically with what you are saying. It's just another reason tickling is so cool; it means so much to so many people. It can be a bonding activity with your kid, a playful act with your friends, and a erotic event with your lover. The act of tickling itself the shared touching, laughter, intimacy, the give and take, all of it makes it such a great experience. And its that act that makes it sexual or erotic for me in that context with someone I'm with (dating/involved,married, etc).

You mentioned in IM how it is funny that the mind just knows the context sometimes. I know many here have the concern of "well its sexual for me most of the time, so will I be able to separate those feelings if I go to a gathering?". Well I guess everyone is different, but I know for me, and I think Rob mentioned the same thing on his show once, once we actually went, the answer was yes, "our" minds were able to distinguish context. The tickling itself felt very playful and like horsing around with your close friends, but some of that same tickling in the bedroom at home would be totally different.

So yea, for me it's as much the "act" of the tickling in context more than any one particular spot.

 

[Redmage]

I don't think that's what makes you weird. At least, it doesn't make you any weirder.

Honestly, though, I'd be a little worried for you if all it took to get your motor running was someone - anyone - poking your ribs or scratching your soles. I think anyone who likes any sort of foreplay (in a healthy way) likes it only with certain select people.

 

[MasterPaladin]

I understand what your saying but I do feel that tickling plays a role there. I understand that if it were just touches it would turn you on but the tickling I think makes it all the more erotic.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

I never really thought about it like that before, and you're right. Jay said it perfectly. Tickling that feels playful and casual with friends, would take on a completely different feeling in the bedroom. It's not just about the touch, it's about the person and the relationship that's there.

Good thread little mama

 

[love feet]

it is total dependant on the unique nature of the person there!!!

 

[Homer28]

Does any of this make sense? I even went to Jay to make sure I wasn't just being weird. 😛

NEVER use Jay as a form of measurement for ANYTHING!!🙂



That being said for me tickling can be a great way to get into the "mood" but if its not with the right person the mood wouldn't be there anyways.

 

[Musicroxmysox]

Totally makes sense Jo. It's got to be the right person and the right mood. Otherwise it's just fun and not sexual like.

 

[LD_Tickler]

A non-ticklephile girl once told me that tickling would turn her on if she liked the person, because it was touch, and it was intimate.

I really don't think what we do boils down to that, though.

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

For adult to adult...tickling has always been a flirtation device just like massaging. Even for people that aren't into the tickling fetish will admit that its a way to get a response from someone that you want to touch but without crossing obvious boundaries and it may be a turn on for both of them.

 

[Deleted member 66627]

I really don't think what we do boils down to that, though.

What does that mean? "What we do" ? It's almost as if you're saying that because we have a fetish for it, then we are doing something differently then the situation that you described.

 

[KittenToes]

Great thread Jo.

I do understand where you are coming from. I believe that "turn-on" is far more about the WHO than the WHAT. That is, if the PERSON isn't right, it doesn't matter WHAT they do. And even if the wrong person does manage to turn you on, it doesn't necessarily mean you'll take it any further. If someone I didn't like managed to do something, that got me excited- well, I'd just get angry and consider it a sort of invasion, and wouldn't WANT to take it further.

Here's another example. I have always been ticklish. I never used to let anyone tickle me- being tickled just made me angry. Was a trust thing, I guess.

Then I gradually got into being tickled, by Libertine. I found that I loved being tickled by him. It was (and is) an extreme turn-on. So, I figured I was no longer anti-tickling.

Then, in 2006, a couple months before my first NEST, I went with Lib to my first TK party. It was a small one- about 10 people, and was mostly folks off the UKTF.

Because of the small size of the event, I sort of thought I "had" to participate, or at least that it would be awkward if we sat everything out. So when one of the other girls at the event asked me to help to tickle the feet of one of the guys, I agreed.

So I helped tickle this guy's feet- didn't get anything out of it, but wasn't really too bothered by it either. I wouldn't have done anything if everyone hadn't stayed completely dressed.

Then we all sort of switched places, and I wound up lying down on the bed to get tickled. The fellow whose feet I'd helped tickle asked Libertine and I if he could get "revenge". We agreed but I said "only Libertine touches above the ankles".
So then it started and Libertine was tickling my sides, the other guy was tickling my feet. And guess what! I found out that I STILL hate being tickled if it isn't Libertine doing it. It was a really odd sensation- my upper body was having fun and my feet were getting annoyed.

Sorry for the really long description, but that's my one and only experience with someone besides my honey tickling me since I discovered TK as a fetish. Now TK is so tied in to sexuality, and my relationship, that there's no way I could let that happen again. Had to try it to find out though, I guess.

I know a lot of folks here do have the "on/off switch" so they can tickle both playfully and sexually. I don't really have it, at least as a lee'. I mean, I can TELL the difference- I can tell when people are just playing around in a non-sexy way. but for me being tickled = turn-on. Either immediately, or a hint to save for later use. That's just how i'm wired.

So basically- back to the beginning here, I guess- if the person isn't right, tickling isn't a turn on for me at all. That's what I was trying to say in all that rambling.