Parents...>=[

[*~Game Girl~*]

Ok, I'm getting bloody sick of my parents now. I know they mean well, but damnit! I wish they'd stop trying to make me something I'm not.

Now, most girls like wearing make-up, doing their hair and LOVE shopping. I on the other hand detest make-up, think my hair is fine naturally and only go to shops if it's a game or comic shop.

My parents want me to act more like a girl. They want to decorate and have pink walls with lots of playboy bunnies on them. I want black and dark purple walls and I want my dragon models hung above the room and a place for my consoles and model dragons. Plus I'm going to be getting a pet lizard soon. I do not want to traumatise it by having bright pink walls!

I'm boyish! I detest girly things. But my parents want me to change to a stupid looking barbie doll! Seriously guys. I'm not a girly girl and I never will be.

Skirts and tank tops? HELL NO!!

Baggy black bottoms and hoodies? HELL YEAH!!

Why would I waste my time doing my hair and make-up, when I could be pwning n00bs in Halo 3? >=D

So, what should I do? Their obviously not listning to me.

 

[Bizkit]

I here where you are coming from.They are just looking out for you.I wish I would have listened to my parents a little more than I did.But,like most kids I thought I knew it all.Your parents have a lot more experience in life than you and have seen a lot more.You are obviously an individual with your own views,which is a good thing,but be open to some advice they may give you.It may help you later on in life whether you believe it or not.

 

[Bugman]

It seems to me that you need to move out of their house,support yourself and do what you will.

 

[whyguy2]

It seems to me that you need to move out of their house,support yourself and do what you will.

I agree with bugman. and i hear your saying. me. im a gamer and i love dragons. but to stay on subject. they should respect your choice and not try to change who you are. I mean your an adult. Its your choice. i really hope things work out though

 

[Cosmo_ac]

Personally, i think you need to ask your parents to sit down and have a serious discussion with you about these things. That being said, and i know this is somewhat prying, but did you ever tell them about what happened to you?

 

[Strider]

I have to add to the chorus here. The fact is, you're a legal adult, there's nothing stopping you from getting 5 of your friends together and cramming yourselves into one apartment. I can certainly understand not wanting to share one bathroom with multiple other inviduals until you're financially able to live alone or with one roommate, but that's the trade-off. The fact of the matter is, as long as you live under their roof, they outrank you.

 

[*~Game Girl~*]

Oh, trust me. They know. and it took my persuassion to stop my dad from going out and killing the bastard. I didn't want my dad to end up in prison for assault/murder.

 

[Cosmo_ac]

Oh, trust me. They know. and it took my persuassion to stop my dad from going out and killing the bastard. I didn't want my dad to end up in prison for assault/murder.

Ok hun, thats good to know. As far as them pressing their ideals on you, then i would recomend the sitdown. Might not go great, but it is a step in the right direction.

 

[whyguy2]

like alot of people say and i agree. there are really only 2 things that i see that you can do.

1. sit and have a serious talk with your parents. like it was said eariler, it might not go to well but they need to understand that you don't want change. That you want to be yourself.

2. You move out and get your own place or you and your friends split the cost of renting a house or apartment.

 

[Krokus]

Sounds to me like they are refusing to accept that you are your own person. Keep doing what you are doing, fight the demon with your steel shining bright, STAND BEFORE THE EVIL ONE... for the battle has just begun.

 

[asutickler]

Ever hear that old phrase "beggars can't be choosers?" Well it's true. Get a job and move out, and you'll be able to do whatever you'd like. Or at least more of what you'd like than you do now.


I've always gotten along great with my parents, and I was STILL thrilled to get out on my own. Try it, you'll probably like it.

 

[Adalon]

I love my parents. Although they tried to shape me into an ideal, I resisted somewhat - I have a similar hobby in gaming, dragon models, etc., and at first, they really hated it, wanted me to be the school football star while getting straight As, but over time, we met each other in the middle.

I took up some sports, kept my grades up, while keeping my models and sourcebooks up in my room. Communication was key, but in the end, no one was too stubborn about things, so we managed to keep things moving.

My advice would be to: see what they really want - I`m sure that their goals go further than seeing you in girly clothing. Perhaps they`re worried that you won`t find a husband if you keep up this hobby? (Might sound trivial, but we figured out that was their main concern... and we talked about that.)

I hope things go better for you no matter what you choose to do. =)

 

[chicago]

I remember you explaining in another thread why it is that you don't like to dress girly. Maybe explaining this to them will help them understand.

 

[Redmage]

So, what should I do? Their obviously not listning to me.

Sad to say your parents may never really listen to you. A lot of parents have a hard time losing the image of their kids as, well, kids, even after they grow up.

However if you're old enough to post here then you're old enough to tell your parents to go away and leave you alone. If they press, nod wisely and ignore them. You're an adult. That means their opinions are just opinions for you, not laws.

 

[locker669]

like alot of people say and i agree. there are really only 2 things that i see that you can do.

1. sit and have a serious talk with your parents. like it was said eariler, it might not go to well but they need to understand that you don't want change. That you want to be yourself.

2. You move out and get your own place or you and your friends split the cost of renting a house or apartment.

I'd try both of these, in this order. Or maybe number 2 should be figure out how much rent, electricity etc. would cost you and see if you could afford to live on your own.

 

[*~Game Girl~*]

I was talking to my best friend yesterday....We've both decided that when we get decent jobs and earn enough money, she and I are gonna buy a 2 bedroom flat. We'll split for the bills and everything. I can be my own person, and live with my best friend.