Penis: How big is to big?

[chicago]

Well they say that only th first 4 inches of the Vagina have really strong sensasions so if a guy has a 4 1/2 inch dick with some girth then he should be able to make a girl happy. If you need more then that it's probably a psychological thing. I've also heard that if a woman doesn't know how to pleasure herself she cant let her partner know what she needs either.

Do you have a vagina?

 

[meangry]

Do you have a vagina?

This question is becoming more and more fucking important the further this thread goes, because it is starting to sound like we have a whole bunch of dudes doing some posturing.

I've got nothing to really gain; I've stated that I am not like Armpit Licker and his fifty five inch long dong. And I will put it this way; if the girl I am fucking is looking for something like that, then they're a *****.

If you are below average, then you have to work on your imagination. You might have to be good at a lot of other things to compensate. If you are fine, you are average you will do fine as long as you are good with communication and figure out what your partner wants. And if you are above average, you can bang that cervix until you break shit internally. I don't think that's what women mean by rough sex, but what do I know; I don't have a vag.

But I don't know what a woman wants. I don't know what Red or Steph or Jo or whoever in here wants and I am not going to say shit like "MAN IF U GOT GIRF U ARITE" or "U FUCK MY 9 INCH DIK AND SEE WHA I MEAN LOLZ".

 

[Homer28]

How about writing something like "He couldn't go in deep, but he gave the sides hell!"

 

[tickle_feety]

Sounds like Samuel L Jackson hijacked a Danielle Steele novel.

LOL!

 

[Bohemianne]

I've also heard that if a woman doesn't know how to pleasure herself she cant let her partner know what she needs either.

I bet that Grafenberg dude must have fought beyond physics and wits to affix patents next to a woman's G-force. Some men would rather know more of *female* genitalia than they care for their own...erm.....size (?) 😱

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ernst_Gräfenberg

 

[BlackestLily]

And if you are above average, you can bang that cervix until you break shit internally.

Sweet manbaby Jesus. That sounds...so vicious. The first time around I read it as "shit internally". I let out an ew.

 

[naughtylucy]

Well they say that only th first 4 inches of the Vagina have really strong sensasions so if a guy has a 4 1/2 inch dick with some girth then he should be able to make a girl happy. If you need more then that it's probably a psychological thing. I've also heard that if a woman doesn't know how to pleasure herself she cant let her partner know what she needs either.

Well, you seem to know a lot about my **** and the other 3.5 billion cunts on the planet. Seeing as how you're such an authority on what women want, what we THINK we want and our communication capabilities, perhaps you could come to the pub this evening and explain to the four women I'm meeting who all enjoy a good thrust that they're actually just having imaginary orgasms. Really, we'd appreciate some advice. We have no idea how to fuck ourselves, tell our partners how to fuck us, or relate this information to one another.

 

[Homer28]

Well, you seem to know a lot about my **** and the other 3.5 billion cunts on the planet. Seeing as how you're such an authority on what women want, what we THINK we want and our communication capabilities, perhaps you could come to the pub this evening and explain to the four women I'm meeting who all enjoy a good thrust that they're actually just having imaginary orgasms. Really, we'd appreciate some advice. We have no idea how to fuck ourselves, tell our partners how to fuck us, or relate this information to one another.

That's hot!

 

[sadomino]

how big is too big?

if women's eyes open wide after seeing it, it is big. If they frown after seeing it, go home and never date again.

That goes for your writing reference.

 

[Mystery2009]

Do you have a vagina?

Maybe I do, or maybe I just know how to read, and I actually pay attention when peaople talk. Either way how is my gender any of your business?

 

[Mystery2009]

Well, you seem to know a lot about my **** and the other 3.5 billion cunts on the planet. Seeing as how you're such an authority on what women want, what we THINK we want and our communication capabilities, perhaps you could come to the pub this evening and explain to the four women I'm meeting who all enjoy a good thrust that they're actually just having imaginary orgasms. Really, we'd appreciate some advice. We have no idea how to fuck ourselves, tell our partners how to fuck us, or relate this information to one another.

If you don't know how to comunicate with your guy then I would recomend couples counselling. Then again if you did, your sex life would probably gt beter and then how would you relate to your friends at the Pub you go to.

 

[chicago]

Maybe I do, or maybe I just know how to read, and I actually pay attention when peaople talk. Either way how is my gender any of your business?

Because if you don't, then how would you know more about them that those who actually possess one? I mean, really we're arguing over half an inch which really probably wouldn't make a difference, but 4.5 is smaller than the average penis and probably not enough to satisfy the average woman. Small guys can read whatever they want to make themselves feel better, but ultimately size does matter. No one needs a nine inch penis unless they're a porn star, but really anything under 5.5 is going to be difficult to work with.

 

[Mystery2009]

Because if you don't, then how would you know more about them that those who actually possess one? I mean, really we're arguing over half an inch which really probably wouldn't make a difference, but 4.5 is smaller than the average penis and probably not enough to satisfy the average woman. Small guys can read whatever they want to make themselves feel better, but ultimately size does matter. No one needs a nine inch penis unless they're a porn star, but really anything under 5.5 is going to be difficult to work with.

First of all you seem to be a very angry young woman. Next, it seems pretty shallow to judge somebody by there penis size, not unlike a man judging a woman buy her breast size. It also shows a lack of experience and/or knowledge on your part that you think a man has to have a penis bigger then 4.5 inches for you to get off. Men have fingers, men have tongues, and of course there are all those wonderful toys you (or him) can pick up from the local porn shop. Then again maybe you prefer to fake orgasms like Lucy and then tell all your friends what a terrible lover you man is behind his back.



The point being dear Annie, is that men are not mind readers. If you don't tell them how to please you how the fuck are they going to learn?

 

[chicago]

First of all you seem to be a very angry young woman. Next, it seems pretty shallow to judge somebody by there penis size, not unlike a man judging a woman buy her breast size. It also shows a lack of experience and/or knowledge on your part that you think a man has to have a penis bigger then 4.5 inches for you to get off. Men have fingers, men have tongues, and of course there are all those wonderful toys you (or him) can pick up from the local porn shop. Then again maybe you prefer to fake orgasms like Lucy and then tell all your friends what a terrible lover you man is behind his back.



The point being dear Annie, is that men are not mind readers. If you don't tell them how to please you how the fuck are they going to learn?

We're talking about penises here, not your impression of me, first of all. Secondly, I'm not judging anyone on penis size. I'm being honest on what size is ideal for the average woman. No one needs a 9 inch monster, as amazing as that would seem, but honestly, tongues and fingers seem like foreplay for many women and it would be disappointing to then have to deal with a tiny dick. Most guys are of average size which is completely fine. But again, we're talking strictly penis size, not judging a person based on that. Women are very forgiving about things, and penis size could well be one of them if the man is funny, caring, intelligent, and so on.

I think a lot of men who are insecure about that will read as much as they can and apply whatever makes them feel better to conversations such as this one. But they can never be completely sure of what they're saying as they don't have a vagina.

However, we were talking strictly sex and what is ideal or not. No one brought up anyone's character or personality into the equation that I've seen, but you (making some very personal comments bordering GR violations). And you're sounding much more angry than anyone else in this thread.

Communication, personality, and so on was not what I thought the topic was.

 

[lemoncake]

Small penises are not something I am interested in, the guys attached to them, usually have issues that I don't feel like dealing with. I also don't want to constantly reassure them that they are okay. I'm just not attracted to anything under 5 inches unless the guy is extrememy hot. I like average sized, you know its going to be fun and not hurt afterwards. Thickness is also awesome too. I don't think its shallow to like a certain penis size, its just what you are attracted to.

I like it in stories when the author just writes little hints about the anatomy of characters, its really hot for the reader to kind of personalize the story and imagine whatever size they want to.

 

[rhiannon]

LOL....lemoncake, I just had the image in my mind how you approach a guy in a bar and yank down his pants to find out if he's worth flirting with!! 😀

And when we talk about average woman and average dick, I really think it doesn't have anything to do with the size if it is pleasurable! I've had big dick and didn't get anything out of it because I didn't completely trust its owner.

As long as the clit gets enough pressure during sex, I'm fine, and it doesn't matter how big the dick inside of me is, and I would think most women are that way. A lot of women, if not the majority, don't even get an orgasm from penetration, so why in the world would it matter to them how big the dick is?

 

[chicago]

If size didn't matter, guys with small penises would have no trouble being in porn, let along finding a girlfriend. Male enhancement pills and pumps wouldn't sell so well and so on.

 

[rhiannon]

Do you know any guy who has trouble finding a girlfriend because of the size of his penis? I know a lot of guys who don't find a girlfriend because they ARE dicks, not because there is something wrong with the one they have!

Being in porn is not really something it should be measured by....and guys in amateur porn DON'T have huge dicks. Porn actors and actresses have nothing to do with the real world.

Just because mainstream has a certain image put out there how a dick should be, it doesn't mean there is any truth about it. Diet pills get sold really well, so do breast implants. Still big girls and girls with small tits have no problem finding a guy! It's a nice to have thing, not a necessity!

 

[chicago]

I know of one. I dated him a long time ago and it was the self-esteem issues he had about his small penis that ended up ending our relationship, though I was a virgin at the time. We still talk on occasion. He still hasn't had an LTR.

Like I said, the bigger is not necessarily the better, but there seems to be a cut off point where anything smaller is difficult to work with. Sex is important in relationships. It's not the most important, but it is important to be compatible sexually with your partner.

I don't know how big mainstream says a dick should be and I'm not going by that. I'm going by the average penis size, which in America is a little over 5 inches, which is just fine since the average vagina is about 5 inches deep. 85% of women are happy with their partners size.

I don't think anyone who expressed an opinion other than "size doesn't matter" is necessarily a size queen, rather a smaller than average penis can make sex less enjoyable and thus frustrating.

 

[rhiannon]

I know of one. I dated him a long time ago and it was the self-esteem issues he had about his small penis that ended up ending our relationship, though I was a virgin at the time. We still talk on occasion. He still hasn't had an LTR.

His self-esteem is the problem, not actually the size of his penis. And he has that self-esteem problem because there are people who run around saying you can't work with anything smaller than 5 inches! 🙂

Like I said, the bigger is not necessarily the better, but there seems to be a cut off point where anything smaller is difficult to work with. Sex is important in relationships. It's not the most important, but it is important to be compatible sexually with your partner.

A friend of mine was with a guy with a really small dick, and the only reason she stayed with him for a long time was - the sex was great! They broke up over other shit.

I'm going by the average penis size, which in America is a little over 5 inches, which is just fine since the average vagina is about 5 inches deep

It is actually a fact that there are only nerve endings in the front of the vagina, so it doesn't matter how deep it does in. Personally I hate it when it goes in deeper, i.e. when I put my legs on the guys shoulders. I can't stand it for long, it's uncomfortable because then his dick touches the cervix. I know there are women who really enjoy that, but there are also women like me who think it hurts....so length shouldn't matter.

And YES, I DO HAVE A VAGINA! 😉

I don't think anyone who expressed an opinion other than "size doesn't matter" is necessarily a size queen, rather a smaller than average penis can make sex less enjoyable and thus frustrating.

I don't know what you mean here, could you explain please?

 

[chicago]

Size-queen is a term people use for women who only date men with larger than average penises.

I don't like when the penis is banging away at my cervix either. It hurts even worse if I'm stressed out and sex is supposed to be a stress reliever. Luckily, that tends to happen mostly when the guy is bigger than average. And as I said, as long as they are of average size, I'm cool with it. I just prefer to not have to deal with a penis smaller than that. I don't think I'm alone in this opinion and I don't think I'm a mean or insensitive person for thinking this way. It's just my, and many other womens' preferences.

 

[Artoo]

This thread is full of lulz.

Most girls probably don't want a 15" jackhammer nailing their cervix to the wall behind them (although I'm sure a few of them do), frankly it sounds uncomfortable to say the least.
But size matters. Course it does. Girth moreso than length, probably. It's why we males get so wound up about it. You know that girls say that size doesn't matter just to make us feel better, right?

But to address the OP, leave out the exact size if you're writing fiction. You can always allude to it instead.

"He stood over her, wielding his huge gianormous schlong in one hand, tickling her face with the other."

Like that, see? 😀

 

[jamie jugs]

I think i'll limit myself to speaking strictly for myself on this point, as speaking for other women seems a silly endeavor. For me, this topic is so far from a black and white issue, and so much more grey. The overall sexual experience for me has so many qualifying factors, with the penis size certainly being one of them, but the "experience" by and large is what matters to me when all is said and done. Many a men adopt a certain "iv'e got a big dick" swagger that can lead them to being lazy and unfulfilling in bed, and virtually a no show in the foreplay category...which i LOVE!! Nothing like a little nipple & toe sucking to get a gal all fired up. I've found that guys with average sized penises come to realize that they have to put in a full 9-innings of effort, and cant rely solely on their big dicks to get the job done for them. Although, some guys just want to get off, for which there's no pay off for us at all (regardless of how big their dicks are) 🙁

Having said all of that, i'll now respond to the initial inspiration for this thread (and reiterate a sentiment that has already been offered at least one or twice)...Mystery2009, as far as the fictional gratification, you can leave out the penis size all together. If the story's compelling, it wont matter one way or the other...& if the story's a snooze fest, it wouldn't be enough to salvage it.

jugs

 

[chicago]

I think i'll limit myself to speaking strictly for myself on this point, as speaking for other women seems a silly endeavor. For me, this topic is so far from a black and white issue, and so much more grey. The overall sexual experience for me has so many qualifying factors, with the penis size certainly being one of them, but the "experience" by and large is what matters to me when all is said and done. Many a men adopt a certain "iv'e got a big dick" swagger that can lead them to being lazy and unfulfilling in bed, and virtually a no show in the foreplay category...which i LOVE!! Nothing like a little nipple & toe sucking to get a gal all fired up. I've found that guys with average sized penises come to realize that they have to put in a full 9-innings of effort, and cant rely solely on their big dicks to get the job done for them. Although, some guys just want to get off, for which there's no pay off for us at all (regardless of how big their dicks are) 🙁

Having said all of that, i'll now respond to the initial inspiration for this thread (and reiterate a sentiment that has already been offered at least one or twice)...Mystery2009, as far as the fictional gratification, you can leave out the penis size all together. If the story's compelling, it wont matter one way or the other...& if the story's a snooze fest, it wouldn't be enough to salvage it.

jugs

Pretty much this.

 

[rhiannon]

Size-queen is a term people use for women who only date men with larger than average penises.

I don't like when the penis is banging away at my cervix either. It hurts even worse if I'm stressed out and sex is supposed to be a stress reliever. Luckily, that tends to happen mostly when the guy is bigger than average. And as I said, as long as they are of average size, I'm cool with it. I just prefer to not have to deal with a penis smaller than that. I don't think I'm alone in this opinion and I don't think I'm a mean or insensitive person for thinking this way. It's just my, and many other womens' preferences.

I'm curious how you determine if a penis is "average size" before you have sex with the guy. I personally have never measured before I went for it. 🙂 Seriously, I believe it's a mind thing.

Granted, it's better if the dick is thick, but it really doesn't have to be long. What is length supposed to do anyways? It can just make the strokes longer, but it doesn't do much inside the vagina.

Apart from that, I'm with Jamie. 🙂