People who don't know how to tickle?

[TickleMyFancy]

I've recently started leeing instead of being a strict ler. But the two girls I've had the experience of being a lee with are...how can I say this...just really not too good. They seem to be super shy about going crazy on me, even though I've tickled the hell out of both of them.

So basically my question is- have you ever had a willing ler who just didn't know how to tickle? Is there a way to "teach" them?

I just don't get what's hard about it lol. They always act like they're scared of hurting me and tickle super lightly with a lot of breaks, no matter what I say. It's getting sad lol.

 

[daddy]

I've recently started leeing instead of being a strict ler. But the two girls I've had the experience of being a lee with are...how can I say this...just really not too good. They seem to be super shy about going crazy on me, even though I've tickled the hell out of both of them.

So basically my question is- have you ever had a willing ler who just didn't know how to tickle? Is there a way to "teach" them?

I just don't get what's hard about it lol. They always act like they're scared of hurting me and tickle super lightly with a lot of breaks, no matter what I say. It's getting sad lol.

Hi TMF...I think I even sent you a PM about this one time, but I went the lee route not to long ago and this woman could not tickle at all...it felt like she was digging her nails deep into my flesh and it actually hurt. It was like I was being almost beat up instead...LOL. No teasing, no really light tickles...just full out "scratching" almost which did nothing for me. I know there is a happy medium between the light tickles and the pressure tickling because I am a ler by nature and it also depends on the body part, but this gal had no clue and you don't want to say anything at that time to make her feel bad...especially is sex is involved. Kinda know what I mean?

peace out,
daddy

 

[DharmaMember77]

Since there's two of them I suggest you make one the tickle subject and you teach the other one by practicing on your tickle subject

 

[FLBowler]

I have dealt with someone who could not tickle what so ever, it's hard to break them out of that shyness sometimes.

 

[TickleMyFancy]

Since there's two of them I suggest you make one the tickle subject and you teach the other one by practicing on your tickle subject

Unfortunately, that would NOT work. They do NOT like each other at all.

 

[kcantankerous]

Unfortunately, that would NOT work. They do NOT like each other at all.

I suggest, giving them say a detailed feedback as they are tickling you. Maybe some verbal cues, we use to do that when I was a PT (clearly tickling was not involved). However, the same principal applies. "drag your nails, lightly squeeze" etc. I found myself teaching my then girlfriend how to do it. She became quite good and then we broke up lol. Anyways let me know if that helps.

Thanks,
K

 

[Emishticklish]

I've been there. We established a Safeword that could easily be understood with my Accent. 🙂 I told the "Ler" in question do NOT STOP tickling me until I SAY THAT WORD. It worked. 🙂 But sometimes it is not so simple I imagine.

 

[BARRY-LEE]

I've recently started leeing instead of being a strict ler. But the two girls I've had the experience of being a lee with are...how can I say this...just really not too good. They seem to be super shy about going crazy on me, even though I've tickled the hell out of both of them.

So basically my question is- have you ever had a willing ler who just didn't know how to tickle? Is there a way to "teach" them?

I just don't get what's hard about it lol. They always act like they're scared of hurting me and tickle super lightly with a lot of breaks, no matter what I say. It's getting sad lol.

Maybe the problem is you enjoy playing the role of the tickler, maybe the girls who tickled you are more on the lee side. just a thought. But then again, it could just be you have more a specific preference as a lee.

 

[tickle gamer]

I've recently started leeing instead of being a strict ler. But the two girls I've had the experience of being a lee with are...how can I say this...just really not too good. They seem to be super shy about going crazy on me, even though I've tickled the hell out of both of them.

So basically my question is- have you ever had a willing ler who just didn't know how to tickle? Is there a way to "teach" them?

I just don't get what's hard about it lol. They always act like they're scared of hurting me and tickle super lightly with a lot of breaks, no matter what I say. It's getting sad lol.

I may have a solution to your problem, and it might be kind of fun for you.

First, let me say, I read what you said about them not liking each other.

First off tie one down at a time [with the other not around] and say "I want you to do this to me" and start tickling her.

Next, do the same to the other [when the first girl isn't around].

Then when they both tickle you they should be somewhat better at it.

 

[Myriads]

This is an issue often seen in the spanking world. A woman who likes to be spanked can't get a good one from her partner.

The reason is simple. People in general are conditioned to not hurt others. Its a level of cultural training that is very much under the radar and seeps in. Come even playful instances the background training kicks in and they are not able to tickle/spank/whip whatever with any real force. They just don't want to 'hurt'.

It's hard to get folks past such conditioning.

Myriads

 

[King of tickles]

Every girl that has tried to tickle me and certainly isn't into tickling, hasn't done a great job. I was with this one girl awhile ago. We were doing some foreplay and I was also tickling her. I told her that I felt "bad" about tickling her so much so I said I'll hold my arms above my head and she can get some revenge. Well, it barely worked. She's got great nails and it tickled my hips a bit but I didn't even squirm and its like she didn't know what she was doing. Or she wasn't that into it. But I wanna meet a girl that knows what she's doing, like Lily Haze, Cali Logan and Addie Juniper. They know what they are doing!!!

 

[robmic]

I hate to say it, but I think you have to have a little "devil" in you to be a good 'ler. Even in many of the clips I see here, you can tell that the 'lers aren't really "into" it. They don't have very good methods and miss lots of good opportunities. That being said, the general concensus from the folks that have responded so far have been good ideas. You can't learn if you don't know what tickles....

 

[trifalcon4]

try booze, it brings out the evil side in some lers.

 

[Horatio]

Most people (vanilla) just aren't that tuned in to tickling. Whereas you and I have it down to a science because we are obsessed.

Not saying there aren't good vanilla ticklers out there. Your two just aren't among them.

Coaching them through foot tickling is a little easier, just tell them to pretend you have an itch on the bottom of your foot, and they should use the same pressure as scratching that itch.

For your ribbies, maybe have them start at the bottom of your rib cage and count your ribs all the way up to your armpits. That's about the right pressure too.

Hope it helps!

 

[Freethought]

Congrats on the Both-ing😉 Us Switches definitely get to experience the best of both worlds.

I think I can relate to Fancy because I started out exclusively as a Ler. The first few times I was tickled, I was plenty responsive, but it was frustrating because I knew how to tickle really well! I knew the way to tickle and I wanted the person tickling to do it "right" to me. Things get fun again when you learn to just give in to it and enjoy the sensation of being tickled even if their technique isn't perfect.

Hang in there Fancy. The first time you play with someone who really knows how to tickle, it is going to be amazing for you!

 

[melancholy_chic]

Try insulting their technique. Maybe they'll be pissed enough to try harder.

 

[ReyaFet]

Thanks. 🙂 I'd like to think that I do! Hehe.

Every girl that has tried to tickle me and certainly isn't into tickling, hasn't done a great job. I was with this one girl awhile ago. We were doing some foreplay and I was also tickling her. I told her that I felt "bad" about tickling her so much so I said I'll hold my arms above my head and she can get some revenge. Well, it barely worked. She's got great nails and it tickled my hips a bit but I didn't even squirm and its like she didn't know what she was doing. Or she wasn't that into it. But I wanna meet a girl that knows what she's doing, like Lily Haze, Cali Logan and Addie Juniper. They know what they are doing!!!

 

[Freethought]

The dozens of victims tickled live on video seem to think you know too Addie😉

Thanks. 🙂 I'd like to think that I do! Hehe.

 

[Inverse]

Ticklees are very different too~ I tend to love really tickling and getting in there with my fingers, and this can be REALLY rough for some... or not rough at all and I'm totally going too easy on them. It really depends on open communication and knowing your lee. I suppose for you tickle vets out there (lol) you're so pro you can do this on the fly with anyone without any real comms, but for a lot of people it takes some practice and ingenuity and just a little bit of courage. <3

 

[3xPIN]

Coaxing can help, and taunting might get their fingers dancing. Just remember, patience is the key. Most are reluctant due to insecurities and lack of practice. Teaching isn't possible. It is neither an art nor a science. Tickling is more like a sport or game; it requires coaching. You can guide them, but they have to find their own grove. Now you can help them find their, and your, groves considering your body is, in a way the playing field. The paradox of course being that it takes some of the 'lee fun away when saying things like, "Yes. Good. Right there!" Instead of saying the routine, "No, stop, not there!"

Never get discouraged or be discouraging. Some times people just need to get warmed up.

I have to ask, two girls you said? One at a time, or double teaming? You could make it a competition or comparing notes thing between them. Either way, you are living the dream. At the very least, a dream of mine!

Oh, and welcome to the wide and wild world of Switch!

 

[P[a]pi]

When it comes to the ler side of things, somebody either has it or they don't. It's easy for a vanilla to be a lee, just lay there haha. You gotta find someone who actually wants to tickle you. Has the urge to. That shouldn't be that hard since you're female, and judging by your sig picture. Unless you only wanna be tickled by a chick. Then it will be harder, but not impossible.

 

[C.A.B.]

"...a little sadism now and then, is relished by the wisest men..."

 

[MrMidnyte]

Its the reason I became mainly a ler now. I had the chance to be tickled by four different women in the past two years. Two who were tmf members, two were dommes I became friends with on Fetlife. They all said they were great at tickling. The tmf girls were good, the dommes weren't. I wasn't put through torture like they said they put their other play partners in. Either that or I'm facing the fact that I'm not that ticklish.

 

[Ticklishguy83]

Yes. I've been tickled by allot of lers that don't know what they are doing or Im getting less and less ticklish. I am not sure.

 

[Knudus2]

When it comes to the ler side of things, somebody either has it or they don't. It's easy for a vanilla to be a lee, just lay there haha. You gotta find someone who actually wants to tickle you. Has the urge to. That shouldn't be that hard since you're female, and judging by your sig picture. Unless you only wanna be tickled by a chick. Then it will be harder, but not impossible.

Yep! Instruction and communication is fine if you want a sensual massage tickling, but if you want a good sadistic tickle yhen the 'ler has to have a sadistic side. Some people don't and even if they succeed in beeing sadistic they might feel very bad about it later.