Personal Help

[bowsandarrows]

I have a problem that I need some practical advice for. I'm getting into some personal sexual problems, so if you're not looking for that type of discussion I'm just warning you in advance.

I'm completely attracted to women, however I have absolutely no interest in sex. I'm not sexually stimulated by breasts or vagina, I am turned on by tickling and women's feet. I'm a good looking 19 year old guy in college right now and I've had a number of advances by women who I've had to stop from going 'all the way' with for the reasons stated above.

I have no real objection to having sex, it's something I do want to do, mostly because girls in college want to, or maybe just in a pathetic attempt to be normal, but I really don't want to be tickling or licking her feet for five minutes before I attempt to go for it.

So essentially I'm wondering if anyone else has this problem, or if anyone knows of any type of medication that basically gives you an instant erection so I don't have to worry about this crap.

I really appreciate anyone who responds to this.

 

[xionking]

If there is one thing I dislike about the tickling fetish, or any fetish in general, is its ability to inhibit vanilla sexual arousal.

I'm sure there are people on these forums who would definately appreciate what you're saying.

I've never greatly been turned on by vanilla porn. 1, because in a way, I find watching two, three, four, ten or however many people in the act, I just find watching it a little perverted.

The best advice I can give is find a girl with an open enough mind so you can incorporate tickling perhaps into foreplay. It doesn't need to be full bondage stylez, just playful tickling that will provide you with what is needed to progress to the main course.

When I was 17 or 18 and having sex for the first time, I often found myself paranoid over the same thing as you, ey. I didn't really think that the act of sex was that good. But trust me, you find the right person, tickling or no tickling, the sex will be grand, I tellz ya!

Take note that this is coming from a guy who is not into one night stands, who doesn't go out simply to prey on women in a drunken attempt to get in their pants, ultimately leading to a drunken half assed performance and a very awkward breakfast the following morning.

Remember though, sex is fucking awesome. And I'm sure if you find the right girl, all of that paranoia will disappear, my friend.

-Xionking

P.S. This thread probably belongs best in the tickling discussion section.

 

[RobAce]

I have almost this same problem.

Ill PM you once I have some more time, my pain meds are making me real loopy right now.

But I assure you, you are not alone.

Rob

 

[3xPIN]

You have a fetish. It is that simple. You need to be patient. Breasts and vaginas are everywhere on the web. It is easy to get desensitized and all. But a good understanding GGG lady is hard to find. Eventually you will find a girl who will let you foot worship her and all that jazz. New college girls fresh out of high school are shallow minded and judgemental. (they also have a tendancy to be vanilla as hell) I was 22 before I ran into the tickle girl of my dreams. But i could eventually get around my kink because I was attracted to everything about her, not just her tits and ass. I "come out of the closet" to girls before I give them the first kiss. But when the tickle me the right way, for the right amount of time, I get hard enough to hammer nails into wood!

so I guess my advice is this: Stay frosty! Don't worry about sex. If my non-virgin friends have showed me anything is that sex is all blow and no show. It is great, but can rule your life! I am looking at you, "Dave". ( not that he knows it )


Sidenote: the medication you asked about is called Viagra. (Duh) but: You should not have to rely on that.

 

[Italian Tickler]

You're fine. I love women from head to toe, but I know what you are saying. You may be experiencing a phenomenon, or mental maturing , at an early age.

What I mean is this. To me making love to a woman, intercourse, is something that only comes to me now with great closeness. In other words I have to actually love them. This can be veeeeery frustrating to the woman in a new relationship, as apparently few men are like that. I was not always this way, but as I got old-er now I'm completely that way. You'd be surprised to learn, though, how many women fall in love with the fetishes. I've learned from the numerous women that I got into the 'fun play' that most guys are dull, or lets say 'normal', in the sack. Unique erotic play is often a new exciting world. I'm very tantric anyway, I was before anyone heard of tantric, me included. You can have hours of foreplay, get her off a bunch of times, all sorts of ways, be teased to pieces yourself, then decide how you want to 'finish things'. You'll have no complaints I assure you, instead expect to hear things like "OMG what the hell just happened, who the hell are you!?!?"

Making a woman 'happy' over and over is pretty easy, a great plus to being a woman I imagine, so my advice is do that a lot, lol. Then they really WANT to get into anything that will make you happy. Also, teaching a woman what makes you happy, opening this world to them, now gives them a power over you from their point of view. It's a great table turning, wonderful thing. So just enjoy yourself, you're only 19, it all comes together.

Hope this helped

 

[xionking]

Once you have a woman having orgasm after orgasm, gagging for it, brought to the point where she can do nothing but shake her legs around like it's an epileptic fit, then drop the fetish on her so she has no energy to fight as you restrain her.

-Xionking

 

[Italian Tickler]

Once you have a woman having orgasm after orgasm, gagging for it, brought to the point where she can do nothing but shake her legs around like it's an epileptic fit, then drop the fetish on her so she has no energy to fight as you restrain her.

-Xionking

, yeah that's another way to put it, sigh. Lol

 

[DownUnder]

I echo Robace's sentiments. You are NOT alone.

Tickling is just part of your sexuality. It makes it extra important for you to find someone who will accept your sexuality as part of who you are.

Really, so should everyone. But like Xion, I'm not a one-night-stand kinda guy.

 

[Fire_Sprite]

I can definitely relate. Because of my virtually non-existent sex drive I feel paranoid during all my dates.

 

[Myriads]

Your description of your sexual feelings is a spot on one for the fetish as a problem.

We use the word fetish here to decribe a like of ticking, and how tickling is something that arouses us. Fetish is a handy catch phrase for us to bundle up the idea that many of us are aroused and attracted to something different then the society 'norm' idea when it comes to sex.

That's a cool thing to do, except when we meet up with a case like yours. One where the term fetish is acting in its correct medical definition. As something that is inhibiting regular sexual arousal and expression.

Your fetish is causing you to be unhappy. You are anxious in your dating relations because of it. And you are worried about how you can enjoy sex because of it. That is a problem.

For most here tickling is something that arouses them in adddition to sex. It's not a blocker, but an extra. So they have adapted it into their sex lives, much as someone who say, totally gets off on doggie style intercourse would make that a priority when the clothes came off and bodies came together.

What you need to do is decide if you are comfortable with having only this one path to arousal, and if you feel that your future partners can and will accept you for this if its how it is. If you feel you can accept this path then embrace it, be open with your lovers and tell them exactly how you work at the right time in the relationship, and see how it goes.

If you are not comfortable, then finding a professional that specilizes in sexual issues may be an option. You don't want to be rid of the fetish in total, just not have it be the only path for you. And from a pro, you might be able to find such help.

Myriads