Please read? (Not a joke)

[Leo tickles]

1: If I offend anyone, I'm sorry.
2: This is a rant, but if some nice people wanna reply with a lie that goes like "You'll be alright, yada yada," go for it.


Okay. I am an 18 year old loser, no, not male, well, a LOSER male. Instead of doing drugs and drinking like every other 18 year old, I wake up one morning and say "I'm gonna find true love". Now, that was a statment, but if it was a question, it would be asking for a miracle. NOTE: My pic is in the members section, if you want a better one PM me and I'll go on cam for you on Yahoo Messenger or AIM or something.


Now, onwards. So I look for a while and come up with some dating sites. I meet some girls. Typical conversation. Me: Hey, what's up? Her: Nothing you? Me: Same same, how's life. Her: It's good you. Me: It's getting there. Her: Oh. *10 minutes of silence* Me: Whatcha like to do for fun hon?. Her: DRINK PARTY AND SUCK DICK FOR MONEY!!!.


^ Ladies, gents, and she-males, THAT, is a slut.^ Now, I don't mind sexual talk, I actually prefer it sometimes. But if you want to talk you HAVE to understand I am not looking for free meat, I am looking for LOVE. L-O-V-E. Love... Love.. No seriously, LOVE.

Now then, if you've read this far, and don't want to read another 10 paragraphs please stop now, but I encourage you to keep reading.

Onwards. Me.. am... Leo. I have a trust problem. Okay? I have some stories to tell on why and how I came to be so fucked in the head, but I'll tell you that in private. If we DO talk (Yeah, right, girls don't talk to me}. And by some MIRACLE, start a relationship... pardon me, gotta laugh at my stupid hoping self... HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. AS I was saying, if we do start a relationship.. HAHAHA... erm, then be prepared. I am not a dominant (Sexually nor a person). But unless your dying of something or seem really sad my first thing to say when we talk will be something like- "Hey, are you cheating on me yet?" She will say no, unless she is, wouldn't suprise me, and I'll say are you sure, she'll say yes. I'll say okay. After a while I might start asking things like "Do you love me" And if you say "Uh sure" Or something like "Yeah I guess" I will go off on you. I Want a YES, or, NO. I don't play the mabye games.


Whew, my fingers are smoking. If, after a while, you say something like- "Hey, your sweet and cute, but I only like you as a friend" I will immediatly block you. Rough, I know. But sweet and cute=friend? Go find ugly and sour then 🙁.


That's about all, so if you finished reading all that feed me some bullswhit and say "It'll be okay". Or, girls, SINGLE girls, send me a PM and we'll go from there.

 

[qjakal]

Whoa...

Not sure what you hoped to accomplish by posting this, but perhaps it's part of your quest for love? If so, I think you need to relax a bit and let it happen rather than pursue it so hard.

You're young and have lots of time to let things develop, including love. I'm throwing advice backward here from about 30+ years in your future. We're ALL a bit awkward at your age, and women are still a mystery to me even at 50, but believe me, it WILL get better and settle down somewhat as time passes.

I'd say your best bet is to continue to mature and develop your own interests and hobbies, as well as a career and allow the emotional side of your life to catch up to the other aspects when the time is right.

Actually, I guess all that was a fancy way of saying:

"It will be okay"

Q

 

[Leo tickles]

I have tried to wait for love and let it come itself. That doesn't work. I am constantly building up skills and maturity in a variety of things. But thanks, that made me feel a bit better.

 

[ticklkitten]

Hey Leo, first I admire you for looking for love and not just screwing around. But you are SO young still... and its just not something you can force. I'm 26 and been through it ALL relationship wise... I'm still looking for it. Let nature take its course. And defnitely take qjakel's advice. At that age, which I still remember pretty clearly, we are all a confused mess. But it DOES get better as you begin to straighten yourself out. Trust me on this.

If this is totally freaking you out though, please go talk to a professional counselor about it. My advice, while well meant, is far from perfect. Best wishes to you.

 

[Mitchell]

Leo, I keep saying this to you, and I hope my message will sink in, or maybe you will develop more with age. If you have a poor self image, women will view you as such, and you will have a hard time getting ANYBODY!
At 18, I had just started college. I was a scrawny, nervous, 118 pound male with a nervous stomach who couldnt even finish a meal. I had been abused emotionally by my father's family and my father since my age of reason, and a year later my parents divorced and my father and I began what would be an 11 year estrangement. In those 11 years, I grew into myself, emotionally, physically, my views on the world, and such, so that now, Iam a fully developed 190 pound, and at least decent looking, American male who will be 35 in 12 days time. While I still do struggle a bit with confidence issues with women, and Iam far from a casanova, I have strong convictions, and I believe now can overcome any nervousness I may feel with girls.
This all comes with age and experience. You are very young yet. Dont put pressure on yourself. Go with the flow, live life, have learning experiences, and you will be amazed at the change. Few people I know nowadays, with goals of higher education, needing to have higher paying jobs or careers to survive financially with a family and such, find true love for the rest of their lives at 18. Most are at least in their 20s, and establishing themselves. While I may be a little "late" being 35 and single, I have several friends, and also know people on here, in the same boat. My belief is that it doesnt matter when love happens, only that it does, and that in the long run, the person's life turns out well. Do I wish I was married with a successful career, and 2 kids at the moment? Of course! I dont spend time beating myself up over it, though.
Leo, you need to relax, my friend, and that is sound advice. Again, try to focus in on your good qualities instead of all this negativity. Think of good things about yourself. You need to work on those issues before any woman can take you seriously, and you would be able to move forth in a good relationship. You are very young yet, and have the opportunity to grow and change. Hopefully, by the time you're my age, you will have achieved the goal of marriage and kids that I have not yet achieved. Spend time thinking about the positive and building yourself, instead of focusing in on the negative, and tearing yourself down. That will get you nowhere.

Mitch

 

[red indian]

Just a small piece of advice...........

....please dont title a thread "please read", lets just take it for granted that you want someone to read your thread shall we? the implication of these "please read" thread starters is that their thread is in some way "special" and in some way above the common herd of TMF thread starters.

Well, I have news for you, your contributions are not valued any higher than anyone elses, merely becuase you try to tell us its a "please read".

Let me give you an insiders tip (but dont pass it on ok? otherwise they will all be at it) its the CONTENT of your threads that makes them a "please read".

Thats just between you and me ok?

 

[Lttg]

Hey Leo, first I admire you for looking for love and not just screwing around. But you are SO young still...

i hate that 🙂 fair play maybe an 18 y/o isnt quite fully mature yet, but theres nothing saying that love cant be found. 5 year old kids fall in love with the kid next door, grow up, marry them etc. fairy tale ending possibly but it happens.

in truth, i dont like love anymore 😛 when i was 18 i was in love with my gf, and it was deffinately love even though i was young.. granted she dipped my heart in acid, dropped it in the blender, then through the blender out the window, but it was still love. kinda put me off and i dont feel like any relationships that are even remotely serious now, but doesnt mean love cant work for others, good luck leo man

 

[steph]

Why are you so hard on yourself? Obviously you've been badly damaged somewhere along the line but how, and by whom? If you can conquer those demons, you CAN move on and eventually find happiness~if you want it. Or you can sit and wallow at your own personal pity party~is that what you want? I'm a lot older than you and I've a good friend who's a motivational speaker who tours the country. His claim to fame statement? "We are who we are and where we are because that's where we choose to be." Pretty right on, I think...

XOXO

 

[steph]

Thoughtful and sincerely heartfelt Flatfoot...

Oh, and just in case I came off sounding too "Pollyanna" Leo~I met my high school sweetheart when I was 16. We were together until I was 19 when Danny, at the age of 22, a police dog trainer in the military and stationed in Germany, died in a rock climbing accident. His rope broke and he fell 200 feet, killing him instantly. If I could go back 20 years, I'd have much rather dealt with the pain of having him dump me on my ass than having to be the only 19 year old I knew who lost someone close to my own age who I planned to marry.
XOXO

 

[Leo tickles]

Re: Just a small piece of advice...........

....please dont title a thread "please read", lets just take it for granted that you want someone to read your thread shall we? the implication of these "please read" thread starters is that their thread is in some way "special" and in some way above the common herd of TMF thread starters.

Well, I have news for you, your contributions are not valued any higher than anyone elses, merely becuase you try to tell us its a "please read".

Let me give you an insiders tip (but dont pass it on ok? otherwise they will all be at it) its the CONTENT of your threads that makes them a "please read".

Thats just between you and me ok?

I wasn't trynig to say I am valued more then anybody else. I just wanted people to read my god damn thread and if you don't fucking like it then dont fucking click it.

 

[ticklkitten]

leo, you're new so I'll help you out with that last post. Red Indian thinks it is fun occasionally to start a fire under people... we are all individuals here but take him with a grain of salt... other's will agree with on this one.

 

[Leo tickles]

I'm not one for games.

 

[The Sean Man]

I'm not one for games.

To quote Sgt. Hulka from "Stripes":


"Lighten up, Francis."




The Sean Man

 

[Leo tickles]

To quote Sgt. Hulka from "Stripes":


"Lighten up, Francis."




The Sean Man

I need to lighten up 🙁 But I can't.

 

[unclebill]

Leo, a few times a year I donate some time working with handicap kids. Most of these kids have Downs Syndrome, and to be honest don`t have much of a future. It`s amazing how giving up just a little bit of your time working with these kids can change your perspective on your own life. My advice to you is get involved with a community activity other than beer drinking, and maybe you will get to know yourself a little better, and with time you might have a better understanding of what it is you are looking for.

 

[Leo tickles]

Thank you for the advice. I am looking into some things I would like to be doing, like community services. Mabye I will find working with kids enjoyable. I like working with people, but when I am in a bad mood people hate working with me. And latley I have been in a very bad mood all the time. I am taking some coucelor suggested drugs and receiving help. 🙂

 

[kis123]

Some words of wisdom from someone who has children older than you....

I first commend you for desiring a serious relationship at your age. Many guys want to bang as many women as they can at your age. I'm glad you're not settling for that kind of foolishness!

Having said that, there is an important issue here. I'm discovering that a lot of young women your age today are "players" and am not interested in serious relationships of any kind. Not all women are like this, but many of them are and you must be careful and guard your heart. You can expose yourself to being used by someone who does not have your best interests at heart.

I heard someone say that we give license to how we are treated by others. If you got burned, learn from the experience and move forward. Don't allow others to "piss on you and tell you it's raining!" If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it's a duck and don't let someone tell you it's a chicken. There are predators out here that will attach themselves to you and bleed you dry. Then they'll step over your remains and go on to the next guy. I'm sorry you've been hurt-you really seem like a very nice person who wants to live more mature than your peers. Maybe you should set your dating sights on someone a little older who wants what you want instead of dealing with women who are just out for a good time, then dump you for someone hotter and better.

Lick your wounds, learn your lessons and get back in the game. You're too young to hide yourself from potential love.

I hope I've helped you some. BTW, don't get yourself so worked up when others don't agree with you. Some people think they're controversial when they're actually callous, thoughtless, and basically annoying. You can't fall for the trap or you'll just fuel their fire. It'll never stop. Just be the best you that you can be-it's the only person you can control.