Preferance question for you female 'lees

[Babbles]

Likewise

Thank you Flock. Kind of you to note.
even if I missed a joke here somewhere... that I admittedly do on occasion 🙂

 

[xSamanthax]

Sorry it took so long to get back to you, Babbles. Hubby and I had a late night playing with a female friend.

"And I would recommend addressing your comments to the topic at hand, constructively rather than snidely."

I recommend you practice what you preach.

"Moreover, I'd recommend not slanting mine."

Your comments were already slanted. Needed no help from me.

"I was answering the question. I started to restate it -- but it's all up there. When folks don't bother to read clearly articulated thoughts, picking and choosing and maligning at will, I do tend to get repetitive in the hopes that
clarity may dawn one decade...) 🙄 Along with better intentions."

I did not malign you. I offered the observation that calling f/f repulsive and adding that you absolutely hate it...does not come across as supportive. Especially when the question was "what do you like" not "what do you not like".

Several straight ladies have posted on this thread that they prefer male 'lers. They didn't feel the need to call f/f repulsive or express their *hatred* of f/f tickling. I have a lot of respect for them/

"There is a very obvious difference between personal sexual/play preference and intolerance of others sexual or play preferences."

Indeed there is, demonstrated very clearly by the other hetero posters in this thread who simply stated their preferences.

"If you actually have followed my comments --- obviously you haven't --- I've always been very glad for the tolerance of variety here, which can be expressed freely, unlike in society. I just don't enjoy f/f myself."

Actually I have. I followed that it is not simply that you do not enjoy f/f, but that you find it repulsive and absolutely hate f/f in this arena, in any medium.

"I'm not homophobic, but"

But you just had to point out how you feel about f/f activities, even though it isn't your preference?

"If you wanted clarification you could have just asked politely."

Your comments don't really need any clarification. They speak for themselves.

 

[giggle-maker]

Only m/f, or perhaps f/m to some extent.

I am not at all homophobic, but I absolutely hate f/f in this arena, in any medium.

There's just enough of a sexual connotation that it's repulsive to me, at least.
Of course, if it's a truly obnoxious male, that's also repulsive
Just another perspective. Take care.

As you can see, I'm not cutting portions of your post out but highlighting the part of the whole post that got everyones attention. I'm not flaming you either, but these words are difficult at best to interpret as interjectory and not, at least somewhat, homophobic.

Originally Posted by Babbles
I didn't think I could have answered this question any more thoroughly and clearly,
but,
when some folks chronically look for the worst and actively seek to invent it where it isn't,

logic, like medicine, can't straighten everyone.

The main problem is your use of the words hate and repulsive. This wasn't an invention by others trying to flame you...you did use those words.

 

[Headsnap]

Lady-fight! Get the mud out! Reeow!!! 😀

 

[Babbles]

No mud, thanks Headsnap. Though I know you have an abundance of rain over there....

Sorry it took so long to get back to you, Babbles. Hubby and I had a late night playing with a female friend.

Another pleasantry. The remainder of it takes up more than enough space where it is & is easy enough to find.

My point was that your snippy tone from the outset was unnecessary,
quoting a fragment of my reply to Sammi-chan, which was in a joking tone, -though it didn't appear to be in the context in which you arranged it -
and continuing from there. "Sorry," yours wasn't a constructive comment.

You are unforunately one of the few "residents" here who interject nastily a little too quickly,
a little too often.

So in that sense you do appear to "invent" or otherwise leap upon opportunities to post a cutting personal remark
where there was no need for further negativity, even if you perceived my comments as such.

So even if I did give too much information in a manner that was inadvertantly harsh,
there was no excuse for your jumping in with a snotty remark.

Sammi-chan commented with a half-joke, I answered him, he answered me, no bloodshed, it was "done."

And then there you were.

Instead of expanding upon the negative
you could have PMed or emailed me --- as I have others when I thought they've written something harsh, that might inadvertantly offend others----

or you could have at least posted a non-inflammatory comment that might've been constructive instead

and perhaps I might've considered editing my post.

Your typical slap-down reaction was much sadder than what might have been my unfortunate choice of words expressing my personal perspective in this instance.

 

[Babbles]

As you can see, I'm not cutting portions of your post out but highlighting the part of the whole post that got everyones attention. I'm not flaming you either, but these words are difficult at best to interpret as interjectory and not, at least somewhat, homophobic.

Every person who does not wish (even emphatically) to be touched *sexually by those of the same gender is not "homophobic."

I was replying in one limited context, and was inferred out of it.
Ironically I have or have had no problem with homosexuals, friends or not.
I'm not going to expand upon my political, social & religious view of homosexuals further save to say I'm considered radically liberal outside this forum.

In person I have *only had a far greater problem with aggressive men who can't take no for an answer.

The main problem is your use of the words hate and repulsive. This wasn't an invention by others trying to flame you...you did use those words.

The problem was the manner in which those honest, if perhaps ill-chosen, words were thrown back at me.
Kindly see (the preceding post). I've taken up enough space in this thread myself.

 

[Sammi-chan]

Sammi-chan commented with a half-joke, I answered him, he answered me, no bloodshed, it was "done."

... Dude! I'm a girl! 😛

 

[Babbles]

Oops.

... Dude! I'm a girl! 😛

Oh crap, I'm sorry!! 😱 Guess you're not a "Dude" either...
I'll remember it does help to check a profile before assuming....

 

[Sammi-chan]

Oh crap, I'm sorry!! 😱 Guess you're not a "Dude" either...
I'll remember it does help to check a profile before assuming....

Hehe. It's cool, kiddo. I've often thought the one extra bit of info TMF needs up in the corner there is gender.

 

[Lea28]

Generally...guys

But I am not immune to incredibly sexy, tickling female fingers... it just gets complicated if it becomes sexual / romantic.

Did I say that?

Lea

 

[aurora5150]

i've always been tickled by men. i'd love to be tickled by 2 people at once though. i've never been tickled by a woman so i can't say if i prefer that or not. but i'm always willing to try.

 

[steph]

No pref~if I dig ya, it's cool...
XOXO

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

I prefer to be tickled by men, not sure why. Maybe cause it's a playful, flirty-ish thing...and I don't typically flirt with women. That having been said, I haven't really BEEN tickled by a woman since i was just a wee little lass, probably 12 or 13..so I guess ya can't knock it til ya tried it.

As far as number of lers, I only had 2 lers once, and it was fun, but I can't say which I prefer...again..lack of experience.