Wow.... some people's comments go straight to the criticism haha hope you're not the sensitive type
Ever act like you are not into tickling, then try to strike up a discussion of sorts with someone who you're pretty sure isn't?
Does it take some stress off? Any successful stories?
To answer your question regarding if this strategy takes off the pressure:
Nothing really takes off the pressure. When you talk to someone, they are either going to be into it- or not. You will either want to confide in them or you wont. And there will always be pressure (if you feel shy or embarrased about it) until you discover how the other person feels.
Originally Posted by Wolf View Post
The lengths people will go to to try and get what they want, while trying to hide what they want.
Originally Posted by rhiannon View Post
Why would anybody do that? Sounds like a pretty awkward situation to me.
You're not really pretending to be 'vanilla' anyway. You would simply be omitting your true feelings until you feel safe to admit the truth about your desires. And a lot of people do that. I mean, some people admit to their fetish right off the bat- and others only share it with people they feel confident about.
Someone mentioned that you are who you are. You should focus on this too. If the fetish is soo important to you that you feel you want to tell someone eventually- then you should work on becoming comfortable and/or confident about it.
Also remember that there is no pressure to tell anyone you don't want to. It's possible you feel pressure because you want to share your fetish with someone (esp if you don't have anyone close who is into it)- hence why you would want to sus people out so quickly and privately. Because you may be wanting that tickling buddy now. But if this is the case then all i can say is this:
Don't
rush into telling people if you feel a 'pressure' about it. Only do what you feel comfortable with. Work on accepting your fetish as an open and confident part of your identity and then you will be able to find a tickling buddy quicker and without the pressure
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This is the key to taking off the pressure.
If you want to ommit you true feelings until you feel confident that someone will be accepting or 'into it' as well- then do this. It's fine
GOODLUCK.