Flatfoot
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This thought stemmed from an article I read at MSNBC.com on the Red Tape Chronicles, here.
This apparently seems to be a controversial subject among many couples, and I was wondering how you all felt. I'm of the mindset that I don't NEED to know every little detail about my wife's computer/phone activity. I don't have her computer passwords, I don't look at her phone to see what she's up to, etc. Some may feel that to be blind trust, and feel that being completely open with each other keeps both parties honest. I seem to see that mindset more among people who have been cheated on frequently in past relationships. My wife has my passwords (mostly for the sake of online bill pay, and whatnot.), but if she wanted to, she could see my Facebook, e-mail, text messages, etc., and I don't care. She's of the mindset that one shouldn't NEED privacy unless they have "something to hide". I can see the logic in both lines of reasoning, but I just don't feel that I NEED to know EVERY LITTLE THING my wife does with her phone or computer. To me, that displays insecurity. If I really had something to worry about, the signs would be there without the need to investigate. Basically, if something smells fishy, it usually is.
How do you all approach privacy in your relationships?
This apparently seems to be a controversial subject among many couples, and I was wondering how you all felt. I'm of the mindset that I don't NEED to know every little detail about my wife's computer/phone activity. I don't have her computer passwords, I don't look at her phone to see what she's up to, etc. Some may feel that to be blind trust, and feel that being completely open with each other keeps both parties honest. I seem to see that mindset more among people who have been cheated on frequently in past relationships. My wife has my passwords (mostly for the sake of online bill pay, and whatnot.), but if she wanted to, she could see my Facebook, e-mail, text messages, etc., and I don't care. She's of the mindset that one shouldn't NEED privacy unless they have "something to hide". I can see the logic in both lines of reasoning, but I just don't feel that I NEED to know EVERY LITTLE THING my wife does with her phone or computer. To me, that displays insecurity. If I really had something to worry about, the signs would be there without the need to investigate. Basically, if something smells fishy, it usually is.
How do you all approach privacy in your relationships?