Psychology Of Bondage Tickling

[reflexology414]

I could really use some in-depth viewpoints about the psychology of tickling and bondage. What are the psychological dynamics of being tickled in bondage? What does the lee experience in the course of a session? How about the ler? And what makes the process so appealing in the first place?

Any replies appreciated.

 

[rhiannon]

The trick is

a) being totally helpless, not being able to do anything, therefore having to deeply trust the ler

b) it makes sure you don't hurt the ler and can totally let yourself go

 

[TicklesFemales]

As a Ler I love having my female lee totally helpless and at my mercy, she can not get away from being tickled if in bondage and she can not hurt me by kicking me or hitting me or anything. Plus the biggest thing is you can tickle her as long as you want to even when she is begging for mercy. I love tickling and the more ticklish a lady is the more I want to tickle her and for long periods of time and for this bondage is necessary. If a lee is not that ticklish I lose interest in tickling her anyway so it makes no difference if she is in bondage or not.

TicklesFemales

 

[xSamanthax]

For me the bondage actually provides a sense of security. I don't like feeling helpless that much so I guess it is a bit of a paradox. What I hate more than feeling helpless though is being not in control of my body. So being tied up helps alleviate that.

 

[rhiannon]

As a Ler I love having my female lee totally helpless and at my mercy, she can not get away from being tickled if in bondage and she can not hurt me by kicking me or hitting me or anything. Plus the biggest thing is you can tickle her as long as you want to even when she is begging for mercy. I love tickling and the more ticklish a lady is the more I want to tickle her and for long periods of time and for this bondage is necessary. If a lee is not that ticklish I lose interest in tickling her anyway so it makes no difference if she is in bondage or not.

TicklesFemales

You do use safewords thought, right?

 

[deadlywiffeathr]

I currently take psych at uni. I'll let you know my thoughts when I've learnt more! 😀

 

[sasaxrah]

I currently take psych at uni. I'll let you know my thoughts when I've learnt more! 😀

They are teaching the psychology of bondage at college now? I missed out! 😉

 

[rafael]

I can tell you that for me the overwhelming feeling is trust. I'm putting myself in some one else's hands. After that there's excitement, for the tickling and depending on the relationship, sexual excitement.

 

[Deleted member 66627]

A lot of it is trust, another key element is the feeling of being able to "let go" safely, as well for many is the feeling of helplessness. Almost like an enjoyment of knowing they are being used for the 'ler's pleasure. They are putting their body in a position (literally) that will allow the 'ler to do as they please, whether the 'lee likes it or not (for the most part). That feeling seems to spawn a lot of desire from both parties.

I'm sure for the 'ler who really enjoys it, it's a sense of control over the 'lee as well as the situation. Almost as if it's a exchange of power for one common goal. Both parties are getting off on different elements of the interaction, but for the same reason.

 

[NG02]

A lot of it is trust, another key element is the feeling of being able to "let go" safely, as well for many is the feeling of helplessness. Almost like an enjoyment of knowing they are being used for the 'ler's pleasure. They are putting their body in a position (literally) that will allow the 'ler to do as they please, whether the 'lee likes it or not (for the most part). That feeling seems to spawn a lot of desire from both parties.

I'm sure for the 'ler who really enjoys it, it's a sense of control over the 'lee as well as the situation. Almost as if it's a exchange of power for one common goal. Both parties are getting off on different elements of the interaction, but for the same reason.

Ok im calling shinanigans on that one. What book did you plagerize that from? That discription was to well put. I totally agree.

 

[loveofmystery]

I'm with CrystalLight, that sounds like a great (and insightful) description of what goes on. Perhaps this was implied in what she said, but I also see it as a way for the 'Lee to "unwillingly" give up control on the surface, while deep down really enjoying that he or she is not responsible for what happens. I would put a lot of the executives/lawyers who are into bondage in this category. They have so much control and responsibility in their daily lives that it becomes a way of life for them, and the only way they feel comfortable giving it up is if they're "forced."

Does that make any sense?

Also, PLEASE note the quotation marks! I think that the safety and consensual attitude that CrystalLight mentioned are essential, it's the (acted) unwillingness/loss of control that comes from being in bondage which allows some people to really let go.

 

[ZenTickling]

I have a BA in Psychology, so I know quite a bit. Not about bondage and psychology, but I can speculate.

Personally, I think that having a lee tied up and helpless puts me in control. I believe that subconsciously I feel that I lack control in many aspects of my life, so I am attracted to having someone at my mercy. I also like making people happy, so forcing them to laugh is a logical step. Not sure about other people, but the whole session is not fun (and not a turn on) for me if the other person hates what is going on.

 

[skelyrata]

The real power

I always get the feeling that in reality the person having the must fun is the ticklee, because teh existance of a safeword that she can use at any point gives her the real power of the scene so whatever happens to her, it doesn't matter how much torture it is, she wants it to happen. Superficially you are looking at a ticklee in distress, sometimes going through the worst experience of her life, but inside she is having a rush that no drug can give her.

I know this because when I am on the ticklee side, thats the experience I am having inside. I recommend every tickler to be on the other side at least once. It will give you an entire new perspective of what is really going on inside the ticklee's mind and body.

From the ticklee point of view, it is an honor that a total stranger female trust me with her life and lets me tie her up helpless and by setting a safeword, she pretty much gives me a green light to do whatever I want with her and I know even on the outside she might be laughing, crying and screaming, on the inside she is enjoying everything as much as I am.

 

[rhiannon]

 

[waitin2btkled]

Having the ability to has someone tied up and tickle them is awesome. When you grab someone on their sides who are really ticklish naturally moves out of the or blocks you from doing it again.

When that same person is tied up, the first few responses for the lee when getting tickled is "OH SHIT, I CAN MOVE". Then taking control and tickling all their spots.

Bringing them to their limits (safe word of coarse).

For the ler, its awesome to have someone totally helpless.

 

[-Hari-]

Because I dont use safewords, I end up thriving on the fear of whats to come and for how long.

Not sure I can accuratly describe what that feels like tho... Theres trust but always a sense of worry that itl go too far and I like that feeling.