pushing limits ?????

[rhiannon]

Seriously, folks....nobody who is truly into SM will ever play without a safeword!

 

[ticklebunny 2]

This should really be interesting to see and hear about, good luck to you dimpletoes. I am not really sure that Kyle really is into BDSM lol well are you Kyle, really don't think you are. lol I am still more than a bit surprised to hear that BDSM along with tickling is a major kink and turn on for you Dimpletoes that is for sure. But to each their own-each person's kink makes the person unique and individuals. Good luck with this endeavor-hey if he likes it more power to you both-hope you and Kyle and all your BDSM friends have a great time tickling him and slowly "breaking" him in lol

Oh yeah Rhianon totally agree w what you are saying-most definitely a person who might be into BDSM or even if not yet into BDSM or just slightly curious about it-most definitely is not going to be playing without a safe word. That goes without saying it just makes sense. Every person has their own limits and personal boundaries. Have fun Kyle and hope you all have a good time, be safe.

 

[rhiannon]

Even hardcore masochists who say they have no boundaries quickly change their mind if someone enters holding a chainsaw...

 

[DimpleToes]

of course we play with safewords.. in any endeaver

 

[SicknTwisted]

this is all good advice...I can't say that I'm surprised b/c that would be lying. Looks like TMF have been here a while (look at the copywrite down on bottom of page) and all members since the opening of this forum know what they're talking about..they've had way more experience in these matters than the newbies...reguardless if the newbie has been torturing people since the 1st grade (like myself). You learn new things everyday

 

[-Hari-]

What if I can't breath, feel dizzy, am in pain, can't feel my limbs??

Like i say, a decent Ler will spot this, its not hard to tell when a person is in genuine distress.

If the ler is not very experienced or doesn't know me thoroughly (which he won't if he is not my long-time partner!), I can't count on correct judgement on his part!

I dont know about you, but I wouldnt have a session with means to test my limits with a person that I didnt feel could accurately judge my reactions.

Sessions like that really require the upmost of trust and therfore warrent the right Ler, one tht you feel comfortable with,

Anyway, its a good idea!! 😛

 

[rhiannon]

I dont know about you, but I wouldnt have a session with means to test my limits with a person that I didnt feel could accurately judge my reactions

The person I would want to have a session like this I met twice. I trust him totally, but I am not sure if he can adequately sense every little problem I have, and he is not sure either! Without a safeword, I think he would be too gentle with me. He sometimes even is WITH a safeword!

 

[TickledToDeath]

The person I would want to have a session like this I met twice. I trust him totally, but I am not sure if he can adequately sense every little problem I have, and he is not sure either! Without a safeword, I think he would be too gentle with me. He sometimes even is WITH a safeword!

High time you perhaps meet with another who can be trusted and can take you to the level you so desire and beyond...safely....

 

[rhiannon]

I DO trust him 100%! But still he doesn't know me well enough to see every little sign of distress without a safeword. If there was no safeword, we both wouldn't be able to enjoy the experience as much because we couldn't let go completely.

 

[TickledToDeath]

I DO trust him 100%! But still he doesn't know me well enough to see every little sign of distress without a safeword. If there was no safeword, we both wouldn't be able to enjoy the experience as much because we couldn't let go completely.

Cool.
Both parties involved must be comfy or indeed it takes away from the experience.
Perhaps that "ladder" system would help. Increase the time tickled by thirty seconds each time...tickle for 30 non stop then break then tickle for 60 non stop then break....then 90 seconds non stop etc etc until you have reached your ....goal...

 

[rhiannon]

I think I'll stick with my bet....last time I made 30 minutes without using the safeword, next time I'll make it an hour. 🙂

 

[TickledToDeath]

I think I'll stick with my bet....last time I made 30 minutes without using the safeword, next time I'll make it an hour. 🙂

Sounds like a decent plan to me! Good luck and hope you make it and take it!

TTD

 

[Redmage]

Seriously, folks....nobody who is truly into SM will ever play without a safeword!

Oh, that's not true. I often do. Just not with someone I don't know well.

 

[-Hari-]

The person I would want to have a session like this I met twice. I trust him totally, but I am not sure if he can adequately sense every little problem I have, and he is not sure either! Without a safeword, I think he would be too gentle with me. He sometimes even is WITH a safeword!

This isnt a problem, you just need more experience with eachother and then hel be able to read you better. 😛