question..

[cue]

I don't know if I'm getting the right vibe or not, but it seems like there's a lot of us here who haven't told their current mates that they're into tickling. My question is, isn't that a part of a relationship? Sitting around cuddling on the couch and playfully tickling the person during those moments of playfullness?

Before Scott and I even became a couple, he knew that I was ticklish because he once poked my side and I squealed. He laughed and said, "Uh-oh, someone's ticklish." or something to that extent.

 

[thetmfobserver]

I think trusting someone enough to tell them about your fetish is something that takes a great deal of time, and is not usually done idly. It took a long time for me to tell my lady, and I've known her for years.

 

[sparkybdj]

It took me a while to really be comfortable myself with my likes...but now...Im ok with everything. I told Cyn the 2nd time we met that I was into this(and a few other things!!!) LOL.

 

[AmericaRocks]

Well, there's a difference between just playfully tickling someone/being ticklish and actually being into tickling.

Most people who know me know that I'm ticklish, but I haven't told anyone that I'm turned on by it. It's a personal thing; you have to really be able to trust someone you tell.

 

[kishlok]

With my last girlfriend I didn't tell her I'm into tickling, I was sure she wouldn't understand: once I told her about my foot fetish, and she didn't care too much.........sometimes we tickled eachother, but it was nothing special....I think I could have done more, but I wasn't comfortable with telling her my secrets. The strange thing is that I have been with her for three years; with previous girls, I always told them and we enjoyed a lot this side of my sexuality, but those stories lasted for only few months......strange, isn't it?

 

[TKL_Rebel]

if a girl doesn't accept your liking for tickling, then she is obviously not the right girl for you...

what have you got to lose by telling them? I'll tell you what you can lose, a relationship with the wrong person...

so in all honesty, its a win win situation!

 

[porcelaindoll2]

I just can't see myself with a vanilla girl or guy. My life would be miserable if my mate wasn't kinky. My dream is to meet a potential partner off of TMF or FetLife. That way there will be no OMG I have to tell them moments!

 

[Babbles]

Easy & full communication

Guys usually handle fetishes differently from girls. The worst case with most girls is they'll get weirded-out and think you're a creep. Worst case with most guys is they'll ignore your fetishes/preferences in favor of theirs.

Basically, you don't have to worry about scaring him away with this, but it'll probably take some time before he starts taking tickling seriously. Guys, on the other hand, could permenantly cripple their relationship if they get stuck with a close-minded girl (though TKL_Rebel is right to say they wouldn't be worth it anyway).

Agree with all that -- You obviously have to be comfortable enough to communicate easily & fully with the person. It should be easy & natural.

It is easier for women I'm sure, but either way your partner shouldn't ignore your interests, much less belittle you for them as I've read elsewhere ---
If people care about each other they want to learn everything about the other person & and make each other happy. Yes I'm a simpleton.
But if someone doesn't like me for who I am (and I'm not nearly this rude off camera 😀 ) he can go scratch.

 

[TickleToy4You]

Some people feel that telling their partner about their tickling fetish will hurt the relationship. People do find tickling fetishes and bondage very creepy so it won't suit for everyone. Also, a lot of people are embarrassed over it like they will get disowned for it if they tell people. Just gotta find a way to tell them without making the person feel too weird.

 

[kishlok]

if a girl doesn't accept your liking for tickling, then she is obviously not the right girl for you...

what have you got to lose by telling them? I'll tell you what you can lose, a relationship with the wrong person...

so in all honesty, its a win win situation!

After three hellish years, how I cannot agree with you?

 

[kishlok]

Some people feel that telling their partner about their tickling fetish will hurt the relationship. People do find tickling fetishes and bondage very creepy so it won't suit for everyone. Also, a lot of people are embarrassed over it like they will get disowned for it if they tell people. Just gotta find a way to tell them without making the person feel too weird.

And yes, it was impossible to tell her about my thing about tickling, as I was afraid to lose her faith on me. For sure I don't want to find myself in the same situation again.

 

[TickVix]

I wold think so, but sometimes its not easy to disclose certain things to those you're involved with. I should know. None of the men I was involved with knew what I was into alongside tickling, and it wasn't that I didn't want to include them, in fact I'd hint things to them pertaining to my "interests" and based on their responses I left it alone. All I know is that I am much happier being single vs involved since it takes that stress off of me now. The next man I get serious with to that degree, HAS to accept the things that I'm into, since I'm pretty open minded I'd expect my significant other to be the same way.

 

[cue]

Well, there's a difference between just playfully tickling someone/being ticklish and actually being into tickling.

I guess I'm not understanding the difference then. Maybe that's why I don't see why you shouldn't be able to understand why hide the fact.

Even when Scott and I were just friends (I was with someone else for three years before we got together), if we would jokingly tease each other, he would start poking my sides in retailiation.

I guess some are more shyer than others. I do know that I would squeal, giggle and tell him, "That tickles."

 

[SoleSearcher]

I wold think so, but sometimes its not easy to disclose certain things to those you're involved with. I should know. None of the men I was involved with knew what I was into alongside tickling, and it wasn't that I didn't want to include them, in fact I'd hint things to them pertaining to my "interests" and based on their responses I left it alone. All I know is that I am much happier being single vs involved since it takes that stress off of me now. The next man I get serious with to that degree, HAS to accept the things that I'm into, since I'm pretty open minded I'd expect my significant other to be the same way.

You're absolutely right. Life is too short to "settle." Plus, just like it's been said time and time again; if they can't accept you for who you are they definitely aren't the right person for you. 😉

 

[Naughty Summer]

My hubby and I talk about everything. We don't have any secretes and do just about everything together. I think that helps the bond we have, not to mention it's so much more fun having a partner to do things with. It's way to hard to keep secrets anyway. I feel it's better to be honest in a relationship and talk about things even if your partner thinks you might be crazy on your fetish. But I think in the long run if you really love each other and are meant to be together things always have a way of working out. They may not always agree with you but there most often is a compromising way to do things.

 

[love03]

It took me about a year of dating to tell my most recent boyfriend I was into tickling. He said it was cute! lol. No problem there.

 

[love feet]

I just can't see myself with a vanilla girl or guy. My life would be miserable if my mate wasn't kinky. My dream is to meet a potential partner off of TMF or FetLife. That way there will be no OMG I have to tell them moments!

Me to.