Ah, yes... The humiliation talk! I'm an evil, sadistic Domina so that is right in line when I session with a sub. I make sure before I agree to session with them that they understand there will be verbal humiliation. This is something we are also working on when I bottom to my Love. Humiliation is a hard thing to do or hear for some people.
For me, I like to hear it when I am tickled too. I like my Love to tell me I am his little tickle ***** and then some. The dirtier the better.
It comes down to the humiliation and the power exchange. Some of us who submit/bottom/lee like to be made to feel like a possession, an object or the like. When we give our control over to another, we crave for them to use us however they wish. So to be humiliated with such words that can be deemed offensive to others and in many other situations, only further breaks us down to the base core of feeling like we are nothing more than their instruments of pleasure.
When I tickle torture someone, it is not a cutesy moment. It is torture. The tickling is intense. They are my "victim" and they are treated such. I call them what ever dirty, degraded thing is on my mind. Well, almost anything. I won't engage in such activity with someone I don't know anything about. If it is going to be intense like that, I want to make sure that I don't hit an emotional button and they break too fast. I take the time to go over any insecurities or verbal limits they may have, and then I may push cautiously in those directions to gauge the waters.
Humiliation is a fine line for many. It is a hard line for some. I have found that many sensualists have a difficult time engaging in hard humiliation such as the more harsh name calling. Getting my Love to call me his dirty tickle ***** is hard. I usually have to coach him in the moment by telling him that is what I am and then he may call me it a time or two. His mind set, like many others, is not used to such name calling being okay in even that context.
Anywho... enough ramble... just my views... 😀
