Relationships with rejected tickling...

[TickledToDeath]

How many folks in here are in relationships where you are not tickled by your significant other or not allowed TO tickle your significant other?

How do you handle this? What have you done to rememdy the situation?
Do you seek tickling elsewhere outside the relationship? Is this allowed by your partner or do you do it on the sly?

This is NOT an ethics thread and or whether or not seeking tickling outside the relationship is considered cheating. That has been done before. This is a thread to find out how many and who are in such a restricted or deprived relationship and what is being done about it if anything at all.

Tickling is not everything in relationshipps but it is something and is part of who people are and what they love and should be considered an important part OF them and should not be ignored.

Thankfully I am in a great relationship where there is tickling on both sides of the spectrum, giving and receiving and cannot/did not see myself IN a relationship that did not have tickling part of it.
I want to see everyone happy. It is deserved.

TTD

 

[steph]

S'a good qu. TTD~you and Patti are lucky to have each other. I know a lot of people find my situation bizarre because I'm basically a sweetheart who wouldn't hurt anyone for the world, unless they hurt me or someone I care about. After that, all bets are off, I'll literally kill for anyone I love and will gladly turn myself into the police afterwards.

Now a little personal info about him. Warning~this is sensitive, so if you're easily disturbed...

His biological father molested him and his 2 brothers as kids. I believe for that reason, he doesn't get the tying up thing~too much like rape I guess. I tried with him once 13 years ago with him as the sub and he freaked out and BIT me~he literally couldn't handle it. He's never offered to tie me up but he knows I love it and there's a set of hospital restraints that sits out in the open on my pool table for months now. (If he's not using them on me, who does he think is?)

I figure he doesn't want to know. he's ticklish but HATES it, knows I love being on the receiving end but will indulge me for about a minute and a half on rare occasion (My sessions last for hours, I think 8 is the longest so far)

He accepts that I was outed as being "untameable" when we met by some dumbass friend of his I'd gone out with previously with a big mouth who told him I had a sex swing. True story. He never was under the impression he'd fallen for some kind of saint.

Do I think there's a price to pay for all this? Of course. Am I willing to pay the price? Absolutely. I'm having the time of my life...


XOXO

 

[Ayla ny]

Ed, you knew me back when I was married to someone who didn’t get it. it wasn’t the only problem… but it certainly WAS a problem. I’m finding myself very grateful that there were other problems too. so that I didn’t have to end the marriage just because of this… but I do have to wonder if I would have, eventually. it’s a big part of what makes “it” work for me.

I waited a whole two weeks after he officially moved out, to do anything about it…but it was a point of contention for years beforehand… and I don’t know how much longer I would have lasted, if we hadn’t decided that this thing was just one of the many reasons we weren’t going to work. if everything else, besides this little thing of mine (which is SO much a part of me and fulfills me in ways that I can’t even put into words) had been the only thing that didn’t work… I don’t know where I would be today.

but oh my God do I love where I am today!!!

 

[b0xr]

I have never had a tickling relationship that actually "worked". I have been lucky to be married to an understanding woman in the sense that she puts up with my tickling fetish and sometimes she will even indulge me. She isn't a true ticklee so the experience isn't exactly as fun as it could be with someone that actually loves being tickled but that is just how she feels about it and I respect that...I am not a 'lee either so I totally understand her feelings about it. I have to give her alot of credit for allowing it...sometimes she seems to enjoy it so who knows....someday I would sure like to try an intense session...maybe she'll allow it.......someday?

 

[BoyInTheCorner]

All the relationships I've had, I've had to sneak in tickling, like flirting or foreplay. There have been times where my friends have gang tickled me, but it never lasted long enough for me. I dunno, I've never had the experience of being tied and tickled out of my mind, even though I do dream about it constantly (-: But I can fully understand what everyone is talking about. Maybe not to the same degree as you, but I know what's it like to have that itch you just can't scratch and the aggrevation of having someone who can, but won't.

 

[shygirl]

Most of the guys I dated either weren't ticklish or they were, but hated it and they would get really pissed off at me for "being so annoying". So all those years of frustration really built inside of me and now I am so happy to have you(TTD)(dearest Ed) in my life so I can torture and abuse and make scream and hollar for mercy and cry from the tickling agony that I put you through on a daily bases! LUCKY ME, Poor YOU! love Patti

 

[OscarTheMonkey]

WELL- My wife loves to tease me with her feet and loves things related to that. She has mixed emotions about tickling- especially because she is SO extremely ticklish. She tells me when she is up for it- and I wait until then. I have no problems waiting- as when she is in the mood she will allow me to be as merciless and evil on her as I like to be. One thing that definately limits us -rather than a willing partner-( and that I never hear discussed in this forum) is that it's really not plausible (except for maybe a little foot tickling during lovemaking) to have an intense tickling session with the kids at home. We have to manage to get both of them out of the house ( much easier with the teenager) as we don't want to have them home listening to my wife screaming, laughing and begging.

 

[tickleshotel]

Well First of all, I struggle with having a Tickling Passion being married for 6 years now to a man who tickles me for about a min,then stops that leaves me frustrated and leaves me wondering to myself how can he *not* get enjoyment out of seeing me squirm,laugh hysterically.He does know about my love for tickling,being tickled,supports me chatting and only recently supports real life meetings with others that share my love for tickling .I don;t believe he really understands my love for it,though he knows how big a part of it is me..Just a few days ago,while discussing my upcoming 3 day getaway to meet giggles32,gigglegal76,mgctouch in November for tickling fun that my husband makes comments offhandedly like " anything can happen,all I ask is let me know what happens ,even if telling me may hurt me ..tell me because it might hurt but I will get over it". I don;t know about how everyone else felt reading that last part but I felt that he was telling me that he has decided in his own mind that when I return home from having a wonderful time in November that he expects I will be telling him bad news..Why I ask any of you to answer, why is he thinking it;s going to be bad news?.I know I am going to have a wonderful time in November meeting giggles32,gigglegal76,and mgctouch and in my mind I know I will be making good friendships in November and I am trying to understand why my husband feels threatened?? that anything else beyond friendship is going through his mind.

 

[kis123]

Hey TH;

I may be able to provide some insight into your issues. Your husband has some serious feelings about your passion for tickling and his inability to satisfy you. He may be thinking that you're going to find that satisfaction somewhere else--and it may go further than you planned it to go. He's afraid that he's going to lose you. At least this is what I'm suspecting. I could be wrong, but I really don't think so.

I hope you have fun at your gathering and I know things won't go too far, but your husband may not be so sure because he doesn't understand us. Yes, tickling can be and is very sexual, but I believe that you can turn the sex thing on and off and can have just a good ol' fun tickling time!😀

Try to reassure him what you already know-that you love him and you'd NEVER do anything that would bring him hurt and pain. I know this thread is not about ethics and everyone knows how I feel about this issue. But I also know that opposites tend to attract and we run into relationships where our partners don't share our fetish. It's not necessarily time for divorce court, but it's going to take a lot of work to make your relationship work.

I wish you the very best. And squeeze in a few tickles on my behalf.😉 😛

 

[maniactickler]

Simple solution. dont get involved with anyone thats not into your fetish. or you just may regret it in the long run! under no circumstances would i get serious with anyone not into tickling. :O

 

[natural tickler]

Well, as for myself, my wife and I have known each other since we were babies. My mother and her mother were best of friends, so we were always doing things to each other. I tickled her all the time growing up. Well, when we got to high school, around sophomore year, I looked at her different than I did when we were younger. Tickling was always part of the program, so she just got used to it, and didn't fight. She doesn't have the passion like you and me, but she knows at any time she'll get tickled, and deals with it. She gets revenge on me like nobody's business, but not with the passion that you and I share. (God only knows what would happen if she did)😀

Now, she has visited this forum, and thinks we are a bunch of wackos(in a good way, of course), but this in no way hurts our relationship, because we both made strides to make sure our pleasures are satisified😛

 

[tickleshotel]

As for the bad news he thinks he will recieve

I think your husband might feel like you will be cheating on him because you enjoy tickling and thats what your going away in relation to, maybe he also is thinking you might want to take a permanent vacation from him because you will experience tickle happiness on your trip and he knows that he hasnt been satisfying you?. Are you going to be tickled in your gettaway? I know I would be deeply hurt if my girlfriend said she is going away for a few days without me to do something with others that relates to her turn ons, but I couldnt blame her for going if I wouldnt indulge her passions, especially if I knew what it was she was craving.

Hope this gives you an idea of what he might be thinking.

Thanks for responding and to answer your question,Yes I am going away for 3 days to meet with some friends here from the forum..2 lady friends and a guy friend and Yes I will be tickling my lady friends as well as my guy friend and being tickled by them too...

 

[tickleshotel]

Hey TH;

I may be able to provide some insight into your issues. Your husband has some serious feelings about your passion for tickling and his inability to satisfy you. He may be thinking that you're going to find that satisfaction somewhere else--and it may go further than you planned it to go. He's afraid that he's going to lose you. At least this is what I'm suspecting. I could be wrong, but I really don't think so.

I hope you have fun at your gathering and I know things won't go too far, but your husband may not be so sure because he doesn't understand us. Yes, tickling can be and is very sexual, but I believe that you can turn the sex thing on and off and can have just a good ol' fun tickling time!😀

Try to reassure him what you already know-that you love him and you'd NEVER do anything that would bring him hurt and pain. I know this thread is not about ethics and everyone knows how I feel about this issue. But I also know that opposites tend to attract and we run into relationships where our partners don't share our fetish. It's not necessarily time for divorce court, but it's going to take a lot of work to make your relationship work.

I wish you the very best. And squeeze in a few tickles on my behalf.😉 😛

Thanks kis! Your insight seems to be exactly what he is feeling. I tell him daily just how much I love him,but in all honesty a few times he has asked me if I love him as much as I love my tickling passion which suprised me because I would never think that he would ask me or give me a ultimatim having to choose between the two..I don;t see why if he has such strong feelings why he won;t tickle me more but like I said he is supportive of me finding tickling outside the relationship so I think if he thought by me doing that was me cheating on him,then why he is so supportive? and when I asked him if I could go on this 3 day getaway I would have been hurt but would have respected his wishes if he had told me Not to go..
Your right kis,tickling is sexual and arousing but I can just thoroughly enjoy the tickling ,playfulness,laughter,having a blast..🙂.
Sorry for the hijack people,didn;t mean to turn this thread into " help tickleshotel with her relationship"..But any advice,support will make it easier.