ElFewja
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I wrote a few paragraphs last night then threw it out. Saw the title of the thread again and decided I should at least put the first part up.
I don't know how she either figured out or guessed why you have a foot fetish because this small story probably doesn't contain the answer. Maybe she saw you doing something odd, looking at the ground all the time, saw your history or someone else suspected it? There's not enough information about you here to figure it out.
What I do know is that you almost definitely tipped her off by avoiding the question so hard, initially. Even a "its none of your business what I'm into," would have provided less evidence. So she either knows or strongly suspects it.
I personally think she's not 100% sure and is fishing for an answer, probably just screwing with you in the meantime. As to how to handle it.. I don't have any suggestions. I think anything I suggest to put an end to it, and those things surely would, would create a situation that you don't want. The best I had was giving a super sarcastic yes, that's your thing and you're so into her, and then calling her a moron. Confronting her in some way would almost definitely end it, like if you asked her to quit whatever she's doing because it's gross (the next time she did it). But since you don't want to be outed at all I wouldn't do either because, even if she thinks she's wrong after those events she might still go around talking about it and that's not what you want.
However, ignoring her is probably just feeding the situation because if she's doing something that is fairly obvious, then it's also fairly obvious you're just ignoring her rather than confronting her. If I saw something like that I would also think it was pretty damning evidence as to what you were thinking. Of course, that's just me and I'm not convinced this person is as capable of reading people.
Best thing you can do is just not worry about it and don't let it get to you if you can help it. Practice meditation to make that easier, I guess.
I don't know how she either figured out or guessed why you have a foot fetish because this small story probably doesn't contain the answer. Maybe she saw you doing something odd, looking at the ground all the time, saw your history or someone else suspected it? There's not enough information about you here to figure it out.
What I do know is that you almost definitely tipped her off by avoiding the question so hard, initially. Even a "its none of your business what I'm into," would have provided less evidence. So she either knows or strongly suspects it.
I personally think she's not 100% sure and is fishing for an answer, probably just screwing with you in the meantime. As to how to handle it.. I don't have any suggestions. I think anything I suggest to put an end to it, and those things surely would, would create a situation that you don't want. The best I had was giving a super sarcastic yes, that's your thing and you're so into her, and then calling her a moron. Confronting her in some way would almost definitely end it, like if you asked her to quit whatever she's doing because it's gross (the next time she did it). But since you don't want to be outed at all I wouldn't do either because, even if she thinks she's wrong after those events she might still go around talking about it and that's not what you want.
However, ignoring her is probably just feeding the situation because if she's doing something that is fairly obvious, then it's also fairly obvious you're just ignoring her rather than confronting her. If I saw something like that I would also think it was pretty damning evidence as to what you were thinking. Of course, that's just me and I'm not convinced this person is as capable of reading people.
Best thing you can do is just not worry about it and don't let it get to you if you can help it. Practice meditation to make that easier, I guess.