Ruined relationship(s) because of tickle fetish?

[southernwellnes]

I know this is off topic but how do i place my photo under my replies?

 

[TJDoom]

I'm coming out of lurkdom to say that I like what I've seen from you. That includes posts, stories, your kinks and how you clearly enjoy it all. You're all-around damn cute and it seems a shame that any guy would bail because tickling was scary. Especially considering it doesn't really take a fetishist to indulge in that now and again and is intimate and fun. Maybe interests weren't 110% compatible, but maybe it's beneficial to you in that if he's scared away that easily, maybe the compatibility issue went a little deeper than fetishes? All I know is you seem like a cool person with great charm and deserve someone who is into you enough to indulge regardless of fetish. I also live in Cali. Yeah! Just thought I would say that, you know, of nothing.

 

[love feet]

Hi all,

My (ex)boyfriend broke up with me yesterday🙁

He sat me down when I got home from work and told me that he had found my dailymotion account (where I have like 3 tickling videos saved) and he feels uncomfortable with the "intensity" of my tickling fetish and he "doesn't feel like he can satisfy me", even though I tried to explain up and down he's what I want and who I want.

He basically decided that my fetish made me a freak 🙁

Has anyone else gone through something similar? This entire situation sucks, and makes me really hateful towards my fetish. 🙁

I have had this happin not with this fetish but because i'm a geek which just like we all have fetishes i can not help being a geek with a fetish
yes this is not the same thing as you but it shows how people & society can still be so judgemental even with something as mainstream as being geek or / a nerd like me .... but you can find some very open minded people too!!

 

[iatk]

Hey,
I can relate as I have also lost a relationship due to our "weird" fetish....all I can say is that life is too short to make belive you're something you're not. If you like tickling, or feet, or whatever, you should be with someone who gets that. Otherwise, you're not truly living the life you are supposed to be living. Hope it helps...feel free to message if you want to talk.

 

[luvgirlsfeet]

i have had a handful of relationships fall apart because of my fetish but the way I see it if they cant accept my tickle fetish then i am far better off without them in my life in other words good for me

 

[guitarman]

Really sorry to hear about that. But I reckon its definitely a blessing in disguise.

I bet at some point in the future when your ex is in a relationship with some other vanilla girl, and things are getting a bit boring in the bedroom, he might think twice about letting you go 😉

You will have no trouble what so ever finding a new lee trust me.

 

[Ishaanshah]

all the best, hope you get some one who can satisfy you

 

[trace1984]

i think he is scared of u lol naa i agree pansy wanted out ,,u need to find someone who can hang with u,,,

He sounds like he was looking for an out anyway and just used tickling as an excuse. Like a pansy.

To answer the thread though, I do the exact opposite of what most people here will tell you and am fairly upfront of about it. Anyone I date knows the deal, so if it's gonna cause them to bail, they're gonna bail early.

 

[Smashley]

I can't add anything that hasn't been already said, but glad you had a lot of support here 🙂

 

[chevyhs]

Tickling is a beautiful thing, whether a tickler or a ticklee. It is meant to be something fun and sexy and lovely. It is the only truly natural reaction we as human have and laughter is the most beautiful sound in the world. You are truly a beautiful person for loving tickling and we all here at the forum love and support you (also because we probably want to tickle you too) 🙂

 

[justatickler]

Yeah, pretty much what everybody else said. He probably was looking for an excuse because he couldn't just sack up and call it off before, but I think everyone will agree that you're far better off. Plenty of time to find the right person who will accept you...and it's really not that big of a deal anyway. There are plennnty of weird things out there that turn people on. This one really isn't all that strange by comparison. It's actually pretty light.

Anyway, don't worry. You won't have any trouble. 😉

 

[Dakine]

He basically decided that my fetish made me a freak 🙁

Its probably safe to say that your ex didn't like the song... Lets see, how does it go... "Don'tcha wish your girlfriend is a freak like meee! Don'tcha!"

 

[Ishaanshah]

So sad...!!

 

[LindyHopper]

I'm sorry things didn't work out! But as so many others have already said, clearly he wasn't the right guy for you.

It took my husband a long time to really understand how much I enjoyed being tickled. It was such a foreign concept that he just couldn't wrap his mind around it! It wasn't until I took him to a gathering that he could really see how some people (like me) relate to this thing. And at that point, he started doing his best to accommodate me.

So my point is: lots of people, most of them, won't get it right away. But the ones who really care about you will come around. The ones who run... well, on to the next one! 🙂

 

[sushi854]

I don't post here very often, and this is going to seem highly ironic seeing as I enjoy nothing more than tickling the crap out of people, but I do want to chime in just as a general defense against accusations of closed-mindedness among those significant others who cannot fully embrace their partner's fetish. It is important to remember that some people just hate tickling. This is especially relevant for us 'lers (as I am deducing that the OP is primarily a 'ler), as the sensation of being tickled is simply unpleasant to many. As an example, if I happened to get into a relationship with a woman with an insatiable fetish for punching dudes in the balls, I would probably not be able or willing to fully satisfy that woman sexually, and may be labeled as "close-minded" or "looking for an excuse to get out" on a ball-punching forum discussion board. I realize this comparison may seem extreme, but some people just HATE being tickled. I also realize that I am generalizing, because I don't know the full details of the OP's situation and subsequent breakup. There is also of course a distinction between simply not being into a fetish and labeling your partner a "freak" (unless they deserve the label for other reasons..🙄), which is just disrespectful and not really what I'm referring to here.

In regard to the actual question of whether the tickle fetish has ruined relationships, I can honestly say it's been a factor in making the relationship less satisfying for me, but I'm not sure it's actually ruined any. This is partly because I usually suppress it when I feel that I have an otherwise good thing going. My current girlfriend is off the charts ticklish, and as luck would have it completely hates it, but tolerates is as long as I keep it in moderation (we're talking VERY moderate here..), which is fine with me because I'm otherwise happy with how things are going. I should note that I see it an improvement over the last woman I dated who loved to engage in tickle fights but was in most cases about as ticklish as a slab of concrete.

That said, to the OP, I do sympathize with your situation and hope that the kinky man of your dreams is out there and waiting for you. 🙂