choice is good
There is no "evil" in not using a safeword, if that's what you negotiated. Adults can, and should, negotiate as they see fit.
For instance, Kujman has always had his stance on this, for as long as I can remember seein' him online, and likely longer. He STATES such, though. There's no pretence or duplicity. His is an honest approach.
That, I can respect.
If you're not going to use a safeword, being honest about not using such is the only dignity left.
So long as you're honest with your partner, it's perspective, as to whether you're "doing the right thing". Keep in mind that we are often using bondage, which many find abhorant. Those of us that volunteer to use such are adults, and can, and will. Tricking someone into bondage or ignoring their safeword is entirely different.
So long as I don't find yet another woman in our scene that's been traumatized 'cause some guy wanted to act out a fantasy and didn't clue the play partner, or actively lied ("Honest, baby, I'll look out for you."). I've met too many people joining gatherings for the first time, that relate such experiences, and have met more outside gatherings that experienced the same.
Consider, though, that Kuj has been playin' for a LONG time, and does read people in scene reasonably well.
Also consider that you don't find many people that will admit to anxiety attacks in their family, but pushin' those folks in a bondage scene can literally scare 'em to death. You don't know if they have hostility problems, and will literally knife you for scaring them TOO MUCH. It's a tricky deal. Most of us never meet the mentally unstable, but we all should be clued to being HONEST about such. If your top doesn't know something, your top can't prevent such, can they? What you say, to clue your top, is for YOUR good as well as theirs. That doesn't include those that have afflictions that will kill them. If they fail to tell you, and you off them 'cause you didn't listen when they screamed, well, you'll serve a shorter sentence, but you'll still be in prison.
If they cross that line, and you live, which most do, you can prosecute, and likely sue 'em while they're serving. Mean, but true.
It's easier to negotiate, even if the negotiation was to agree to no safewords. Kuj was honest about such, and has always been thus concerning safewords, so anyone entering a scene with him couldn't do such, as he SAID that he'd not allow anyone an out save for what he perceived as a problem. That's fair, legally. At that point, IMHO, if you enter that, you've no right to complain. Just be clear about such when you enter a scene. IF you agree to no safeword, AND you don't clue your top to ALL your limitations of health, you're relying on that top to read you accurately. That's a dangerous game. Some can do that. If they can't, well, I hear from their former play partners over and over and over...
Well, that was more than $0.02 worth. Needed stating. Either side's reasonable, so long as you and they CHOOSE to do so and the bottom defines their safety limits.
ever explicative,
dvnc