Serious Question: Do 'Lees' Ever feel Harrassed On This Forum?

[Vae]

I'm not saying that at all. 😀 I know some male lees have had their share of crap in the chatroom and PMs. But as it's been said, women get harassed more than men on this forum. Or am I right to make that assumption?

 

[TMF Jeff]

I have to say I'm surprised and pleased that there isn't more of a feeling of being harassed here. I assume, maybe for no reason, that this being the internet there are girls being stalked and bothered everywhere that I'm not actively watching.

If there are people who are feeling harassed but aren't saying so, I hope they'll step forward, either in this thread or in private message to me.

 

[Illtcklu]

I'm not saying that at all. 😀 I know some male lees have had their share of crap in the chatroom and PMs. But as it's been said, women get harassed more than men on this forum. Or am I right to make that assumption?

I posted asking if 'lees' feel harassed I did not specify gender, because I TRULY believe that harassment comes from both ends, though mostly we hear about women being harassed (sexualy or other wise), men just don't bring it up, not very macho.

 

[Illtcklu]

I have to say I'm surprised and pleased that there isn't more of a feeling of being harassed here. I assume, maybe for no reason, that this being the internet there are girls being stalked and bothered everywhere that I'm not actively watching.

If there are people who are feeling harassed but aren't saying so, I hope they'll step forward, either in this thread or in private message to me.

Mtp Jeff sorry I did not mean to alarm you! I just happened to see a mention once about this in another thread entirely, it just made me wonder. No! No one has said to me to stop harassing them, and I have asked if I am before. I do hope no one is. From most of the responses it seems they are NOT!!!! Yes if anyone is doing anything inappropiate they should tell a MOD. immediately!

 

[Redmage]

I posted asking if 'lees' feel harassed I did not specify gender, because I TRULY believe that harassment comes from both ends, though mostly we hear about women being harassed (sexualy or other wise), men just don't bring it up, not very macho.

I have a feeling that when a male 'lee is hassled it takes a different form: less sexual stalking and innuendo, and more of the sort of disrespect that male bottoms in general have to put up with.

Male 'lers probably have the least trouble - I've never been bothered at all. I suspect that female 'lers and 'lees both get the bulk of the harassment, though I couldn't say offhand which is likely to get more.

 

[Sunjob]

Well I've never been harassed due to being a 'lee but one of the things I find even greater about the forum is that I've never been harrassed about my sexuality. That's something rather rare on the internet and really great to see.

I think generally everybody that posts is really open and fun but know the general limit and are polite enough to not push boundries.

 

[darkscar]

Yeah i Introduced myself when i joined hehe i was just commenting on how of feel sometimes.

 

[Butterfly wings]

Harrassment is never cool or right and should never be accepted. Weather it be online (through this tickling website or other fetish websites) or in real life. It should NOT be tolerated at all.

 

[TicklishLurker]

Be honest 'Lees' do you ever feel we 'Lers' are harassing you? I saw a post a few weeks ago that mildly suggested this, and it's made me wonder? 😕

I haven't been on the forum long enough to get that far - but I have been harassed on other forums in the past. It's part of the reason I didn't want to reveal who I am until now. I've gotten e-mails from guys from various tickling forums saying that they didn't just want to tickle me, they wanted to "rape my ass." (Especially when I made it clear I'm not into anything anal.) I've had guys who can't understand why I don't like to tickle men belittle me, others who were younger then me and couldn't understand I'm not attracted to them (sorry, sounds shallow but I prefer older men) who'd e-mail or IM me all the time. And I've had people from various tickling forums who send me messages telling me that because I'm fat I should kill myself. But mostly it was creepy messages about the first thing I mentioned. Revealing in the past that I'm a woman who likes to be tied up & tickled silly has drawn out some of the sickest minds like a moth to the flame. Most were people who lurked, not posted. It really scared me at times.

Sometimes though they were well meaning, but over-enthusiastic. Came on WAY too strong and just ended up annoying the crap out of me.

 

[ticklemad]

I wouldn't say I've been harrassed as such as I simply ignore and delete multiple PM's from the same person, but there have been times when the conversation has I feel been inappropriate e.g one I received was "Would you laugh if I rubbed my knob up your soles and came over them?" now for a first contact that is neither going to get me interested or make we want to correspond witha guy.

Sadly in real life I was harrassed by a guy from here to the point of assault - but that has been dealt with off the forum and he is out of my life.

 

[Illtcklu]

.Sadly in real life I was harrassed by a guy from here to the point of assault - but that has been dealt with off the forum and he is out of my life.

I am truly sorry you had such a bad experience! Hopefully that guy has left the forum or in jail! I always try to respond to all PM's (I think it is RUDE not to) however, it is equally RUDE to make an obscene PM ( without even knowing the person) and explain what and where you want to do whatever too. That is what I was asking when I posted this. 'Lers' males & females 'Lees' are not just here for our amusement, they are PEOPLE too. 'Lees' male & female 'Lers' aren't ALL a bunch of perverted STALKERS! Please keep in mind TMF is for fun and games!!!!! I don't mean to come off preachy, I just want to keep this all in perspective.

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

"Would you laugh if I rubbed my knob up your soles and came over them?"

Did you check to see if his knuckles were scraped having just recently started to stand up-right? It amazes me sometimes the one-liners guys use and think that it's going to get them action?! Geez, talk about a LEGEND IN YOUR OWN MIND. I mean I've spoken naughty before to a female but I build up a online friendship with her first and most of the time she respond with something just as bad.

 

[NeitherSparky]

To be truthful, "harassed" has different meanings for different people. Some people consider it harassment to be asked if they're having a nice day. 🙂

I admit I am extremely sensitive when it comes to the subject of tickling and I prefer simply not to discuss it with strangers. That's why I like the anonymity of the Internet, and using the handle "Queen of Hearts" instead of either my real name or even the one I use all over the *rest* of the Internet. However, Internet or not, I am not comfortable with a total stranger PMing me and asking me to describe my "fantasies" to them. No I won't tell a random strangers my fantasies, go away! 😀 I wouldn't report someone to a mod for doing that simply because it is so common, but I would tell people not to ask me such personal questions. Thing is, people don't understand why I'm even on this forum if I don't want to have a dialogue about tickling. I *would* have a dialogue if I knew someone *very* very well. I'm just a very personal sort. I'm either completely *impersonal* with a stranger or *personal* with a very close acquaintence. There's no middle ground. But if a stranger continued to persue a personal discussion with me after I explained that, then THAT would be harassment.

And yeah, I've been harassed that way before, in the past. It's frankly what makes me so flightly around here in general. *shrug* Sorry. I'm paranoid. 🙂

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

That makes sense Queen. I like to think I have more interests surrounding my life then tickling. It's good to have it in the mix but it not something you can base a friendship on.

 

[darkscar]

hey Queen just out of curiosity, do u hate random PM's from people that are just trying to get to know you?

 

[aryz75]

I am a 'lee and I have never felt harassed on the Forum. I have enjoyed the attention I have been getting from the 'lers...and welcome it.

 

[steph]

I know she didn't ask but this is a darling, darling girl. Yes, we're friends in real life. Any guy would be lucky to land her...🙂
XOXO

hey Queen just out of curiosity, do u hate random PM's from people that are just trying to get to know you?

 

[MasterPaladin]

I don't think it's just lees that get those type of PMs. I'm strictly ler only and I get loads. Is it just the women or do men get them too?

you can be sure of that if you see me come in and fly out it's because I see certain people here who pm me all the time even if I am talking in the room. permission should be asked all the time instead of putting someone on the spot to have to tell you in a pm go away. I had to tell one guy to stop and please never do it again I think I insulted him but he would never take no for an answer.

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

I believe if your going to private message someone you should first post in the forum for awhile. It shows that you aren't just singling anyone out but letting others know you are here. I always read "some guy or some girl" which means to me that they relatively unknown to the person they are PMing and just came to seek out potentials. I could be wrong though.

 

[tickled7]

Not really harassed!

Not really harassed!

But, there was a guy who kept violating my cyber-tickling boundaries by ripping my clothes off!

Very annoying!

 

[steph]

I'm not so sure I agree here. I get a LOT of PMs from people who have NEVER posted, though they've been on here for years. They tell me they're shy, nervous about meeting others for play, etc. "You seem nice and I just thought I'd say hi..." I rather like it!
XOXO

I believe if your going to private message someone you should first post in the forum for awhile. It shows that you aren't just singling anyone out but letting others know you are here. I always read "some guy or some girl" which means to me that they relatively unknown to the person they are PMing and just came to seek out potentials. I could be wrong though.

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

Not really harassed!

But, there was a guy who kept violating my cyber-tickling boundaries by ripping my clothes off!

Very annoying!

How do you violate cyber-tickling boundaries?

I stand corrected , steph

 

[steph]

Hee hee cutie!

I think she means like when people cross the line, say inappropriate things...😉
XOXO

How do you violate cyber-tickling boundaries?

I stand corrected , steph

 

[NeitherSparky]

hey Queen just out of curiosity, do u hate random PM's from people that are just trying to get to know you?

Sorry, here I am...

No but I admit getting Pm'ed on a fetish forum just makes me a little more paranoid than normal. 😉 As long as the first thing out of the person's mouth (so to speak) is not a direct question about tickling with no other hint that they might care about the rest of my personality I'm good.

(Is my new sig working? edit: Yay! Needs a new font though.)

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

Sorry, here I am...

No but I admit getting Pm'ed on a fetish forum just makes me a little more paranoid than normal. 😉 As long as the first thing out of the person's mouth (so to speak) is not a direct question about tickling with no other hint that they might care about the rest of my personality I'm good.

(Is my new sig working? edit: Yay! Needs a new font though.)

Congradulations on you sig! Oh cool. I have other interests to chat about. 😎