Sex without an orgasm... is it still good?

[goddess_nemesis]

I was watching an episode of Two and a Half Men where Charlie was concerned about Chelsea not orgasming during sex but she still enjoyed it.

It made me think because I could relate to that. When I dated my ex, I didn't always orgasm but it didn't make the sex any less pleasurable for me. It bothered my ex, but it wasn't a big deal to me because the sex was good.

So what do you think? Can sex still be good even if you or your partner doesn't orgasm? How important do you think it is for you to bring your partner to orgasm? Does it bother you when they don't? Does it bother you if/when they fake it?

 

[TropicThunder]

I enjoy sex without it. =)

 

[c7_assassin]

If at first I can't make a woman orgasm, it drives me crazy. I become obsessed and set up camp in her nethers until the problem is solved.

 

[alchemy]

It's still good, but it's a little disappointing too

 

[ndj101982]

I guy can't enjoy sex without an orgasm. I don't know if a woman can, but a guy definitely needs to "blow his load" to enjoy it.

 

[Myriads]

A guy can't enjoy sex without an orgasm. I don't know if a woman can, but a guy definitely needs to "blow his load" to enjoy it.

No They don't.

There is a lot more to enjoying sex then the last 10 seconds.

Myriads

 

[Korastus]

No They don't.

There is a lot more to enjoying sex then the last 10 seconds.

Myriads

This.

 

[Artoo]

This.

This.

 

[FatJay]

No They don't.

There is a lot more to enjoying sex then the last 10 seconds.

Myriads

Sex is meant to take longer than 10 seconds??? Oh maaaaaaan. Egg all over my face. At least, I think it's egg ...

 

[Flatfoot]

I wanna say that it's hard for me to perceive how it could be enjoyable, but I know there were plenty of times I've gone down on women without getting off, and I still found that enjoyable. Depends on my mood, I guess.

 

[kered]

The worst sex I ever had was wonderful!

 

[ndj101982]

No They don't.

There is a lot more to enjoying sex then the last 10 seconds.

Myriads

Let's be honest though, those last ten seconds are the best part. Right before you collapse on top of the girl and ask her to make you a sandwich 🙂

 

[Jagermeistered]

I think an orgasm has little to do with the festivities. The act of two people doing what they love to do with each other means more than anything else!

 

[Jagermeistered]

An orgasm only lasts a few seconds, but elation can last for hours!

 

[myth77]

This.

^That.

 

[Helena]

I enjoy giving orgasms even more than I enjoy getting them. In a relationship, I've stripped my man down and loved him up and down without removing a stitch of my own clothing. Sex with someone I love is the best sex ever.

 

[Soda Bobinski]

This.

^That.

The other.

 

[myth77]

The other.

Exactly

 

[Bohemianne]

Exactly

OMG. There!

 

[TonyTheTongue]

Sex without an orgasm has ulterior motives. Ulterior motives aren't necessarily good.

Orgasms feel so good and people are generally selfish. Why lead such an abstemious sex life and the denial of it being compromised.

Afraid of how powerful an orgasm might feel?
Don't like how you feel when leading up to an orgasm?
Don't want to become pregant?
Is the guy real nice and respectful in subterfuge of being a coward in initiating dirty moves and waiting for you to make the moves instead?

Let's get real here if you seriously want to find out if a sex life lacking in orgasms is any good.

 

[myth77]

OMG. There!

See, you know exactly what I'm talking about. It's like you read my mind!

 

[Myriads]

Sex without an orgasm has ulterior motives. Ulterior motives aren't necessarily good.

This would be true if the sole purpose and reason for having sex is to have orgasms.

There is much more to sex then a moist spasm. Your most potent sexual organ is your brain.

And much of the pleasure that comes from sex, before during and after comes from it.

Myriads

 

[TonyTheTongue]

I suppose if one lacks the contents to advance from mind fucking to actual sex, then orgasms would be disregarded.

A 10 second warm moist spasm does read rather dull.

 

[Capnmad]

If your partner can appreciate tease and denial -- and you're good at giving it -- sometimes, the best sex can be without orgasm. At least, for a while. Sure, a good savage screw is good now and again, but my favorite type of sexplay is all about psychology, anticipation, and building layer on layer of stimulation until they simply can't take any more. Granted, I couldn't imagine not... ..."following through", at least at some point... ...eventually. And then the fun is only beginning again...

To further wear out a cliché: It's not about the destination. It's about the journey.

 

[myth77]

This would be true if the sole purpose and reason for having sex is to have orgasms.

There is much more to sex then a moist spasm. Your most potent sexual organ is your brain.

And much of the pleasure that comes from sex, before during and after comes from it.

Myriads

If your partner can appreciate tease and denial -- and you're good at giving it -- sometimes, the best sex can be without orgasm. At least, for a while. Sure, a good savage screw is good now and again, but my favorite type of sexplay is all about psychology, anticipation, and building layer on layer of stimulation until they simply can't take any more. Granted, I couldn't imagine not... ..."following through", at least at some point... ...eventually. And then the fun is only beginning again...

To further wear out a cliché: It's not about the destination. It's about the journey.