Should I share

[tulipangel]

Ok, So I want to let my boyfriend in on how much I LOVE tickling. He knows I visit this site and all but he has never looked around the site or anything. With out embarrassing myself (since i'm shy about this), how do i get him more involved and should I get him more involved? AND.... What if he checks this out and thinks its gross or something? How should I handle that?

 

[StockedAndGagged]

Seems this is the time of year where people are confessing their love of tickling to others. I applaud your bravery.

Well if he knows you browse this site, he must have some idea that tickling is not just a passing interest; it must be something more than that. I would hope he'd take the initiative himself to peruse the site to try to gain a broader perspective about tickling, and therefore, you.

If you're going to tell him, perhaps bringing up the site is a good first step. I don't know if I'd go on with him to show him it yourself, though that is certainly another option. Leaving it up to him to look at and then discuss with you seems to be a good way of breaking the ice.

I doubt he's going to think tickling is gross. He might object to some of the things on the site, but so does everyone. To each, their own. He might think its odd that you like being tickled, just as someone who doesn't like brussell sprouts thinks it odd that someone else can love them. However, if he truly cares for you, then he's going to be open to it, and will probably come to enjoy it himself.

CH

 

[darvon96]

Personally, I think you should let him work himself into frenzy over tickling you first. If he's like most guys, then anything that turns you on will quickly become his favorite pastime. Once he's at the point where he's tickling you every chance he can get, then this place should be easy to swallow.

 

[tulipangel]

Thanks

Ya'll are so smart! I think im going to ask him to look through the site while i am not home. have him go through and see what goes on here. And if he winds up not being into it ill just find someone else to do it for me.

 

[StockedAndGagged]

That's a mean thing to say, especially to a fellow Northeast-er. 🙂 If you go to NEST, I'm sure there'll be a line of people eager to fill that role. And if you're ever in CT, there's one here too. 🙂

CH

 

[Illtcklu]

Ok, So I want to let my boyfriend in on how much I LOVE tickling. He knows I visit this site and all but he has never looked around the site or anything. With out embarrassing myself (since i'm shy about this), how do i get him more involved and should I get him more involved? AND.... What if he checks this out and thinks its gross or something? How should I handle that?

I'm wanting to do the same with my g/f! Does he suspect? Does he like trying new things?

 

[tulipangel]

hmm

I don't know why there is shame.... a wise man sent me a private message asking why we feel shame and said there are worse fetishes out there! WOW is he right. Its so funny cause I just asked if I could order a book Erotic Tickling and he asked what book and i couldnt even tell him! how lame am I lol!

 

[tulipangel]

hey hey

That's a mean thing to say, especially to a fellow Northeast-er. 🙂 If you go to NEST, I'm sure there'll be a line of people eager to fill that role. And if you're ever in CT, there's one here too. 🙂

CH

Well, CT is not far! Everyone talks about NEST. I think I might have to sneak off to the next one (if I can)

 

[Illtcklu]

I don't know why there is shame.... a wise man sent me a private message asking why we feel shame and said there are worse fetishes out there! WOW is he right. Its so funny cause I just asked if I could order a book Erotic Tickling and he asked what book and i couldnt even tell him! how lame am I lol!

Well! I'm flattered! I really am! I wouldn't say I am WISE but it's something to think about!


ps I'm just as lame...........can I borrow the book since I won't have the balls to ask either -lol Maybe I'm not so wise!

 

[susannah355]

If I were in your position, I would just talk to him about how I feel about it. Don't let him flounder around a web site trying to figure out what makes you tick(le) 🙂

 

[lk70]

There's an incredibly wide variety of information on this site. Might not be a great idea to let him wander through it unguided...

 

[tulipangel]

Blah

If I were in your position, I would just talk to him about how I feel about it. Don't let him flounder around a web site trying to figure out what makes you tick(le) 🙂

This is true. He might get the wrong idea of what I LIKE. But I tried to tell him last night when we were just watching TV. I tried to talk and he looked at me and asked me what I was looking at. For about 10 mins. straight I looked with my mouth 1/2 open and couldn't get the words out. Its hard enough to tell a man what you like (sexually) but when its KIND OF socially not accepted it makes it MORE difficult!

IllTcklU, you can borrow the book any time.

 

[Craftsman]

Babe, there's all sorts of ways to do this... I can't imagine the "I have a fetish" moment, because for me, it's always just been instinctual. I like a girl, and she likes me, I tickle her.

If this guy likes you, and if he's a decent guy who wants to give pleasure to the girl he likes, he'll probably be cool with it... But I wouldn't go for the whole explicit statement thing...

The next time you two are making out or engaged in foreplay, give him a subtle poke in the ribs. If need be do this a couple of times "by accident", until he jumps or jerks a little. Then, it's "Look who's ticklish!" You tickle him. Out of competition, an attempt to maintain some semblance of male dominance (or self-defense), he'll probably take to tickling you. If you want to be tickled more, keep goading him on until you're satisfied. Afterwards, you're presented with a great moment where you can say, "I really liked that. Would you like to tickle me some more?" Better yet, dare him. Give him the bedroom eyes, and he should get where it's going... If he doesn't want to, maybe he's not the guy for you.

Just a thought. Good luck, babe.

 

[Luv2Tickle69]

I can't help but think that your b/f just might be very taken by your interest....especially if you DON'T show any insecurity in telling him so.....yeah...sounds easier said than done, I know....but when I confessed my interest in feet/tickling to one of my former girlfriends from many moons ago, I said it as stridently as I would about what my favorite meal would be.....what helped was the comfort and trust between us was very high...very good.....what helped even MORE was when she just smiled and slipped those feet right onto my lap....

....I dunno....even if it didn't do a whole helluva lot FOR him....I can't help but think he would certainly indulge your interest for the very reasons that YOU enjoy it.....besides, he just might learn something about himself he never knew was possible!!!

Good luck, and let us know what develops!

 

[tulipangel]

gonna talk.... kinda!

I can't help but think that your b/f just might be very taken by your interest....especially if you DON'T show any insecurity in telling him so.....yeah...sounds easier said than done, I know....but when I confessed my interest in feet/tickling to one of my former girlfriends from many moons ago, I said it as stridently as I would about what my favorite meal would be.....what helped was the comfort and trust between us was very high...very good.....what helped even MORE was when she just smiled and slipped those feet right onto my lap....

....I dunno....even if it didn't do a whole helluva lot FOR him....I can't help but think he would certainly indulge your interest for the very reasons that YOU enjoy it.....besides, he just might learn something about himself he never knew was possible!!!

Good luck, and let us know what develops!

Well, I am WAY to shy to just come out with it. It was so easy telling him i like to be spanked or choked... I think I am going to E-mail it to him! We live together so i guess it will be like saying it to him without getting all shy and red in the face. I will email it to him tonight and I will let YOU ALL know what happens! cross your fingers for me 🙂

 

[Redmage]

Well, I am WAY to shy to just come out with it. It was so easy telling him i like to be spanked or choked... I think I am going to E-mail it to him! We live together so i guess it will be like saying it to him without getting all shy and red in the face. I will email it to him tonight and I will let YOU ALL know what happens! cross your fingers for me 🙂

Heavens. You have more trouble telling him about tickling than about asphyxia play? I'm not doubting you, but...why?

 

[nowayjose]

Well, I am WAY to shy to just come out with it. It was so easy telling him i like to be spanked or choked...

Spanking and choking is more acceptable than tickling? Well, perhaps it is.. Wish you good luck and hopefully he'll tie you tight and mercilessly attack your soles so you'll curse yourself for having told him

 

[tulipangel]

Funny

I find it funny myself! I do not know why It was easier for me to talk about rough play like that! I can talk about spanking and choking with out getting red or shy.
I just emailed him and once he gets home from work, I am going to the gym. He can read it alone and when i get home we can talk about it. IF he wants to.
I hope I have good news to post tomorrow!

 

[TickledToDeath]

Tell him. Show him what tickling does for and to you. One would think that something that is a "turn-on" would be most welcome.

 

[tulipangel]

The answer is..............

I got a big fat NO to everything....... Don't know what my next move will be but I will not live a lie and deny my urges! Geesh this sucks! He didnt say anything but "I read your email and the answer is NO"..... 😡

 

[Luv2Tickle69]

I got a big fat NO to everything....... Don't know what my next move will be but I will not live a lie and deny my urges! Geesh this sucks! He didnt say anything but "I read your email and the answer is NO"..... 😡

....jeez tulip.....didn't even sound like he was willing to even give it a TRY!!

.....such are the perils of having such an interesting.....well..interest....not everyone we come into contact with is going to go along with it.....

.....now.....if your feet were within MY reach?? Well.....that'd be a gimme now, wouldn't it...?

 

[ticklesmurph]

hi tulipangel!

hello how ya doin tulipangel i've read your plight...and i think its messed up that you were soooo shy to tell him and this caused you sum kinda stress....and then he shot you down like that......and believe me i know what your goin through sumtimes its embarrassing to reveal your biggest fetish TICKLING.....to either your b/f or g/f cause you don't know what there gonna think or say.....well i'll tell ya!! we need tickling in our lives sweetheart and people don't understand the desire we have......i'd love to tickle your beautiful feet.....he don't even know what he's missin!

 

[Redmage]

I got a big fat NO to everything....... Don't know what my next move will be but I will not live a lie and deny my urges! Geesh this sucks! He didnt say anything but "I read your email and the answer is NO"..... 😡

That is WEIRD. He's willing to spank you and to asphyx you, but not to tickle you?

I thought I was strange.

Well, do talk with him. See if you can figure out what the issues are - because that's truly strange behavior. But if this is a deal-breaker and he's not willing to budge, then you might want to start shopping around again.

 

[nowayjose]

I got a big fat NO to everything....... Don't know what my next move will be but I will not live a lie and deny my urges! Geesh this sucks! He didnt say anything but "I read your email and the answer is NO"..... 😡

I'd calm down now and not mention the topic anymore for a while. I mean, he now knows your wishes. Maybe he simply doesn't like being pressed, or is just in a bad mood or sth. If he's worth his salt, he'll come back to it eventually (read: weeks or so), if he knows that it turns you on so much. I mean, bondage+tickling isn't some, errm, highly questionable sh*t-in-my-face fetish or something like it. If he continues to simply ignore it (after weeks), I'd go on and look for someone who will.

Good luck

 

[booberrytickle]

Tulipangel: Unfortunately, I have been in exactly the same position. I'm a 'ler and have been extremely shy about my fetish. I have twice been involved with women who I thought were open minded and caring, but would not accomodate my fetish. I felt hurt, embarrassed and ashamed at first, but then realized that my need to be honest about and communicate what turns me on is not problem and that I shouldn't be discouraged. I'm sorry you had to go through that. PM or e-mail me any time if you need support ([email protected]).