i just told my friend matt about my love of being tickled and im worried.....i just want to be reassured that it is a good thing to tell your friends because he is the first person i told for 4 years and he is the only person that knows besides my boyfriend.....is there any good that can come out of telling people??
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so i just told someone about my tickling fetish
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If you trust him then you have nothing to worry about, its nither a good or bad thing to tell your friends really, dosent make a whole lota difference really 🙂
Its not as weird as we seem to think it is, Noone ive told has ever thought its weird, usually just think its cute.
P.S I have moved your thread here as its not really a "story" and you`ll get more replies here 🙂
Its not as weird as we seem to think it is, Noone ive told has ever thought its weird, usually just think its cute.
P.S I have moved your thread here as its not really a "story" and you`ll get more replies here 🙂
GirlWhoLikes2Laugh
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I agree with Haribish! I don't think it's a big deal that you told him. If he's really a good friend, he shouldn't make you feel strange because of your tickling fetish.
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Well how did he take it? That's really the only way you can judge if it was a good or bad decision. Personally, I've only ever told people I was sleeping with, and my bestest friend ever. Only good things have come from it.
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I agree with the above posters. I don't think it's inherently good OR bad to tell someone. The question is: how did they take it, and did it make YOU feel better?
I hope it works out well for you.
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The Deet
I hope it works out well for you.
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I announce it. When they aren't intrigued they merely don't give a shit.
So I'd say so.
So I'd say so.
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I think you'd be hard pressed to find somebody who would say "ewww, tickling!? That's so gross!" or anything like that.
It's good to be honest with yourself and the world, which means not hiding who you are from other people. I recognize that it's difficult to share something that we're taught from day one to hide, but it's worth making the attempt. I'm slooooowly starting to be open about it my friends, which is very hard, but worth it. I definitely encourage you to keep it up for as much as you feel comfortable. It's like coming out, really, except less generally accepted (but only because it doesn't happen as much!)
It's good to be honest with yourself and the world, which means not hiding who you are from other people. I recognize that it's difficult to share something that we're taught from day one to hide, but it's worth making the attempt. I'm slooooowly starting to be open about it my friends, which is very hard, but worth it. I definitely encourage you to keep it up for as much as you feel comfortable. It's like coming out, really, except less generally accepted (but only because it doesn't happen as much!)
I've always thought there isn't a real NEED for me to tell anybody, but when the topic comes on preferrences and stuff and I trusted the person, then yes, I have been telling them. Never got a bad reaction! I don't think there is something to worry about!
haha that was such an awesome curb episode! love the new bored to death series as well. I agree with tequila, I never go into detail about it and usually i get a "that's cute" response. If they only knew..
thank you so much everyone for the reassurence ...ireally havent seen him since i told him but he has told me that its ok and hes totally fine with it and its not going to change our relationship at all if anything it will get better. thank you all for your input. i never thought i could trust someone as much as i do him so i thought it was a good idea and everytings ok 🙂
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admitting your fetishes
It is risky to admit your fetishes, but how the person responds can make it worthwhile. But without exception, if i am divulging any fetish of mine to a female acquaintance, it means that i am trying to bring the relationship to a newer, more personal level. This has happened a few times and i was glad i took the risk because it resulted in a sharing of our inner nature. It was also understood that i offered one or more of my vulnerabilities to her and this is a sensation that i enjoy very much, especially when she seizes upon it. A co-worker of mine once tickled me in a restaurant after work. For a moment, she wondered how i would react and then i leaned over and whispered "thankyou, that was nice" in her ear. She gave me a devious smile because she knew that she had got me to give in to her.
It is risky to admit your fetishes, but how the person responds can make it worthwhile. But without exception, if i am divulging any fetish of mine to a female acquaintance, it means that i am trying to bring the relationship to a newer, more personal level. This has happened a few times and i was glad i took the risk because it resulted in a sharing of our inner nature. It was also understood that i offered one or more of my vulnerabilities to her and this is a sensation that i enjoy very much, especially when she seizes upon it. A co-worker of mine once tickled me in a restaurant after work. For a moment, she wondered how i would react and then i leaned over and whispered "thankyou, that was nice" in her ear. She gave me a devious smile because she knew that she had got me to give in to her.
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The confession actually feels good; like a weight has been lifted from your shoulders. It's even better if you find someone that shares your fetish.
I have a female toe fetish and mentioned something about how hot it is when women wear shorts and flip-flops to a friend. She said, "Oooh! Someone has a toe fetish." It just felt good to talk about it for a change instead of concealing it.
I have a female toe fetish and mentioned something about how hot it is when women wear shorts and flip-flops to a friend. She said, "Oooh! Someone has a toe fetish." It just felt good to talk about it for a change instead of concealing it.
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The good that can come out of it is that you don't have to be on guard all the time around him and you can speak freely. 😀
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The way I look at it, the key question to determine appropriateness of mentioning your tickling fetish is simply this: Is this person someone with whom it would make sense to discuss the general subject of your sex life and what turns you on? After all, what you're telling the other person is that tickling gives you a sexual arousal, kind of like saying "I get hot every time my boyfriend puts on his cologne" or "every time he picks me up in the air and starts bouncing me." Some relationships are conducive to that kind of sharing, others not. But in my opinion, that's the category it's in. And in this instance, from your description, it didn't sound as if anything was lost. Where the average person would think it's weird, by the way, is when you get to the part about belonging to an international cyber community that holds annual conventions to which people travel long distances to tie each other to bondage equipment to be tickled, howling in agony for half an hour or more at a time and then coming back for more. NEST would be weird to the average person. The mere idea of getting turned on by getting tickled by one's boyfriend--that's just another form of foreplay.
