Soulmates

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

I was wondering about soulmates lately. Is there really such as thing as there's this ONE person out there that is our soulmate? I mean I met my friend who said when she first met her fiance she could tell that he was her soulmate. She said that she felt like she had known him all her life but the thing is I am sure that's pshycological because I am sure she didn't really literally know him all her life. I think the idea of a soulmate is just psychological in that you really make a strong connection with someone.


Also, is it possible to have more than one soulmate? I am looking forward to your replies.

 

[drew70]

I don't pretend to know for certain about such things, but my feeling is that there are a number of people with whomany person could have a loving, giving, and passionate relationship. I have a hard time believing that there is only one person in the world that can be one's soul mate.

 

[isabeau]

ticklejen my friend it is indeed possible to have a soul mate. and when your friend meant that she knew him, she recognized something in him that connected and that made her seem like she already knew him. my husband is my soul mate, although as you know he doesnt share this fetish of mine, but in all other ways he is indeed my soul mate. and lately i have found out that you can have other soul mates as well. and women can have other women as soul mates, it doesnt have anything to do with sex. its a connection, in ways you feel. its hard to explain, but when you find your soulmate you just know. hope this helps

isabeau

 

[Mimi]

I like to believe that if Lazarus and I are not soul mates, that fate at least played a pretty hefty role in getting the two of us ultimately united.

We both had that same exact feeling your friend described when we first laid eyes on one another. Both of us fell instantly into a comfort zone that could only be compared to two people who have been together for some time, and we knew that very first night together that neither of us would ever be looking back. We never stated it, we never questioned it. It was just there and understood. I loved him more that first weekend than I ever did my husband of 11 years, and here we are now, nearly 3 years later, and I am still every bit as twitterpated and convinced he was meant to be specifically with me as I was that first meeting. And he still feels the same. We fit together as two perfect pieces of a puzzle. Our similarities and personalities and traits are so on key with one another that you can not tell where one ends and the other begins.

Are we soul mates? I don't know...it sure feels that way. But I do know that it was no accident we found one another. I truly believe it was in the cards. 😉

Mimi

 

[Mitchell]

I'm not sure I'm really a believer in a "soul mate". I know that people can feel that they fall in love even multiple times during a lifetime, and for one reason or another, it may not work out.
For myself, and maybe this is me being a cynical, single old man of nearly 36, I dont expect or think that I will find a "soulmate", because I'm not sure such a person exists for me. What I do hope is to one day find the most compatible person under the circumstances, and to do my best to make a relationship work. Hopefully, she will be a member of the community who enjoys tickling and foot worship, but, if not, hopefully she will at least be a convert who will be tolerant of my interests.
This is my viewpoint on love.

Mitch

 

[amk714]

I don't pretend to know for certain about such things, but my feeling is that there are a number of people with whom any person could have a loving, giving, and passionate relationship. I have a hard time believing that there is only one person in the world that can be one's soul mate.

This is one of the few things you and I agree on, Drew. 😀

 

[isabeau]

This is one of the few things you and I agree on, Drew. 😀

it doesnt have to be only one person. not only is my husband my soulmate, but i have an online one as well. not quite in the same way. but... and once again its extremely hard for me to explain. however like Mimi , i believe that david and i were in the cards, written that is. and you know what? i dont need him to be a tickle fanatic. since i havent ever experienced it, i'm not like addicted. if he were then it would be perfect. but life aint perfect. and if it were, it would be one hell of a boring place. sure, i get frustrated , and sometimes way too frustrated, and i'll post things like david is mean david wont let me do this and that, mellie is a whiney butt. but deep down inside, i will never leave this soul mate of mine. unlike some of you, i dont need tickling to be happy. sure it would be terrific but as i said since i havent experienced it, i suppose i dont know exactly what i'm missing. god i dont know if this is making any sense. anyway yes there are definitely soulmates. and i thank God i found the soulmate who will put up with horrible me.

isabeau

 

[RobAce]

Im not so much in the "soulmate" line of thinking. I think that there is someone one for everyone but not so much the "soulmate", why..because if you do believe 100% in the soulmate you are apt to miss the 1000's of people that might not be the purely compatable one that you search for. My wife and I when we met were polar opposites. She liked country music, I liked hip-hop and R &B, she was a very outgoing person with lots of friends...I was a very skeptical person with maybe only 5 friends. She likes the small towns I perfered the big cities. She didnt find what I enjoyed fun and I the same. If I was looking for a soulmate I would have passed her by. But in the context of making something out of nothing we did have a common thread, she found me attractive and I found her the same. So we decided to give each other a try and see what happened. Of course we didnt know at the time but that first foot massage I gave her that 2nd night would be our "hook", she never knew how much she enjoyed having her feet pampered and I of course knew how much Id enjoy it. Now here we are years later...my tastes have changed some and hers have to, now to we are not soulmates but something a little closer. Not only do we have each other but 2 beautiful children as well.
So not that Im against the whole "soulmate" thing, just sometimes when you look for that one thing...your going to miss about a hundred others.
But what do I know..Im just a silly silly man.

Rob

 

[gargoyleofdusk]

I believe in a soulmate - hath yet yo find her though.
We do make deep connections with others in our lives, some stronger than others. Why not have more than one soulmate? Strengthens bonds, creates a supportive and powerful group.
Some take a lifetime to find their second half - but there are smaller pieces in those halves we all draw from.
Maybe it's just miscellaneous ramblings from a lonely beast, but Jen - hope we may keep in touch.

 

[isabeau]

I believe in a soulmate - hath yet yo find her though.
We do make deep connections with others in our lives, some stronger than others. Why not have more than one soulmate? Strengthens bonds, creates a supportive and powerful group.
Some take a lifetime to find their second half - but there are smaller pieces in those halves we all draw from.
Maybe it's just miscellaneous ramblings from a lonely beast, but Jen - hope we may keep in touch.

sorry you are a lonely soul gargoyle. if its any comfort you are never alone here....

isabeau

 

[goddessofpixies]

its a connection, in ways you feel. its hard to explain, but when you find your soulmate you just know.

isabeau

Sacrifice and I are soul mates. After years separated by continents, he contacted me via classmates. We started to communicate by email and he spoke of how he had never forgotten me nor stopped loving me. I felt the connection even through the phone lines which I know sounds crazy. I flew 6000 miles to see him and that connection felt so much stronger. Then we were once again separated by continents when I had to leave.

For three years we didn't see one another and spoke only occasionally. This year we have reconnected physically (we were always connected emotionally) and this time it is for life. It is not like we have a choice. The connection we both felt this time was greater by far then anything either one of us has felt before. Three years ago the connection we felt (which was pretty strong) couldn't light a candle to what we feel now. During a five day rendevous we recently had, the connection wasn't just mental or emotional. Each time our eyes met I felt a PHYSICAL pull while looking in his eyes.

I could tell you all the things that make my relationship with Sacrifice kismet but I would need an entire site to myself just to do so. Just take my word for it. We are soul mates and everyone has one, it is just a matter of whether or not you are luck enough to find him or her.

 

[goddessofpixies]

I feel that any relationship with another person will take a lot of work on behalf of both parties involved to make it work, but to me, it's all up to God and who God decides to throw in your path.

The term "soul mates" in no way implies that it isn't a relationship that doesn't need to be worked with to keep it afloat. It just means that there is some connection with that person already established for unknown reasons (if you don't believe in past lives or some other such occurence).

Anything that happens on this earth could be said to be "God's work" so even the connections that soul mates feel could be his creation. Who knows! I guess it is just the romantic in me that makes a believer out of me, brought out in me again in the first time in 17 years because of the love of my life. Either way, believing that Sacrifice is my soul mate makes me happy and I am glad that I am open to such belief because it makes this life worth actually living, rather than simply just existing in Love is life and life is Love.

 

[dskodj]

My take on the whole soulmate deal is kinda wacked but, I basicly feel that for some they do in fact have 2 soul mates set out for them in a lifetime and you may or may not come across them, and some do not have any. It can be kind of a psych thing like someone else had said in this thread in a sence. its like theres many people in this world you can click with, feel like youve known your whole life (of any form or nature..could be a best friend of the same sex or good friend of the other sex), but that doesnt mean your soulmates just cause its the oposite sex. Ive learned this through time.

Im a pretty bitter person these days when it comes to that whole love and bond thing cause for me personaly, ive had my emotions, heart and mind messed with too many times throughout my life (really more than many, actualy everytime I got into something serious from the time I was a preteen till near present day lol)..so for me if in fact there is a soulmate for me out there, I prob would end up passing it up without knowing cause my trust is very very low in that department.

 

[goddessofpixies]

Im a pretty bitter person these days when it comes to that whole love and bond thing cause for me personaly, ive had my emotions, heart and mind messed with too many times throughout my life

I know where you are coming from and all I can say is I have been lied to and treated like dirt by many in my life since I was a child and never thought I could open myself up enough to give Sacrifice the love and compassion he is so deserving of, but I have a new take on life. Even though I have total faith in our love and commitment to each other, I have decided I would rather have loved and been loved with such passion and have the possiblity of having my heart broken, then never to have experienced it at all. I have opened myself up fully to love for the first time in my life and I have given my heart over to him. I would rather have felt these feelings and feel "alive" than shy away from them and have felt nothing even close.

The weekend Sacrifice came back into my life, I was still hesitant about letting love in my life even though I KNEW how happy I could be in his arms and in his life. A movie came out that weekend called "Just like heaven." I had wanted to read the book this movie was adapted from about five years ago, but I never got around to it. I went to see the movie two days after his email to me telling me he could NEVER give up on us. It was the first romance I had allowed myself to see in YEARS! The movie's message I received was if you don't open yourself up to love, you may miss the chance to know true life and love; not just the life of work and existing, but REAL ecstasy.(hint! the timing of this movie and the fact that is was the only movie poster up in the college I attend during the semester, it is just ONE example of Kismet this relationship has started with )

What can I say! Deep down inside I have never lost my fantasy of finding Prince Charming and although life is NOT a fairytale, my love life is MY fairytale...everything I always dreamed of as a little girl and much, much more! Thank you for being my prince charming, Sacrifice. All your perfections and imperfections make you the one for me...."you're where I belong" (Trisha Yearwood for anyone who is interested in knowing the singer of one of our songs). Love is life and life is Love

 

[isabeau]

dang pixie your gonna make me cry. thats beautiful. is it the Sacrifice who recently joined here? thats great i'm so happy for you both.

isabeau

 

[Sacrifice]

I made goddessofpixies sig for her. Ive been chasing her since High School with Captain Ahab-like determination. You can read all about how we hooked up 15 years later in her first post on this thread but let me just say that im in awe of her everytime I see her. I never have seen a more beautiful woman inside and out. She reminds me of a young Stevie Nicks...Rhiannon the Mare Goddess. I call her that sometimes even! Goddessofpixies is truly the complete package and lucky for me I caught her for keeps cuz im not letting go this time!

 

[isabeau]

thats terrific, i've been living with my soulmate for 27 years

isabeau

 

[Sacrifice]

thats terrific, i've been living with my soulmate for 27 years

isabeau

Feels good doesnt it? I just have to duck when goddessofpixies sees my sig! 😱

 

[kcantankerous]

Theres hundreds of people for each individual on this vast planet. The problem is meeting just one of them under the right conditions. Meeting just one of the hundred and falling in love with that one person completely ends the possiblity of the other 99. Now Im talking about real love not that sleeping around bs. But financies, beliefs, personalities, ambitions, education level (sometimes), race (in some cases), ect. All these factors must be in harmony in order for you to be happy with any solemate you run into.

 

[some1somewhere]

I think that there are a number of people that "meld" better than others. But to call these "soulmates" I doubt is correct. I believe that soulmates are made rather than found. Although attraction to characteristics of another person may be natural, love is not an emotion but a verb. It is what you do that qualifies as love. I would put love as one of the hardest actions one can do, but among the most rewarding.

 

[goddessofpixies]

But financies, beliefs, personalities, ambitions, education level (sometimes), race (in some cases), ect. All these factors must be in harmony in order for you to be happy with any solemate you run into.

Actually, none of those factors has any weight where a soulmate is concerned. All of those things are superficial and don't have anything to do with a soulmate bond. These may be factors, however, in the "body" form of a relationship, an earthbound illusion we feed ourselves.

True soulmates have only the lessons learned in this life that differs from their partners and if they have not learned the appropriate lessons in this life and their other lives, the soulmates cannot be together in peace and therefore the relationship becomes toxic. Other than hurrying up and learning the lessons they are meant to from this lifetime while WITH their soulmate (which they have to be ready and willing to learn them) there is nothing that can be done to make the relationship compatible.

Love is life and life is love

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

I really appreciate everyone's variety of responses so far. I feel like you Mitchell I am 33 and I don't know if I am ever going to discover my soulmate . I just want to say that I have put myself out there many times to meet people. I have attended dances, social events and so forth. They say God helps those who help themselves but what happens when you have been and I haven't found Mr. Right yet? What does that say? Does that mean that God intends me to be single forever? I really hope not . I was in a relationship for a total of 4 and half years and I was engaged for for 2 and half with him. Unfortunately, for many reasons it didn't work out.

I can't help wondering is God trying to punish me for something I did wrong or is THERE REALLY A REASON FOR EVERYTHING? I don't know what to think anymore. Maybe it's just not meant to be for me to be married, I know this sounds cynical but I can't help it. Maybe I should just give up on men. Who knows? Just wanted to share my feelings, wish it could be more positive but that's how I feel I can't help it.

 

[Sacrifice]

Just hang on Ticklejen. You usually find whoever youre looking for when you stop looking as crazy as that sounds.

 

[dskodj]

I really appreciate everyone's variety of responses so far. I feel like you Mitchell I am 33 and I don't know if I am ever going to discover my soulmate . I just want to say that I have put myself out there many times to meet people. I have attended dances, social events and so forth. They say God helps those who help themselves but what happens when you have been and I haven't found Mr. Right yet? What does that say? Does that mean that God intends me to be single forever? I really hope not . I was in a relationship for a total of 4 and half years and I was engaged for for 2 and half with him. Unfortunately, for many reasons it didn't work out.

I can't help wondering is God trying to punish me for something I did wrong or is THERE REALLY A REASON FOR EVERYTHING? I don't know what to think anymore. Maybe it's just not meant to be for me to be married, I know this sounds cynical but I can't help it. Maybe I should just give up on men. Who knows? Just wanted to share my feelings, wish it could be more positive but that's how I feel I can't help it.

Hey Jen, Im pretty close to your age and was married for 4 1/2 years (funny you mentioned that time frame too). And that was prob one of the biggest mistakes and most hell I ever been through in my life (she turned out to be an abusive witch in the end). After the marrage I remained single (with a little fling in between) for a little while. Then I had one girlfriend who may have worked if she was a bit older (yes i went with someone a bit younger) then after her I had someone I did in fact give my heart to and had some serious emotions and intentions involved in, and it got destroyed and alot of dishonesty and shit was involved to put it lightly. That was pretty much the end for me, wont ever put my heart out on a limb ever again like that. So jen, I do know what your sayin and how you feel. Matter of fact I feel same way you do. Everytime since I was a teen ive been messed with emotionaly in the lover aspect of things. So yes, I def feel where your comin from and your not alone out there 🙂

 

[BigBrownEyes]

Oh, my, someone just had to bring this up. Actually, I thought about bringing up this topic myself. Meeting my soul mate is probably the only thing that I haven't been able do in life. The problem is that you feel so powerless over the situation. I mean you have no control over it. As much as you might want it, and feel that you deserve it, you can't make your soul mate magically appear. Too bad you can't just rub a genie lamp.

I do believe in the concept of a soul mate, while I also believe there're bound to be more than one for each person. But the question I've asked is - where are they? Are they down the street? Are they in Alaska? Are they in Wyoming? Will our paths ever cross? Where and how? Those are question I'd like to ask God some day. Maybe I won't have to.

Maybe we place too much importance on this type of thing. I'm not sure. Sorry I've really shed no light on this issue. I'm basically saying that there're others, like me, who think about it nearly every day.

I don't look into the face of every female I meet and wonder if she's my soul mate. But I don't plan to ever give up on the idea of meeting the right person. If I was wrong all along and you don't meet your soul mate, then I was wrong.

Here's hoping and not giving up...