Telling Platonic Friends (Vanilla or Otherwise)

[bigdamnheroes]

I've never really considered, or had the urge, to tell any of my platonic friends about this part of my life. At the moment, I'm perfectly happy keeping it to myself. However, I do have one friend who is very open minded, and another who has openly discussed her interest in BDSM. While I have no intention of discussing this with either of them until I'm comfortable, I've always been curious, and maybe for future reference if I ever change my mind, what has happened when people tell their friends about their tickling fetish (as opposed to a romantic partner)? Did you notice any changes in the way they talked to you or perceived you? Any negative or positive outcomes?

 

[Aeveirra]

Haha, go for it.

Tickling is the best fetish to have. <3
Many if my friends know. But.. That's cus I'm an artist, and 90% of my drawings I post on art sites are tickle related. Lol. When they ask why I draw tickling scenes, I just respond with "cus I think it's fun and sexy".

None of them thought it was weird or anything.
Tickling is not gross, painful, messy, or dangerous. Compared to most kinks out there, it's very tame and essentially normal.

If your nervous, then don't tell them just how into it you are. As in, don't say it's fetish outright. Sort of ease into it. Start with things like "I think it's really hott" and "it's more fun with bondage" (if it is, for you. Idk) ... ect. And just do that.
You'll be fine 🙂

 

[kcantankerous]

Hello,

I told the friends that have appeared in my waking and sleeping fantasies. I felt they should know because my conscious couldn't take it.

Thanks,

K

 

[Comfort Eagle]

People here frequently argue against it, but a huge chunk of my friends know. Though because I try (and sometimes succeed!) in involving them.

 

[kcantankerous]

One more thing,

They still talk to me and invite me to things. The still wear flip flops or whatever. No notable changes in behavior at all. In truth, most of them probably forgot.

Thanks,

k

 

[milagros317]

There is no need to tell platonic friends about your erotic interests, whether kinky or vanilla.
But if they bring up a topic such as BDSM, then there is no reason to refrain from talking about it with them.

 

[Wolf]

There is no need to tell platonic friends about your erotic interests, whether kinky or vanilla.
But if they bring up a topic such as BDSM, then there is no reason to refrain from talking about it with them.

What the man there said.
If your friends are the type to talk about such matters, it makes sense.
Otherwise, I'm not sure why it's anyone else's business, unless you have an agenda in telling them those kinds of things.

 

[Maestro1874]

Yes, what Milagros said. I always likened this to a someone starting a dinner conversation with, "Say. I really love blow jobs, how about you Bill?" I'm pretty sure this doesn't happen all that often. IF someone asks, however, why not share?

 

[arachnid95]

I've only really shared my fetish with platonic friends twice, in two very different situations, and with very different results.

The first was my best friend. We click really well together as friends, and are very comfortable with one another, capable of talking about pretty much anything. Our conversations tend to meander between topics, and we just kind of say whatever we feel like saying. At some point or other, a conversation switched over to sex-type things, and we were talking about our preferences and what have you, and my fetish just kind of came out in the most casual way, like: "I dunno, I kinda like redheads. And freckles, freckles are cute... and she'd have to be ticklish. I've got kind of a thing for tickling, to be honest, heh." He paused and asked about that, I elaborated a little, and he shrugged and told me about an unusual kink of his own, and te conversation moved on. It's been mentioned only once before, when discussing puns and teasing one another; he complained jokingly that he could only think of one pun with which to make fun of me, that being something to the tune of "tickling my fancy," while I could come up with myriad puns to make fun of him, if I wanted to. And I did. It was all good natured, don't worry... XD

The second time was... eh, less positive. My sibling's then-best friend, with whom I was also on friendly terms, for some reason got it into her head to ask if I was ticklish. Probably just being playful, not even aware of what that question does to our kind of folk... Being a trap question, of course, I knew she was going to attack, and I didn't particularly want to be tickled by this girl--she was younger than me, she was my sibling's best friend... It would have made me feel awkward and uncomfortable if she tickled me. So, in a blind panic as she was advancing on me, I just kind of blurted it out. It worked, sure, stopping her in her tracks, but... eh, she still gives me weird looks about it to this day... >w>