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The time in your life when you realized you wern't a child anymore

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Perduabo

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It can either be a particular experience, or a moment of age; but what was the one defining moment in your adolescence when you really stood back and took a long look at yourself. When you noticed that innocent, naive mentality was gone, you were growing up, mentally, physically, whatever. But the one thing that was missing was that blissful time of childhood you look back on.
 
Perduabo said:
It can either be a particular experience, or a moment of age; but what was the one defining moment in your adolescence when you really stood back and took a long look at yourself. When you noticed that innocent, naive mentality was gone, you were growing up, mentally, physically, whatever. But the one thing that was missing was that blissful time of childhood you look back on.
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Though I still feel like a kid at times and I'm 55 lol I would have to say 18. Mostly because you realize tour parents are no longer responsible for your actions plus (there was still the draft board back then) youcould be taken by the gov. and shipped overseas.
 
hmmmm....I don't think I've ever had one of those moments.
 
That hasnt happened to me yet and I never heard the word "adolescence" before. :woot:
 
I think that was when I was about 19 or so and on some hallucinogens. One of the more insightful experiences I have had.
 
When I gave my pledge upon enlisting in the US Air Force.

Rob
 
I guess there have been two moments... the first one was when I got my very first apartment on my own- no roommates. I was about 24 years old. The second one was about 4 1/2 years ago when I had to organize my father's funeral. It was a somber experience, but I did feel like I was really an adult.
 
I had to grow up early, and it's not a very pleasant story but I'd say I was about 9 or 10. It took a couple of extra years to catch up mentally though, I was about 13 when I stopped suffering from depression so I guess that was when I started being able to cope with everything.

Just to steer this post into a less gloomy direction I might aswell share something a bit more cherful too; the first time I felt "old" was when I was 6 and had to start telling people that I was going to start school next year. I was really proud about that, and it sorta made me feel on top over all the other kids. lol
 
I knew I wasn't a kid anymore when I moved out of my parents house 3 years ago, to live in Tampa. I was paying my own credit cards, my own car insurance, rent, I was working for my paycheck basically. I wasn't one of those kids where mommy or daddy gave me everything I asked for. I never really asked for much when I was a kid. But when I did sometimes need money, my Mom gave it to me, because it was hard for her at that age too. That and I had a lot of car trouble when I moved to Tampa. I had a 95 Jeep Cherokee, that never lived in a climate such as Florida. So she overheated often. And down there I realized that mechanics don't know shit, I spent about 3 grand on her, and they still never fixed her properly. But I had a friend that was a mechanic, and after all the damn money my Mom spent on her, all she needed was a fuckin' tune up! Never had a problem after that. Living on my own came pretty easy in Tampa, I had an awesome roommate that was like my brother, I had an awesome job, great friends.
 
There have been a few times in my childhood/adolescence when it's been brought home to me. Most often when I wound up giving advice to my parents about how they should be acting towards each other.
 
Two moments equally: When I saw and heard my first baby's heartbeat for the very first time, and giving birth to her. That tiny flickering light and that thumpa-thumpa of her heart...I knew I was done with my own childhood. And giving birth after 20 hours of hellish labor made me into a Woman, believing there's nothing I can't do. And knowing I would do anything for that child. I'll never ever be a grownup, but my baby girl made me an Adult :rainbow:
 
I haven't grown up yet.

I am still dependent on my mother for everything. I've had jobs, but I didn't feel very grown up when I had one. My first job my mom had to drive me to work. Second job I felt like a kid because the boss acted like I was his daughter.

I may live on my own right now in a dorm, but I go home just about every week and my mom does my laundry for me. I've never done a load of laundry. I think I need to grow up and get on there on my own .. but its hard when everything is done for me.
 
When the nurse looked at me and said, "Okay, it's time to push."
 
Artoo said:
There have been a few times in my childhood/adolescence when it's been brought home to me. Most often when I wound up giving advice to my parents about how they should be acting towards each other.
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Good point.

Same thing for me, when my parents divorced I was the one whose shoulder they cried on, giving the emotional support, listen to their rants and feelings and yada yada yada, while somehow figuring out to manage my own life which lived about 150 miles away.
 
This is an interesting thread for me, because I feel like I'm kind of in that transition right now. I'll let ya know how it goes 😉
 
I did that at 15, and it was the most childish decision I ever made. As an adolescent, I thought I could handle a whole hell of a lot more than I actually could. :sowrong:
 
mammers09 said:
I haven't grown up yet.

I am still dependent on my mother for everything. I've had jobs, but I didn't feel very grown up when I had one. My first job my mom had to drive me to work. Second job I felt like a kid because the boss acted like I was his daughter.

I may live on my own right now in a dorm, but I go home just about every week and my mom does my laundry for me. I've never done a load of laundry. I think I need to grow up and get on there on my own .. but its hard when everything is done for me.
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Go live far away. If your parents are still a bit too attached to you don't go too far away but if they're OK with it that you will only visit once every so many months just take the plunge and go either to the other end of the country (say, Southern California, weather's alot better too there) or Europe for instance. You grow up quite fast when you have responsibility for your own wellbeing.
 
I was 6, my parents divorce was finalized, my dad disappeared, my mom turned into a monster, and I was responsible for my little sisters who were 3 at the time. I haven't felt like I could really be a kid since then.
 
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I suppose there were a few of them, but they all came very close together. In December 1982 I left college for the last time, with my Bachelor's degree. In January 1983 I took the oath to enlist in the US Army. In September 1983 I packed up everything I owned in the entire world, transferred to the National Guard, and moved to Chicago for graduate school. When I unpacked in my new apartment and realized that there was absolutely no one else responsible for what happened to me after that, I was pretty sure I wasn't a boy any more.
 
Perduabo said:
It can either be a particular experience, or a moment of age; but what was the one defining moment in your adolescence when you really stood back and took a long look at yourself. When you noticed that innocent, naive mentality was gone, you were growing up, mentally, physically, whatever. But the one thing that was missing was that blissful time of childhood you look back on.
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When I woke up hung over!!! (vodka I believe).
 


Hasn't happened yet. Not sure if it ever will. I have heard though, from a lotta people that when you have a kid all that changes. It like, just, kicks in or something and BOOM you're an adult. Which is exactly why I don't want one. In fact, right now, I'd be happy without ever having one. No dis to children or those that have 'em, I just feel I have a lot more to do before growing up.

I've had moments though, and I hate those moments. You see the world differently and to me, that world kinda blows.
 
For me, it was around the age of 13 years old. When my maternal grandmother died, my mom went to pieces. In some respects, the dynamic reversed, where I was the mom and she was the child. Albeit, a psychotically deranged child. :Grrr: My clearest memory is of her playing the song "Everybody Hurts" by REM over and over and over again. Anyone who dares to play this song in my presence these days runs the risk of having their stereo broken.

It got worse when I was 15. Mom's eyes started going on her (diabetic retinopathy) and she had two or three eye surgeries to try and correct the problem. So, there I am, 15 years old - an age where my biggest worries should be schoolwork, a few household chores, maybe a Saturday job and getting to spend time with friends, right?

No. I was cooking, cleaning, doing the laundry, mowing the lawn, running the household, doing the shopping and paying the bills at the local post office. Every morning before school and before bedtime every night, I bathed & rinsed Mom's eyes and changed the dressings. If memory serves me right, there were a couple of days where I had to miss school to go to eye specialist appointments with her. I effectively had no life of my own and there was next to fuck-all help from the relatives at the time. Thank the Gods for having music and books as an escape route, otherwise matricide would have been a near certainty.

Somehow, some way, I also managed to come top of three classes (Art, Woodwork and Programming Principles) and get an honour award for English at high school that year.

In hindsight, I effectively had no "adolescence", per se. It was a straight shot from childhood to adulthood.
 
When I entered sixth grade and realized that most of my peers were assholes.
 
When i looked in the mirror and thought to myself "Holy shit. 30 isn't so far away anymore" about 4 months ago.
 
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