Think I Know Someone From TMF

[Sunriseticklee]

Yeah... STOP IT! 😀 I know I know a couple of people off of TMF. Married one of them. This is different. I know this person in "real vanilla life" LOL That sounds so funny!

Well.... One day a couple of years ago I was super bored, so I spent my time aimlessly going through the members pics. I ran into a picture of this guy who looked exactly like someone else I kind of knew. (Knew as in... said hi to, and took pictures of- in a professional capacity/ shoot. I'm a photographer.)

Now, I'm not some idiot. I realize that people can have similarities, and most of us feel like we have a twin somewhere. (I met student my second year of teaching who looked just like me. Honestly... people started mistaking us. I thought they were big liars until I saw her, and even I had to admit the similarities were uncanny!) Soooo... I didn't just run up to him and say, "Hi... I'm on TMF too!"

Flash forward 2 years. The last production he starred in, I was also one of the stars as well. We both hit it off as friends- seeing as it was clear that we were both over-the-top people who loved to laugh and so on.... He's the kind of guy who lights up a room by just walking in. We goofed off a lot on and off the stage, like when he asked if anyone would come see him perform in drag. Everyone looked at him all shocked and said NOOOO (We were at church LOL), and I said, "I will!" He and I laughed for about 5 minutes. No one else was amused. LOL You know that just made me laugh harder.

So we keep in touch via Facebook. We shared a couple of FB emails, and I made some BARELY veiled references on how I absolutely love being poked/tickled. He said he loved it too. I sent another email saying, "No seriously.... I love it and if you start, I won't want it to stop!" 😀 Since then we have spent the last several months doing the "virtual" poking thing on FB. LOL

I know... Not the best evidence, but I don't want to just walk up to him and say, ok... so really... How long have you loved tickling? And I don't have the guts to actually say anything, but I REALLY want to.

Would you say anything? Would there even be a point? By the way.... I don't have a desire to "play" with him or anything like that. It would just be really nice to have real life friends (not friends behind a computer screen) to talk about this stuff (and absolutely everything) over coffee. Yeah I have the hubby- who is great, but he isn't a girlfriend/ gossiping type). The supposed TMF guy is just that cool.

Just curious as to what you think. No worries though, I don't have the heart to ambush anyone. GASP!!! What if he's reading this? Hi! Don't freak out! Drinks later? LOL 😀 OMG!

 

[kis123]

I wouldn't say a thing and would pray he didn't recognize me from here. I still believe I have a family member that's a member here and I would die if she found me.

But this comes from a person who sits in work meetings imagining the kinks of the people in the room......

Yes, I know I have issues.

 

[WheresThe Clip?]

I think if you are happily married, you really need to ask yourself where you are going with this, and what is the end game.

 

[DontAskJusTckle]

On the other hand, I think wherever she goes with it is her business and nobody else's.

 

[Sunriseticklee]

LOL... Um, Ok.....
1. Notice I said "girlfriend type". Do you get the hint?
2. I tell my husband everything. He saw the picture when I saw it, and he agrees... AND he's seen the emails, and he is on TMF. So it isn't like I'm secretly plotting to ruin my marriage.
3. Notice I said that I didn't want to play with him.

My marriage is awesome, but that doesn't mean that my husband and I ignore all of our friends. I don't think I put anything in this thread that implied that I was unhappy with my marriage and was looking for something or someone else. Then again... I guess someone who doesn't know me and Alexwarfield might just go off on assumptions....

And I was very clear at what I wanted (end game). Someone I can hang out with and talk about tickling. Sort of like what I had before my bestest tk friend (Terorizer) moved back to California (not to imply that Terorizer was one of my girlfriends... LOL). I can talk to him about anything, but he's so far away. 🙁

Sometimes people have to just read instead of assume- HOWEVER... thanks for telling me your thoughts. I guess. LOL 😀

To clarify the questions:

Would you say anything?
Would there even be a point?
(copied and pasted from the original post)

My "endgame" lol:
A cool friend in the ATL to talk to without having to hide a major part of my life.

 

[WheresThe Clip?]

On the other hand, I think wherever she goes with it is her business and nobody else's.

Then I think if she wants to keep it her business, best not to throw it out for discussion on this forum.

Also Sunrise, there are plenty of people on here (male/female) to discuss tickling related issues with. As for wanting a male girlfriend, I am sure there are plenty of people in the vanilla world for that.

As I said before you need to ask yourself where are you going with this, what's the end game for you here, and what message do you think you will be sending this guy.

 

[mkeemer]

Hi Sunrise just thought I'D you, And Mr. Spur says Hi too 🙂

 

[Artoo]

I don't know about knowing people from here per se, but I know that myself and a couple of people over at the UKTF had a mutual friend who, by his actions, was pretty much a closet tickling fetishist. We used to talk about possibly asking him about it, but didn't want to accidentally out ourselves in the process. 😛

 

[kis123]

Also Sunrise, there are plenty of people on here (male/female) to discuss tickling related issues with. As for wanting a male girlfriend, I am sure there are plenty of people in the vanilla world for that.

Not if she doesn't want her personal intimate business in the streets, possibly labeled as some sort of freak, with the possibility of jeopardizing her career (she is a teacher). I wouldn't dare speak with anyone in the vanilla world about my tickling kink-I wouldn't trust them to understand.

She did mention the part of wanting someone local to hang with every once in awhile and that she and her husband keep no secrets. That doesn't sound like a person willing to flush their marriage down the toilet to me.

As I said before you need to ask yourself where are you going with this, what's the end game for you here, and what message do you think you will be sending this guy.

Asked and answered-you don't seem satisfied with her response and are looking for something that simply isn't there. And if her husband is involved, the message she's sending the guy will be loud and clear. He can choose the friendship or reject it, no harm no foul IMO.

 

[Sunriseticklee]

Then I think if she wants to keep it her business, best not to throw it out for discussion on this forum.

Also Sunrise, there are plenty of people on here (male/female) to discuss tickling related issues with. As for wanting a male girlfriend, I am sure there are plenty of people in the vanilla world for that.

As I said before you need to ask yourself where are you going with this, what's the end game for you here, and what message do you think you will be sending this guy.

I know it's a trend now on TMF to start off topic arguments all over people's threads. I am going to kindly ask you once NOT to do it on this one.

And I'm going to ask others, (thanks for trying to stick up for me DAJT 🙂 ) no matter how hard it seems, to not engage people who do their best to derail and transform a thread into pages of petty fighting.

Back to our regularly scheduled program. Should I tell him? Why or why not? 😀

 

[SusanLee53]

I don't understand why anyone would be treating this woman like she's done something wrong? Or is planning to? Or is subconsciously planning to? I don't get that at all.

It can be a freaky thing to reveal this sort of thing about yourself to a male OR a female. Most of us feel it's just such an incredibly private thing, even more so than sexual intercourse.

My only comment would be caution is warranted because once he finds out that you're into at that level (assuming he is), he might not feel as innocently about it as you do. It can be a lot tougher for guys to find willing partners and odds are he's going to want to play with you whether you want to or not. And then things get awkward and everything stinks.

So unless you think your husband would be cool with him joining you guys, probably best to leave it alone. JMO

 

[Sunriseticklee]

Hi Sunrise just thought I'D you, And Mr. Spur says Hi too 🙂

*blush...
I was thinking about Mr. Spur today, actually. It's a great thing that my hubby hasn't thought to buy one yet, although the stylus from his DS just about has the same effects! YIKES! 😀

To SusanLee:
Thanks- My husband (fellow TMFer) is totally opened to me playing with others, just as I am open with him playing with others too. We've done it without a problem knowing that it is just play, and nothing else is going on- BUT also understanding that if either of us feels uncomfortable, it will end.

I guess my assumption is that it is safe because he isn't the least bit interested in me, and vice versa. And wow, I never thought of whether or not he would want to be tickled/ or tickle me for real, only because I was only thinking about a friend for an outlet to just talk to. Kinda glad you brought it up. It is food for thought.

I have vanilla friends, but I wouldn't want to dump something like that on them. My last best friend (college friend) I told I was into tickling never spoke to me again. (Although she was comfortable enough to ask me to feel up her breasts... Hmmm. That was weird.) My sisters know. If I really want to share to someone who doesn't care, I could. Don't want to. (I know you know that's the point 😀, although others here clearly don't.)

To Kis123:
LOL maybe a clearer understanding will be gathered since YOU again said exactly what I was trying to say. Who knows? Thanks

Artoo... that's exactly where I am right now. I kind of wanna say something, but just don't know if what I will end up with is one less friend. Is it worth it? I don't know if it is.

 

[milagros317]

Should I tell him? Why or why not? 😀

I think not. Since you say you aren't interesting in playing with him, I don't see the point of it.

 

[Sunriseticklee]

I think not. Since you say you aren't interesting in playing with him, I don't see the point of it.

Wow! Good point...

But what if I think it would be cool for him to attend some of our munches.. etc. and that could lead to him finding someone he could play with?

Or... is that just wishful thinking?

 

[BlackestLily]

Wow! Good point...

But what if I think it would be cool for him to attend some of our munches.. etc. and that could lead to him finding someone he could play with?

Or... is that just wishful thinking?

Wishful thinking I believe. Gatherings and munches are no secret on this site. If he truly is a member of this site and wants to attend one he'll find his way, I'm sure of it.

Nice of you though to try to help him. 🙂

 

[Sunriseticklee]

Wishful thinking I believe. Gatherings and munches are no secret on this site. If he truly is a member of this site and wants to attend one he'll find his way, I'm sure of it.

Nice of you though to try to help him. 🙂

Although I think you are right, (It probably is wishful thinking....) I want to point out that I visited this site, but did not go to a gathering until I met my first fellow TMFer, Terorizer. He actually encouraged me and drove me to the gathering (West Coast hosted by QBWeaver). If it wasn't for that, I probably would have NEVER gone. I remember being SO nervous that I felt sick to my stomach all the way there.

A lot of the people here are lurkers and do not engage even if something is going on "next door". I think things changed for me because I decided to reach out and find a friend. I didn't know who would answer. I didn't know how it would pan out. And I never knew it would lead me to where I am today.

 

[WorkInProgress]

Here's a thought. There's a guy you know in real life, and there's a guy you know here at TMF, and you're wondering if they're the same person. So far, all the discussion seems to be about going up to the guy you know in person and asking if he's the guy at TMF. Is there any way you can PM the TMF guy and ask him if he's the guy you know in person? Like "Is your first name Al" or "Do you work in a place where they...?" Just a thought.

 

[JUICEBOX]

Then I think if she wants to keep it her business, best not to throw it out for discussion on this forum.

Also Sunrise, there are plenty of people on here (male/female) to discuss tickling related issues with. As for wanting a male girlfriend, I am sure there are plenty of people in the vanilla world for that.

As I said before you need to ask yourself where are you going with this, what's the end game for you here, and what message do you think you will be sending this guy.

GR violation.

 

[WheresThe Clip?]

GR violation.

Well it probably is for someone who lists his location as fantasy land.

Anyway Sunrise, I apologise if you took my reply as someone who wanted to derail this thread in a hostile manner, it wasn't intended as such. However you didn't make it clear in the original post that you and your husband are comfortable already playing with third parties. Also the second part of SusanLee's reply seems quite reasonable, and is pretty much what I was trying to say, so I won't post further here on this thread.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

Here's a thought. There's a guy you know in real life, and there's a guy you know here at TMF, and you're wondering if they're the same person. So far, all the discussion seems to be about going up to the guy you know in person and asking if he's the guy at TMF. Is there any way you can PM the TMF guy and ask him if he's the guy you know in person? Like "Is your first name Al" or "Do you work in a place where they...?" Just a thought.

Not a bad idea. I once saw someone (a stranger) who I was absolutely convinced was a TMFer that I knew only from seeing her picture in the member pics section (yeah, I perv that, too 😛). Rather than approach the stranger and be like, "OMG we share a fetish!" I came home and PMed the woman saying that I saw her twin at such and such a place. We had a nice little conversation, and of course it ended up not being her. But I got my curiosity satisfied and no one was embarrassed 🙂

 

[Sunriseticklee]

Workinprogress and Skipadeedoodah- Best ideas yet. It's just going to take me forever to find that picture/ profile. It was a couple of years ago. Plus, I'm not sure if his profile is even active. But we'll see.

Still... I wonder if it is even worth it. I'm gonna wait a little while and see if it comes up anymore in conversation- etc. I'm just worried that he is a guy who just likes tickling (as he's admitted), but doesn't "LIKE TICKLING" like the way I (we all) feel about it.

Sigh... These things are never easy. (for nosy people like me. 😀 LOL LOL)

 

[mabus]

Here's a thought. There's a guy you know in real life, and there's a guy you know here at TMF, and you're wondering if they're the same person. So far, all the discussion seems to be about going up to the guy you know in person and asking if he's the guy at TMF. Is there any way you can PM the TMF guy and ask him if he's the guy you know in person? Like "Is your first name Al" or "Do you work in a place where they...?" Just a thought.

Brilliant idea!

Try it!

You what? I say "Fuck it!"and go for it!

Life's too damn short to not get out there and be bold and meet new people, etc. etc. Since he already said he likes tickling, it's not like the world will end if you ask him a question. And as I said before, and I'll say it again...because it's true - "If you're a pretty girl, it's so much easier! (Especially if you're a pretty girl who wears pantyhose!)"
If you're a pretty girl and you ask someone if they like tickling, or if they like dressing up as a clown, or anything!.....it's all good.

 

[Sunriseticklee]

So I "polled" my hubby again, and asked him what he thought about it. He totally agreed with Milagros. He said it was cool that I wanted a friend to talk to about anything, and basically- I kinda had that with the guy. I already told him that I liked tickling. What else is there to hide? (DUDE! He didn't tell me that the first time I asked him!)

He also said that if I had no desire to tickle the guy, there really was no point in asking him if he was on TMF. Just enjoy the friendship.

MAN! I hate it when guys are reasonable! 😛 And.... well! I will try my best not to ask, "Hey, are you on TMF?" But I still might do it one day. 😀

Thanks for the advise guys.