Tickle phobias

[playfuldude]

I actually had a terrible experience not with tickling thankfully but with needles. They have never bothered me at all, but yesterday I had a cortizone shot to try to get my seasonal allergies under control, and having never had a bad reaction before I figured; well sure doc, lets to it. Well after passing out a couple minutes later, feeling woosey and lightheaded for a couple hours, and today I have blotchy skin, it's obvious that i've had my first allergic reaction to an injection. Now i'm thinking to myself as far as any injection; NEVER AGAIN!! You understand right? Anyway tying tickling into this pointless thread I got to thinking, I wonder if folks out there; probably none of us, but people that are scared and weirded out about tickling. Well maybe they had a bad experience when they were young like brothers or sis's tickling them to breathlessness, or parents that didn't know when enough was enough. Not quite as bad as say passing out or feeling woosey but vry likely enough to spoil the fun of tickling in general. Pretty tough phobia to counteract as well.. I don't know. Got me thinking. Any ticklehaters heaven forbid wana chime in? I guess the lesson from the needle is, play nice ticklers, a willing lee is a gift from the Almighty. One selfish or careless mistake could send him or her packing never to play again. Be well folks.

 

[ElFewja]

I wouldn't say it was a horrible experience but definitely associating it with the wrong ideas/feelings due to events similar to those. Tickling is largely a control thing, and that is definitely part of it: losing control.

Largely I think the majority of people have only experienced the negative aspects of tickling without having experienced any of the positive aspects. Delicate situation, to be sure.

 

[robmic]

playfuldude, you make some good points. But there may be help for those that have been traumatized from a bad tickling experience...or even your situation! The mind is a very powerful thing. The right influence could do wonders, but it takes time and dedication to accomplish those goals. The first thing a person has to do is convince themselves that they want to remedy the situation. Sometimes, this is the hardest part. But once they've overcome that hurdle, the rest is a lot easier. Steps need to be taken slowly and in a caring manner. I won't be so foolish as to say this is a guarantee, but hey, what have you got to lose?

 

[HiddenFruit]

I'm glad someone brought this up. Oddly enough, this is something I'm going to address in my fetish story that I want to try to write over the summer. So people, listen well, and get a good look at this:

Tickling isn't just about control. Yes, that's a part of it, but there are other powerful aspects to consider as well. Why do we move away from being tickled? It's an automatic reaction. Except for the minority of us that actually enjoys it, the sensation isn't necessarily pleasant. A little giddy at first, but that's it. 'lees "beg" even when they want more. Now imagine someone who didn't enjoy it actually begging for release and not getting it. It's like an itch. It's not pain, but after a while it becomes annoying, then unbearable.

Laughter means they should be enjoying themselves, right? But that's forced. Prolonged laughing leads to breathlessness, becoming lightheaded, and fainting. Oxygen intake is something that is very serious to consider, because when you're laughing and not getting anything in, that's as bad as choking. It's pseudo-suffocation.

Tickling is stimulating the sensitivity of the nerves, and if this is done repeatedly for long periods of time, this sensitivity will stay into adulthood. All you fellow 'lers out there, don't get too excited, because people like this will NOT let you anywhere near them. Or if they do, they will not enjoy it. Some people cant even get a massage without giggling. It's psychological as well as physical. Intimacy could become a problem.

Tickling CAN be a form of abuse, if it's over done. There are very real cases of this happening, which is why I will never be comfortable with taking a 'lee "too far". Not until I've worked with them before and know just how much they can take. People can have a legitimate "tickle phobia". I had one for a while when I was younger.

You really want to help someone through this? Don't tickle them. Not until they have complete and total trust (and I'm talking months). Then have playful little ones. Get them into a tickle fight. Fight back. Let THEM take control for a little while and let them give and receive. When they say stop, stop immediately. They have boundary issues that they need help dealing with. Something like this is a very serious issue that should be treated with care and respect.

 

[Freethought]

There is a big gap between fantasy scenarios that might be fun to talk about and actually tickling/being tickled by a real life human being. Like any kind of kink, tickling is a way to explore certain parts of your mind space with a person you trust enough to let into that space. Limits will of course, be explored, but if a line is crossed in a way that brings up negative emotions, everyone backs off in a real world situation. A person who likes tickling may still get to the point where they truly want to stop. Just like a person who loves bondage may not love it after too long and too many cramps and only an asshole would get any pleasure from bringing a person genuine dis-pleasure.

A lot of lees have a definite physiological reaction where they can laugh so hard that the stomach muscles get really tight to the point that there is a very real sense of not being able to breathe. Lots of trust, or a safe word until you get that kind of connection, are a must if you play in real life.

 

[ticklehound]

playfuldude - I'm sorry to hear about your recent episode, but I have to chime in. It looks like you had a vagal reaction; your blood pressure dropped and you felt woozy and passed out. Why this happened, I can't say for sure, but I'm thinking you were apprehensive about getting a shot OR your allergies were pretty bad BEFORE the injection. I'm sorry, but it's just a pet peeve of mine when people are wrongly told they are allergic to something (I even had a patient NOT get a life-saving meds because some idiot told them they were allergic to it when they really weren't). In your case, you cannot have an allergic reaction to cortisone - because that's the same drug that's used to treat a true allergic reaction. = The blotchy skin? I'm guessing whoever gave the injection went a little too deep and it caused a deep bruise. Again,_ I can't help it. I can't turn that doctor switch off. I hope you never need a shot again, but if so, well, I hope everything works out a lot better.

To answer your actual post, YES, I have met girls who are afraid of being tickle because of a truly torturous experience in the past, and they absolutely would not let me even playfully tickle her. Anytime any girl tells me they hate or are really afraid of tickling, I try to talk them through it, make them "overcome their fears" - so to speak. I was able to convince one; it took a lot of cajoling to get her to trust me. Call me weird, but I just think tickling should be enjoyed even by vanilla people. So if anyone has been traumatized by tickling, I feel bad for them, and wanna help (because if it works, I get to tickle them!).

 

[Mane'o]

I look forward to reading your story HiddenFruit. I have come across individuals who experienced such tickling as children that it was traumatizing and gave them a fear of tickling into adulthood. Yet another reason not to engage in nonconsensual tickling

 

[playfuldude]

playfuldude - I'm sorry to hear about your recent episode, but I have to chime in. It looks like you had a vagal reaction; your blood pressure dropped and you felt woozy and passed out. Why this happened, I can't say for sure, but I'm thinking you were apprehensive about getting a shot OR your allergies were pretty bad BEFORE the injection. I'm sorry, but it's just a pet peeve of mine when people are wrongly told they are allergic to something (I even had a patient NOT get a life-saving meds because some idiot told them they were allergic to it when they really weren't). In your case, you cannot have an allergic reaction to cortisone - because that's the same drug that's used to treat a true allergic reaction. = The blotchy skin? I'm guessing whoever gave the injection went a little too deep and it caused a deep bruise. Again,_ I can't help it. I can't turn that doctor switch off. I hope you never need a shot again, but if so, well, I hope everything works out a lot better.

To answer your actual post, YES, I have met girls who are afraid of being tickle because of a truly torturous experience in the past, and they absolutely would not let me even playfully tickle her. Anytime any girl tells me they hate or are really afraid of tickling, I try to talk them through it, make them "overcome their fears" - so to speak. I was able to convince one; it took a lot of cajoling to get her to trust me. Call me weird, but I just think tickling should be enjoyed even by vanilla people. So if anyone has been traumatized by tickling, I feel bad for them, and wanna help (because if it works, I get to tickle them!).

Very possible that you are correct. I'll keep your advise in the back of my mind and never turn away a essential shot that I might need, BUT needless to say hopefully I don't have to have that type of experience ever again.. Great points on talking the "ticklephobic" out of their stupor. Tickling and being tickled is thereputic, playful, and deserves to be enjoyed by all. Not many free enjoyments left as it is.
Loving everyones points, and indeed I echo hiddenfruits sentiments that a willing lee, male or female should be well taken care of, even pampered for being blessed with ticklishness, and their generosity to share it. Sounds corny, but it wins everytime.. Thanks for everyones insight.

 

[No_Style]

my ler was deeply traumatized by tickling...it's a story not for me to say, but I felt bad that I'm the one with the fetish of something that hurt her at one point. She is much better with it however since I met her.

Somethings can be overcome...mind over matter...I hope you take ticklehounds comment into much consideration...valid points there!

 

[ticklingted]

My girl friend is super ticklish but she hates it!! Her mom used to tickle her or something. The only time i can tickle her for more than a couple seconds is if i really fight her of were having sex. I need to get her over it and eventually talk her into getting tied down. But im afraid i wont be able to date her too much longer because tickling is pretty damn important to my sex life. I really want someone who i can tickle all the time and can tickle me and knows what i want haha but i know thats asking a lot!

 

[Mane'o]

My girl friend is super ticklish but she hates it!! Her mom used to tickle her or something. The only time i can tickle her for more than a couple seconds is if i really fight her of were having sex. I need to get her over it and eventually talk her into getting tied down. But im afraid i wont be able to date her too much longer because tickling is pretty damn important to my sex life. I really want someone who i can tickle all the time and can tickle me and knows what i want haha but i know thats asking a lot!

Sounds time for both of you to move on. For you to feed your fetish. For her peace of mind. Nothing worse than being tickled when you hate it.

 

[-Hari-]

I'm get very freaked out when males try to tickle me, I wouldn't call it a phobia tho

 

[rhiannon]

Sounds time for both of you to move on. For you to feed your fetish. For her peace of mind. Nothing worse than being tickled when you hate it

Agreed. Sex will be miserable after a while if you do something you hate to make your partner happy.