Tickle Virgin Totally frustrated!

[ShyNVegas]

I keep reading about these NESTS or gatherings, but I really wish there was a bigger crowd in Las Vegas, and that there were such events here..

I've never really been tickled since I was a little kid, and I'm dying to experience it. Or even simply watch, at a gathering. But the thing is, I'm extremely nervous and shy about the whole thing. Every time I post on here, I keep getting private messages and emails from people that are local or live nearby (I guess there are at least a few) wanting to talk or meet up. Or, people that are coming to town on some vacation. I really wish I had the courage to do something like that, but I just don't. I feel like the only logical first step for me would be getting together in a really *large* group where there isn't so much pressure, and I'd be able to hang back and just observe until I felt comfortable enough to participate. But it seems like there just aren't any gatherings in Las Vegas. And I don't have the funds or time to travel, no- not even to California. *lol* Sorry..

I guess the point of this post is just to vent, more than anything. It sounds like so many of you have such a great time with your partners or at these gatherings. And all I can do is just imagine what it must be like. I would love to find out how ticklish I actually am, or how much I could take.

I just hope that someday, people will consider having a gathering in Vegas. It would literally be a dream come true. (Yep, sometimes I dream about getting tickled- *sigh*.) And Vegas is great! Who doesn't want to come to Las Vegas? 😉 This is the city of conventions- so when is there going to be a ticklers convention here?? 🙂

-Shy

 

[Butterfly wings]

Then why don't you start your OWN thread then in the Gathering section on this forum ShyNVegas and see if any local vegas people that are members and users on this huge forum want to work something out and plan things ahead. To get a tickling gathering in VEGAS going and get it up and running. Dream big dream big anything is possible don't let your dream die out. Once you do then you have just stopped trying all together.

Good Luck

 

[kirasao]

Word to That, My Brother In Crime!

Then why don't you start your OWN thread then in the Gathering section on this forum ShyNVegas and see if any local vegas people that are members and users on this huge forum want to work something out and plan things ahead. To get a tickling gathering in VEGAS going and get it up and running. Dream big dream big anything is possible don't let your dream die out. Once you do then you have just stopped trying all together.

Good Luck

I couldn't agree more, and as a matter of fact, I might be doing that soon myself!

 

[dtrell]

shynvegas, contact bellystrokes about the dungeon gathering nov. 13 in LA at passive arts. its only a couple hour drive from vegas, and youd feel totally comfortable...rumor is it that the queen herself, steph will be there...

 

[ShyNVegas]

Ah, thanks. But transportation is an issue for me. And I wouldn't want to go to my first gathering somewhere that wasn't local to me.

Thanks for your other suggestions, I might considering posting in gatherings. Except that wouldn't that imply that I'd be the one organizing it? I would rather play wall flower a bit, my first time! 😉 But yeah.. maybe it just takes some prodding to put the idea in someone's head that might like to take it over. We'll see. 🙂

 

[drew70]

I'll tell you what I think. Don't take it personally, but I have to be honest with you. I think you need to sit back and re-evaluate whether or not you're interested in the tickling scene at all. Why do I say that? Because you've got all these little convenient reasons for not pursuing it. You're too shy. There aren't any local gatherings. You don't want to travel, etc.

I'm here to tell you life is too short. Way too short. If you're thinking about entering the tickling scene, you've got to get past these self-imposed obstructions, and just go for it. Adopt an attitude that says, I'm going to make a huge effort to make it to a gathering and to get strapped down and tickled. It's possible you might not like it, but I think it's far more likely that you will love the shit out of it, and will wonder why you've put it off for so long.

You can always find reasons why you "can't" go. I say, screw those reasons and go anyway. Otherwise before you know it, half your adult life will have gone by and those reasons will still be there. Just do it. Take a chance and step out of your comfort zone. You won't be sorry. 🙂

 

[crydun]

Shyn

I know how you feel. I too have never been to a gathering. I too have transportation issues, money issues, etc.. etc... but I have made up my mind that once I get this nursing degree(pray everybody, pray!!) I WILL make it to a gathering. I will then have the finances and a way to get transportation. I'm determined. I'm coming..... it's just a matter of when.

 

[elfriend]

Ah, thanks. But transportation is an issue for me. And I wouldn't want to go to my first gathering somewhere that wasn't local to me.

Thanks for your other suggestions, I might considering posting in gatherings. Except that wouldn't that imply that I'd be the one organizing it? I would rather play wall flower a bit, my first time! 😉 But yeah.. maybe it just takes some prodding to put the idea in someone's head that might like to take it over. We'll see. 🙂

It sounds to me that your embarassed maybe and don't know how to handle this intrigue that you have into tickling. Just because you suggest a gathering doesn't mean you have to plan it though. Just get in contact with people in your area on TMF and put the idea out there.

 

[steph]

Cut it out you naughty one! 😉
XOXO

shynvegas, contact bellystrokes about the dungeon gathering nov. 13 in LA at passive arts. its only a couple hour drive from vegas, and youd feel totally comfortable...rumor is it that the queen herself, steph will be there...

 

[WorkInProgress]

If you want to work up to things at your own pace, what you might try doing, or putting somebody else up to doing if you have any local contracts you can trust, is the same thing I've been doing in New York City for the last few years. That is, organize a non-tickling social event. Reserve a table at a restaurant, and just get together and chat. If the Vegas scene is anything like the NYC scene, it will be the better sorts who show up. I can tell you that the New York munches have had a 100% perfection rate, in terms of it being the friendly, safe people who show up. It can lead to some networking for tickle play down the road, but there's no reason it has to, so you can feel safe and relaxed. And again, it's really easy to set up an evening for dinner and drinks at a casual spot, preferably with just the right optimal noise level, where you can all hear each other but the people at the next table can't hear you.

 

[dtrell]

Ah, thanks. But transportation is an issue for me. And I wouldn't want to go to my first gathering somewhere that wasn't local to me.

Thanks for your other suggestions, I might considering posting in gatherings. Except that wouldn't that imply that I'd be the one organizing it? I would rather play wall flower a bit, my first time! 😉 But yeah.. maybe it just takes some prodding to put the idea in someone's head that might like to take it over. We'll see. 🙂

drew is absolutely right. i dont understand the "transportation" issues..you dont own a car that can go more than 5 miles at a time? you have no money? if you have a job and a car that can reach 70 miles an hour, you can afford to drive to LA from vegas. too many people on here act like theyre so interested in being tickled or in tickling yet the excuses just keep on coming...
by the way, you dont say anywhere whether you are a male or female...i assume from the way you talk that you are a female...but if you are a male, disregard my recommendations...

 

[WorkInProgress]

I disagree with those posters who would challenge or second-guess the feelings of the original poster. I agree with suggesting ways that she could put her best foot forward and try out some new adventures, but I disagree with criticizing her for any of her hesitations or stated obstacles.

 

[dtrell]

where anywhere does it say that its a "she"?

 

[eisenbahn9]

Shy,

Maybe you need to "start small". You say you haven't really been tickled since you were a kid. What about your friends and co-workers? Have you ever tried initiating a playful tickle with them (like a quick a poke to the ribs after they make a smart-aleck comment) or invited a tickle by deliberately placing yourself in a physically vulnerable position, the kind that someone would find too tempting to pass up?

It would be a good way to "test" yourself and boost your self-confidence at the same time.

 

[Softstroke]

I must disagree with the ones who are accusing the origional poster of making excuses. Sure, it's easy to those of you who live in places like NY or LA to become part of the tickling community, but not all of us are that lucky. There are no gatherings or fellow ticklers/lees within at least 500 miles of where I live. I know because I've been trying to find them for months now with no luck at all.

Not all obstructions are self imposed. Some of us just live in the wrong area. Some of us are just outta luck.

 

[kirasao]

Word to That

I must disagree with the ones who are accusing the origional poster of making excuses. Sure, it's easy to those of you who live in places like NY or LA to become part of the tickling community, but not all of us are that lucky. There are no gatherings or fellow ticklers/lees within at least 500 miles of where I live. I know because I've been trying to find them for months now with no luck at all.

Not all obstructions are self imposed. Some of us just live in the wrong area. Some of us are just outta luck.

I know exactly how you feel, softstrokes. I'm in the same boat. I live in the buckle of the Bible Belt, good ol' Alabama. It hurts me to see all these fine country girls and not be able to tickle them. 🙁

 

[crydun]

I must disagree with the ones who are accusing the origional poster of making excuses. Sure, it's easy to those of you who live in places like NY or LA to become part of the tickling community, but not all of us are that lucky. There are no gatherings or fellow ticklers/lees within at least 500 miles of where I live. I know because I've been trying to find them for months now with no luck at all.

Not all obstructions are self imposed. Some of us just live in the wrong area. Some of us are just outta luck.

I couldn't have said it better myself Softstroke. Not only that but sometimes other things are in the way that the person doesn't mention on a public forum. For instance, I have disabilities, live with my mother and can't drive. It's more difficult than some may think. Thank God, for me, I have bunny and bear. otherwise, other than when Smiley came up here in 02, I would be tickle-deprived (You don't want crydun to be tickle-deprived.... )

The lesson here is get all the facts before judging.

Shynvegas, if you're female, you might want to contact falcon. He lives in Vegas and soooo needs tickle attention. If your male, he might could help you plan a local gathering.

Take care

 

[natural tickler]

I know how you feel. I too have never been to a gathering. I too have transportation issues, money issues, etc.. etc... but I have made up my mind that once I get this nursing degree(pray everybody, pray!!) I WILL make it to a gathering. I will then have the finances and a way to get transportation. I'm determined. I'm coming..... it's just a matter of when.

and I will be waiting.....

 

[ShyNVegas]

Wow, guys! I sure didn't mean to stir stuff up.. I'm really sorry. Thank you to all of you who have responded to me, even if it is critism. I'm trying to take everything thats been said constructively. Yes, I DO tend to keep making excuses.. but please understand, I'm very much in the closet with this. I'm just over 30 years old, and I only started admitting to my interest in tickling on this forum, since I found it. Its still something I'm struggling with. All my life I've kept it a big secret and I felt like I was a freak or something was wrong with me. I'm still coming to terms with even just *talking* about it, so its a tremendous step to cross the barrier from just talking, and finally acting on it some day. Getting to LA would be a real task for me. Driving would be out of the question- at best I would have to catch a Grayhound bus or something. I don't think I'm ready to invest myself so completely by taking a trip to attend a gathering.. not yet. Not when I haven't even experienced it firsthand yet. A gathering thats local to me, there's a much better possibilty. I was only hoping and speculating. I'm really sorry I got some of you so riled up.

And to answer the question posed before- yes, I'm female.

Again, please try to bear with me here. I've been mostly lurking on this community for a long time now, and the warmth and support you all tend to show each other is helping me a great deal with trying to relax with all of this, and not be so afraid. But after so many years of keeping it a secret, its just taking a little time.

 

[steph]

late to the party too!

LOL!
No apology necessary Shy...

I didn't enter the scene until late 30s...I read everyone's posts when I first got here and made a comment something to the extent of, "Well, I'm SURE there's no one in my crappy-ass conservative area..." Imagine my surprise when moderator Dave (dvnc) told me, "Au contraire..." Little did I know that some of NEST's biggest planners lived almost right in my backyard! I couldn't beleive my luck(thousands of miles from Philly and hundreds of miles from L.A.!) Best of all, they're GREAT folks~after awhile I began to meet others too!
I am now convinced the scene is findable wherever you are, but ya GOTTA MAKE SOME NOISE FRIENDS!
XOXO

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

Shy I do understand what you are saying and I think the best thing you should do, in my opinion, is for you or someone else to try and organize a tickle gathering in your area. That way, you don't have to worry about travel.

Just so you know, when I went to my first NEST this past May I felt somewhat like you in the sense that I was somewhat shy about being tickled in front of other people. Especially if it were in one of those tickle torture devices. But I have had some tickle dates with some guys in my area since then that I've met through TMF and from those experiences I know that I will be very comfortable being tickled in front of other people at the next NEST and those after.

Good luck to you!

 

[tommytikl]

I'm just over 30 years old, and I only started admitting to my interest in tickling on this forum, since I found it. Its still something I'm struggling with. All my life I've kept it a big secret and I felt like I was a freak or something was wrong with me. I'm still coming to terms with even just *talking* about it, so its a tremendous step to cross the barrier from just talking, and finally acting on it some day.

And to answer the question posed before- yes, I'm female.

Shy, just posting your feelings on this board is a good step in the right direction.
I too have pretty much kept my love of tickling a big secret, a few know but not many of my TRUE, DEEP NEED to tickle...and be tickled.
Althought, my interest in tickling started in my later teens doesn't mean it was any easier. When all the guys are talking about breasts and asses and I am thinking yeah but what about her ribs, or I wonder if the back of her knees are ticklish....
I think the fear of embarrasment or exposure can take a deep hold on people which is what makes people shy like you and me.

I too am a shy person, but man do I fight it to go to a NEST or gathering or to meet someone for the first time alone.
That first meeting is killer hard for me...but I know what I will get on the other side and that is motivation enough to get out there and put my shyness aside for the time being.

My first gathering I stood in the corner trying not to drool on Max's floor too much...it was just overwhelming that first gathering.
People were saying the "T" word out loud and thier tounge's didn't leap from their mouths...mine was deep in my throat!

Wow, this got longer than planned...my point is yes it can be quite scary to get out there and meet folks or go to a gathering but the rewards for getting out there are just amazing!

You want some real fun, stand in front of a mirror and say the word tickle out loud...several times use the words tickle and ticklish or phrases of, "I am sooo ticklish on my *Blank*"
That will get you to be able to say the word and be a *bit* more comfortable with it.

Good luck!
ShyNVegas

 

[lightninbug]

Dear Shy, you've got all the time in the world.

I must agree w/ the folks that are against the critisism...I too have the unfortunate luck Not To Live in NY or LA...I have a 20 yr. old car that talks back when I go over 55...I have a 4 legged friend that needs lots of attention right now...Money is a BIG Factor & ALL the $$$ I'd saved to go to Detroit Tickle Party Last Week ended up Going to the RED CROSS to help Dear Friend JoBelle & Others In Katrina's Wake.

Sometimes the cards that are dealt us REALLY SUCK...and they're OUR Cards to Play. Choices that are presented to us thus far make us feel that we'll NEVER attain the dream of Graduating school/ Going to a Gathering, etc.

Take Heart...You WILL get there if you really want to, but it won't be because other people / outside forces are dictating this action; IT WILL BE BECAUSE IT'S TIME TO DO SO...AND YOU'RE THE ONLY ONE THAT IS DEEP DOWN PRIVY TO THAT INFORMATION & TIMETABLE.

I wanted to go to a gathering back in 2000 & had the help of a Beautiful Friend by the name of JoBelle; Her friendship allowed me to Give Myself Permission to go if that makes any sense. All things in good time...when I went to my 1st gathering I was 47 ...you've got to be a little younger than that i'd Guess; you've got the time. Now I've been to 2 of the Southern Gatherings & just missed MTP by a canned Ham.You'll have a blast when you get there, once you decide it's your cup of tea.

When it is Not Necessary to make a Decision-
It is Necessary Not to Make a Decision.
Bug

 

[dtrell]

LOL!


crappy-ass conservative area..."
XOXO

hows that hon???

 

[dtrell]

Wow, guys! I sure didn't mean to stir stuff up.. I'm really sorry. Thank you to all of you who have responded to me, even if it is critism. I'm trying to take everything thats been said constructively.

OH MY GOD...what an extremely EXTREMELY REFRESHING attitude from someone on here. Shynvegas, i have much more respect for you now. Cant say that about some members/mods here. Keep up the good work and that positive attitude, use BOTH the fluffy posts AND the critical posts to your advantage, and you will get to live out your fantasy soon enough.