Tickling and Sex (please help!)

[Vepik]

Where do I begin.

I'm 19 years old and have a girlfriend of 7 months who is somewhat flexible, as in she is totally aware of my fetish and allows me "playtime" where I can tickle her feet. However, our sex life is practically non existent. Maybe the foreplay isn't long enough or what? I am hard during the foreplay, but then she wants to start kissing afterwards, and I lose it really quick.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, ultimately, tickling a woman's feet makes me hard. So to anyone else who shares this kink, how do you go about having great sex? Because she's very frusterated (to say the least). Does anyone have any answers? I'm just looking for feedback from anyone who shares this.

Thanks so much in advance,
-Vepik

 

[Novus]

Eat her laughter

Tickle her and kiss her at the same time. You will feel her laughing into your mouth and you will both be happy.

 

[Myriads]

Vepik,

First, welcome to the forum, glad that you have joined.

To answer your question I need to ask a question.

Does any aspect of regular sex (no tickling involved at all) arouse you?

Myriads

 

[Angelo]

i've had the same prob

i've had the same problem man..so u've got company..i found that i fantisized about tickling too much..and didn't fantasize about sex enough.so when game time rolled around i wasn't phsyched for the game..i remedied this problem by fantasizing about sex more and tickling less.try it out man and i hope it works😀...............this is my first post...so yeah for me!!

 

[sole seeker]

Vepik,You are not alone. I too have had the same problem once or twice.

For me, tickling is a big part of my basic sexuality. During periods when I have a lot of stress in my life and sex is not high on my list of priorities, I need tickling during sex to keep other problems from intruding on my thoughts. Keeps my attention focused on the issue at hand, so to speak.

Angelo, I appreciate your suggestion, and I intend to try it out. You need to speak out more often.

 

[dvnc]

Myriads asks the salient question - Does any aspect of regular sex (no tickling involved at all) arouse you? I leave it to you to answer this for yourself, and discuss with him.

From my own observations, with someone who's NOT into this, tickling will distract 'em from sex UNLESS you're goin' out of your way to make SURE they're turned on. This means more than a kind word and a passionate kiss. This means finding out what turns THEM on. You then can either do this WHILE tickling, if that suits them, or "trade", where you do for them what you both know they want, in exchange for them doing for you what you both know you want.

That can be a tough one at 19, though, brother.

I found women that would reciprocate at your age, but not many. Then again, how many more than one do ya need, right?

I'm married to one of us, now. She's as into this as I am, and it's all good. Finding one of us makes this a LOT easier, but it IS possible to live a long, happy live with someone that ain't into this, providing you exchange favors with them. Makes sure your lady knows you're doin' for her at least as much as she is for you.

Worked for me, anyway. 😉 There's many of us, here on the TMF, who married folks into this. There's many here who married vanilla lovers and found a happy medium. It's all about the love, brother. Love brings about exchange, in the right circumstances. Where it don't, well, it's time to look for where it will, make sure that this is a safe and sane place, and stay wit' THAT lady.

Huh? Oh, I already had one that wasn't so safe or sane. A few, actually. Too acceptant isn't good, either. Exchange, look out for your own health and well bein', and it's all good (so far).

My $0.02,

dvnc